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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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quickly please - I think I'm miscarryiing. do i need to do anything?

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oranges · 29/12/2008 15:49

I'm at work so please don't be too kind and make me cry but I'm only about 6-7 weeks and tested positive a week ago and today saw blood and am pretty sure i'm losing the baby - last time i had a miscarriage i was abroad and had a d&v but don't hink i need one this time as it is so early. do i actually need to do anything, or just wait it out?

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cocolepew · 29/12/2008 15:51

Go home, if you feel the need phone a Dr. I had 2 m/c's at 6-7 weeks and I just rested at home.

Sending you love x

AttillaTheSaHanTa · 29/12/2008 15:52

Oh oranges. Do what Coco says and go home and rest. I hope for your sake it isnt a mc. Look after yourself.

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 29/12/2008 15:54

I am so sorry honey. My sister miscarried at this stage and was told there was nothing that can be done. Go home and rest and see your gp in the morning.

On the brighter side though lots of people have bleeds early in pregnancy and go on to have healthy pregnancy's so try not to upset yourself.

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oranges · 29/12/2008 15:54

I just can't go home - i'm on xmas cover and no one else is here. I'm've just moved house and had adeath in the family and it's been so stressful I had a feeling this one would not mkae it. i'm just wondering if i do have to make a doctors appointment? I'm between gps because of the house move so would propbably have to go private anyway.

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thisisyesterday · 29/12/2008 15:56

oranges you CAN go home. if you'd fallen over and broken your leg you'd have to leave wouldn't you?
obvikously it all depends on you and how you feel, but there is no reason why you shouldn't go home.
honestly.

i had a mc at about 6/7 weeks and didn;t do anything, but you can go to your local EPU and they will scan you in a few days to make sure everything has passed, if you want to

AttillaTheHan · 29/12/2008 15:57

Is there not an emergency gp on call system in your new area? Or would it be worth phoning a local gp surgery to get advice? I'm sure if you explain they will be sympathetic.
If you can't go home at least try and take 10 minutes out to sit quietly or get a cuppa. Sending my best thoughts to you. Please take care.

SheSellsSeashellsByTheSeashore · 29/12/2008 16:04

No you don't have to see a doctor. Just test again in a week or so if you want to. My sister saw one to arrange a scan to make sure everything had gone but that's not essential. If you do want one though I'm sure your local hospital would give you one without a referal if you explain to them what's happened.

Also you can go home if you want to.

cocolepew · 29/12/2008 16:05

My local A & E gave me a scan.

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oranges · 29/12/2008 16:22

i just called a local surgery who were lovely and told me to come in tomorrow morning. i'll stay at work - i've taken time off recently for the bereavement and house move and i can just sit here in front of the computer with a cup of tea, which is fine.
god this is a grim time. at least this time i have a lovely ds - last time i was terrified i'd never have children.

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AttillaTheHan · 29/12/2008 16:22

Are you okay Oranges?

AttillaTheHan · 29/12/2008 16:24

Oh crossposts.
Glad you rang GP.At least you know that you can see someone tomorrow. I can imagine its really hard for you but you are right to look on the bright side and count your blessings. Sorry for the cliches...

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oranges · 29/12/2008 16:27

cliches exist for a reason - I'm glad i resisted the urge to tell anyone over xmas. it sounds weird, but it didn't feel like the right time to fall pregnant. i was too stressed by other things, and didn't feel like it was a lovely secret i could hug to myself, either.

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WalkinginWaynettaWonderland · 29/12/2008 16:28

AttillaTheHan · 29/12/2008 16:30

I really feel for you. It sounds like you have a lot going on for you at the moment. Although you also sound quite pragmatic about it all it must still be very upsetting. Keep looking after yourself. Is your dp/dh/ family supportive?

theladysnowlush · 29/12/2008 16:36

Sorry to hear you are going through this Hope you get some support at the G.P tomorrow. I think what you do next depends on how things go. From personal experience I don't seem to have complete m/c and either need intervention - or it takes weeks to happen.

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oranges · 29/12/2008 16:39

dh is very supportive - he's the only one who knew about the pregnancy, although he did no in toa slightly uncharacteristic rant when i told him about the bleeding, about how i havent been taking care of myself and havent been eating enough fruit and veg. i think he was trying to help but it came out as if he was blaming me.
the rest of the family have been really good about things, but this sin't something they can help with really.

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AttillaTheHan · 29/12/2008 16:42

It sounds like he was trying to show that he wanted you to look after yourself out of concern and not that he was blaming you. tbh I think it is always difficult for dh's in this situation as they are obviously concerned but also feel incredibly helpless.

ScummyMummy · 29/12/2008 16:47

I'm sorry to read this. Hope dh and GP give you lots of support.

AttillaTheHan · 29/12/2008 16:50

I hope you have as comfortable an evening as possible and a useful appointment with gp tomorrow. I have to go (as I'm at work too) but please take care and I'll keep an eye on this thread to see how you are tomorrow.

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oranges · 29/12/2008 16:53

i know. he's been very supportive otherwise .

i did think this one did not feel right somehow and i did get too run down but an uncle dropped down dead of a heart attack in front of me and ds three weeks ago. there seemed no way to not be at least slightly affected.

thanks for sitting with me on this one.

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SimpleAsABC · 29/12/2008 16:56

hope you're ok oranges. i'm a bit of a lurker but just wanted you to know there are lots of us hanging around with you in our thoughts.

mellyonion · 29/12/2008 16:59

thinking of you oranges. x

Haribolicious · 29/12/2008 17:03

oranges - just read this....hope you're ok...take it easy x

theladysnowlush · 29/12/2008 17:10

Oranges, I think in this situation one becomes hyper-sensitive and is inclined to feel guilty (even though it is sooooo unlikley to be caused by anything you have/haven't done) hence there is a tendency to read too much into things other people say. H probably doesn't know what to say/do for the best.

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oranges · 29/12/2008 17:27

i know. i feel relieved now somehow. is that dreadful of me? It just didn't feel like the right time to be pregnant. Dh just gone to waitrose and spent a fortune on nice food, so i can start the whole taking care of myself process for the new year.

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