why do so many people flounce then come back?

[whathashappenedhere]

Is it a new thing to mumsnet? It seems some mumsnetters are taking offense very easily, swearing they'll never return, get lots of sympathy and carry on posting anyway?

Hear hear re: hiding behind pseudonyms. Well said leglebegle.

i am just saying that the best arguments alway seem to be lost when things like that are said, wasnt saying i agreed or disagreed with the pov expressed. Am switzerland, and being a mod have a duty to remind folks of mn philosophy of not resorting to personal abuse

definitely a vote for the handbag emoticon, that would diffuse a lot of nasty situations I think

i think some times, we just feel we need a break or we've had enough for a while and at the time..we think..'thats it', but i dont think theres anything wrong with someone starting a thread saying their going..you wouldnt just get up and walk out of a room full of friends with no goodbye, so that also doesnt happen here..there are many people we all talk to and would like to let know we wont be on for a while..but thats just my opinion

and on the other hand...when your feeling down, you do need to feel wanted, so i dont think theres any harm in someone'asking' for that in here by doing this. if it makes someone feel good about themselves, then im all for itwouldnt like to see anyone upset for no reason.

Or a Switzerland one...

I know what you are saying lou33 and usually would agree with you 100%. Just being hypocritical on this one because I feel really strongly for leglebegle on this one and felt that her language was appropriate as it seemed to come stright from the heart and so honestly expressed. I actually thought there was a certain kind of succinct eloquence in her post

Flouncing has always happened for as long as I have been on mumsnet.

I am sure I have not done it, but I do have a friend who posts who flounces on a regular basis (and if you read this you know know your are

Well, I don't like it. I once had quite a "heated debate" with someone on a thread (can't remember what it was about, but ages ago). All of a sudden I became aware that this person had started another thread, a flounce thread I suppose, saying how she was really upset and thinking of leaving MN etc. I thought that was quite childish actually. I think if you don't like a thread or don't want to discuss something, then stay away from the thread. There are so many threads here. What often happens is that people give as good they get on a thread, then suddenly steps back and writes a flouce or sympathy thread.I think that is such a girlie thing to do. I won't mention names and I am not commenting on individual posters, but there are some quite needy people on here. It's an internet forum!

I didn't actually notice what you said in your post, leaglebeagle, because I only noticed all the swearing.

Then again, I suppose I can just stay away from the flounce threads which I normally do!

Definitely not a new thing! I've flounced once or twice about 2 yrs ago! Learned my lesson and don't bother any more.

not a new thing at all. been here 4 years and it happens from time to time - who cares, it's up to them surely.

whathashappenedhere..I actually think it is because Mners, believe it or not are human beings..and we all get upset and emotional or take offence at something at some time or another... and because we can't always tell how things are meant, because it's written text (even with emoticons)...

And they come back because, well.. we calm down.. get over things don't we! If something gives you the hump at home, you don't stay angry/sulk forever!

The good thing about this site is that it has been given a nickname - 'flouncing' - and everybody - well most people - laugh sympathetically about it.. because we have either done it.. or felt like doing it..and then we all move on!

Haven't read the other responses so may be in the minority here.. but it seems to me as if you are being a bit provocative and judgemental asking a question like. None of us are perfect. Feel free to flounce now if you want...

SJ x

True, who cares. But to me it's like that person in an argument who starts crying first. Makes the other person feel bad. I don't like the "you have made me feel sooooo bad, I have cried all day and my life was so miserable and now you have made me even more miserable". Couldn't help but comment as I was myself a "victim" of a "look, FairyMum has upset me. Bu-hu thread!.

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Have just read whole thread now..and have to say I agree with the sentiments of leglebegle and sobernow... so much more elqoquent and to the point that me! [grin}

whathashappenedhere does not like flouncers.. well some of us don't like to see provovative threads designed to make people who were already feeling bad, feel worse

Could we ask Tech for a special section where all the huffy, flouncy, bitchy threads get moved so I can find them easily? We could also put politics somewhere separately as just reading the titles makes me want to vom!
Right, I'm off now....

ffs!

I think it is part of the MN initiation process to have a flounce. (I am now a fully paid-up member... )

Davros - an email alert system would work better, methinks. That way you'd be able to check what you want (eg no breastfeeding threads, yes to immunisation threads, yes to meta-discussions, etc).

every time I see the word I think of hideous net curtains!

Hi All

Just thought we needed to explain why we've deleted Leglebeagle's post. We feel she made some very valid points particularly about noone knowing what kind of day other folks have had/ what's going on in their lives etc and we are certainly sympathetic to folks posting after a tough day and/or saying things in the heat of the moment - I think we can all relate to that! However the post contained seriously abusive language and this is one of the (very few) things we don't tolerate on Talk.

Hope everyone understands

Carrie, could you not just delete the expletives and leave the rest of the post? She made some very valid points.

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