Missed miscarriage at 12 weeks

[coxy3005]

Hi everyone,

This is my first ever time doing this, I've been reading everyones stories over the last couple of weeks and have really gained some comfort and now feel about ready to share my story. I was coming up for my 12week dating scan, I reached 11 weeks and after the midwife booking in appt got really excited and we started to tell family and friend, we said that we would wait as we previously had m/c at 8 weeks 7 months previously but felt that we were now reaching the 'safe' time so started to tell people. The day before my scan I started some brownish spotting, I knew that something was wrong and was so scared it was happening again! The next morning we had the dating scan and worst fears confirmed, no heartbeat and only measured about 9 weeks 2 days. I decided to go for natural and not d&c as I had natural before and it wasn't too bad apart from the emotional side it was really just like having a really bad period. This time was totally different, pain like really bad contractions lots of clots and bright red blood. One night the bleeding was so bad I had to go to a&e as it was coming out like someone had turned a tap on and it wouldn't stop!! Was so scary. Everything turned out ok and was sent home after a few hours of observation to carry on with natural m/c. I had my follow up scan which was exactly 2 weeks after the first scan and it looks like everything has come away. To top it all off it was my birthday yesterday and none of my so called friends contacted me, I don't think I'm coping very well, my DH has been my rock but I don't have anyone to talk to about it that understands my freinds don't know what to say to me so therefore don't say anything which wouldn't normally bother me but at the moment feel a bit of an emotional reck!!

Anyway, hope my story may in someway help someone else.

Coxy x

It took about 6 - 8 weeks for me time for me to get period back the first time I had a MC. My cycle is weird and irregular though anyway.

The second time it took...er...about 2 years..! Since I did not wait to get pregnant and then had my lovely DS, and then was breastfeeding.

I think the waiting 2-3 cycles thing is unnecessary. Only issue if you don't wait is that you might not realise you're pregnant since you won't be back in your normal cycle yet.

Hi girls

how is everyone on this thread?

I hope everyone is getting better both mentally and physically.

I cant beleive its been a month already since my misfortune. I cant beleive time has flown so quickly.

has it been like that for others?

And for the girls who have been through this recently- - time will go and heal.

have a good weekend people. The sun is shining.

Starkadder

its been about 4 weeks since my miscarraige- am i being optimistic that i am expecting a period??

My cycle is not iregular but varies in the days- - 31.32.32 etc

I want to wait but i am getting inpatient- - and we have er had some "accidents" were we didnt exactly use any protection - i just thought well if it happens it happens- - but i dont even know if im ovulating or not??

What to do?? im scared it will not come back.

Polar bear- how are you feeling now?? things getting back to normal?

temm09? you? you ok ??

Hey there Jules - good to hear from you.

Finally stopped bleeding the other day - small cheer from me when this happened. Now over 5 weeks since it all happened, seems like a blur sometimes and horribly clear at other times.

Must admit not planning to wait for AF before TTC, bit like you if it happens then great if not then at least I'll know my dates

Fingers crossed all goes well for you this time and I don't think you are being too optimistic to expect a period.

Hope everyone else is doing well and as Jules said enjoy the sunshine!