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Reports of Zombie's demise...

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IamtheZombie · 30/09/2013 16:56

have been greatly exaggerated. She may be a wee bit battered and bruised, but she bends and doesn't break.

Most of you probably know her back story but, for those who don't, here's a very brief recap:

The last 2 1/2 years have been absolutely horrendous: family crises, a breast cancer diagnosis and 20 months of treatment for that, bereavements and sorting out her late MIL's estate. As you can imagine, she found it a struggle at times.

Just under a year ago, DZOH began an "inappropriate" on-line relationship with a woman he "met" playing scrabble on Facebook. At the time he was spending most of his time at his mum's house in Nottingham sorting things out and putting it on the market. The on-line relationship fairly quickly progressed to a full blown physical affair. The woman lives in Wales and he would pay her train fare to come to Nottingham to see him. Zombie was fully aware of everything that was going on and tried to do everything she could to save her marriage. He left Zombie in mid-February, first staying in Nottingham before moving in with her in mid-March. He continued to come back to DDS to take Zombie to her hospital treatments. In mid-May he started making reference to coming back to her. He finally did so in mid-August. Two weeks after he came back they went to Kos for a fortnight. Halfway through the holiday he told her that he was leaving as soon as they returned to the UK. Which he duly did on Friday, 13th September.

Zombie went through all the trauma, drama and devastation between October and August. That is behind her. She's relieved that that it is finally over. A few nights ago she realised that she was sitting here completely relaxed and smiling for no reason. It's as though an enormous weight has been lifted from her.

She's currently packing up his belongings, deciding what she needs to replace, etc. He will come with a man and a van in a few weeks time to remove everything. There are obviously other pracicalities to be sorted out but they are doing so in as amicable a manner as possible.

Can Zombie please ask those of you who are Facebook friends with her NOT to say anything publicly on there about any of this.

Onwards and upwards. Wink

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IamtheZombie · 23/12/2013 00:44

Zombie will be visiting Brum in the new year to meet soleil, Bewitched.

FairyTiggybelle, Zombie's first demise was outwith MN. She arrived on MN as a fully fledged Zombie.

Quite right, Bewitched. Halves don't count.

Xmas Grin
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sanssoleil · 23/12/2013 01:01

Hey guys!

The rise and rise......

Guess who my MP is?

Obviously don't get us deleted,derailed or demised Grin[kittens]

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 23/12/2013 01:05

Does it begin with G ?

sanssoleil · 23/12/2013 01:12

no not the lovely Gisela

Maybe you have not been on all the 'locked' threads tonight?

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 23/12/2013 01:15

Didn't mean her, had a him in mind.

Haven't been on any threads tonight. Out for lunch, got home at 8pm Grin

Does he share a surname with a talking head?

sanssoleil · 23/12/2013 01:27

No not Liam

MNshitstorm drama

I thought I saw you pop up

Rhymes with bloke who 'discovered' penicillin

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 23/12/2013 01:34

OK never mind name, what's he done?

MN shitstorm drama?

Spill, quick, close to edge of perch here Grin

sanssoleil · 23/12/2013 01:38

He will out me and I will get deleted and santa won't comeSad

IamtheZombie · 23/12/2013 01:46

JH

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sanssoleil · 23/12/2013 01:56

hope you are warm Zombie I am freezing

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 23/12/2013 01:57
Wink

bloody lunch parties!

sanssoleil · 23/12/2013 02:04

Did you eat caviar out of ice-sculpted swans?

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 23/12/2013 02:09

No!

Flinking TURKEY!

Night lovelies x

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 23/12/2013 21:53

I wouldn't sully this lovely thread with reference to some of that grubby behaviour.

But I would, in the spirit of this thread, say how impressive, knowledgeable and tenacious some of our fellow mners are.

Absolutely wonderful, inspiring women, who are just a recent example of the shining determination to do the right thing that happens here all the time.

And, today, I think we found the dress Grin

Hope you're not really freezing sol, or was that euphemism?

sanssoleil · 23/12/2013 22:02

I think Carpe Vinum,Spero etc have been amazing -JH I is notoriously litigious

Never underestimate the skills of MNettersGrin

Please disclose dress-I need to accessorise you

I was actually freezing and had two hot water bottles

Have managed to wrap presents in the last hour

Oh just realised you meant Bride dress-how lovely

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 23/12/2013 23:40

I really hope you're feeling better sol and mainly warmer. Doesn't the new onsie help Grin

Haven't wrapped a single present yet! And have two major ones to buy tomorrow. I've had ooh I don't know what I want I don't need anything don't worry don't get me anything , for three weeks, and now, ooh actually I'd really like a pair of those and that idea you had would be great
Shock

Yes, bride's dress, in the first shop, amazing.

sanssoleil · 24/12/2013 00:08

tbf your daughter is beautiful and would look amazing in a plakky bag

I caved in and gave onsie to DD2Sad

I had to go to a hospital appt. today and the traffic was horrific so good luck tomorrow

Must be hormonal as I keep weeping when I hear children singing carols

Have rebelled and doing monkfish in a saffron sauce/jus/drizzzle for xmas

What are you others doing?

IamtheZombie · 24/12/2013 01:51

Evening / morning all.

Bewitched, can you link to a pic of the dress??

soleil, you are so right about Carpe, Spero et al. I was chatting with Spero earlier this evening on FB. She is one amazing woman.

Zombie received a Christmas card today from a friend she'd not heard from in 7 or 8 years. The message said "It is disgraceful how long I have been out of touch, but I was glad to learn that you are still in Xxxxxxx. I do hope you're well, and that life is treating you well. We are in the same place, and much the same, except that the children are MUCH larger..."

Zombie is absolutely delighted to have heard from this friend but has no idea how he could have learned that I am still in Xxxxxxx. She will reply by snail mail but how the heck does she condense what has happened to her over the last 7 - 8 years?

Zombie is going to her in-laws (late DH's sister and her family) tomorrow and will return home on Boxing Day. She's really looking forward to it.

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Fiderer · 24/12/2013 08:36

Merry Christmas Eve Xmas Grin

I want to eat caviar out of ice-sculpted swans, like something out of Brideshead Revisited. And wear silk dresses, hats and have a cocktail hour.

Meanwhile, back in the real world, am a bit apprehensive about FidBoy2 going with his brother & sister to his gps with his dad, first time in 2 years he's done more than exchange a hello with his dad and even seen the gps.

I hope he doesn't pull out at the last minute as he's often done, it would cause a lot of upset, for him as well. But he did say he'd talked to the school counsellor about it (she is absolutely wonderful) and it would be a "shitty thing to do" in his words.

It's been on his mind though. Lovely boy that he is, he's been at a friend's house 4 of the last 5 nights, as the boy's father is dying of cancer and he's been supporting/distracting the friend.

He's just come home as the family have gone to the hospital and is cooking himself Chinese spicy noodles for breakfast. Very festive Xmas Grin

sanssoleil · 24/12/2013 19:47

Fid are you going to be alone tomorrow?-hope you will be ok with a good book/filmWine

I remember watching Brideshead when it was serialised for TV-one of the girls in my Halls of Residence was a cousin of Jeremy Irons

I was obsessed with J-K Huysmans Au Rebours when I was a teen and remember the decadent feast of all-black foodGrin

Zombie hope your day is lovely and the journey isn't too difficult-I have some excellent goat cheese and am trying not to burn the house down making focaccia

BBB hope you are to busy with prepping the cruditees to insult/berate and generally wind me upGrinWine[olive branch]

PEACE AND LOVE A TUTTI

Fiderer · 24/12/2013 20:27

Thanks for the concern sans - the children are back tomorrow lunchtime so we have Christmas more or less together and we fly to England on Friday. Can't wait.

FidBoy2 has messaged me that's he's fine. And loves his presents (shall never tell him of the behind-the-scenes wrangling to ensure his dad got him something he'd like)

Peace and love all around [fwine]

Fiderer · 24/12/2013 20:28

Oh, no festive wine?

Wine
sanssoleil · 24/12/2013 20:38

Eff wine backtcha FidGrin

Glad kids are OK

Still feels strange to do Christmas on 25th and not on the eve

Many blended-family issues here tooGrin

Fiderer · 24/12/2013 20:42

I think I'm all over the place what with German/English/here/there. I have wine, candles, Harrison Ford is getting his chest out on BBC3 and so I'm fine Xmas Grin

sanssoleil · 24/12/2013 20:53

I am languaged-out too

I feel I am talking in a bad translation and getting all singing-ringing tree with stress

Get back to your Harrison and blow candles out before you go to bed!