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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

quickly please - I think I'm miscarryiing. do i need to do anything?

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oranges · 29/12/2008 15:49

I'm at work so please don't be too kind and make me cry but I'm only about 6-7 weeks and tested positive a week ago and today saw blood and am pretty sure i'm losing the baby - last time i had a miscarriage i was abroad and had a d&v but don't hink i need one this time as it is so early. do i actually need to do anything, or just wait it out?

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coyotie · 07/01/2009 23:47

I'm sorry oranges i read your messages, i guess you and i went through the same thing i dint have to go through D&C, everything came out of me. Oh well!! we have to try again, I'm pretty sure were still young, we can try again, and have a good positive thinkin and take care of our selves with the next pregnancy GOOD LUCK ORANGES!!!!!!

coyotie · 07/01/2009 23:40

How are you oranges? i hope everything went well, i was scared also when i was bleeding, through out my early pregnancy, i was like you, wondering if i should wait,I was told verbally things about early stages of bleeding, at that moment, i waited to see if my baby will grow, bleeding was like my regular period through out Christmas, and news year eve was the moment, i lost my baby was 7 weeks pregnant. This was my symptoms that i remembered when i had a MC with one already. So i hope everything is fine with you

gnatbite · 07/01/2009 20:22

Oranges, so sorry to hear your news. I hope that you are having a rest and looking after yourself

Fozzie78 · 05/01/2009 21:00

So sorry for your loss oranges xxx

kookykid · 05/01/2009 19:31

So sorry oranges . Have been thinking about you.

At least there's no need for any intrusive procedures. Hope you get the rest you need.

oranges · 05/01/2009 18:14

I had the scan today and as I suspected, its over. THe womb was clear, so one good thing is that there is no need for a d&c. Feel quite exhausted now, but I think I should be okay witha night's sleep. Thank you for your support on here.

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theladysnowlush · 03/01/2009 11:42

Oranges, when you have your scan on Monday you will hopefully have a better idea of your hcg levels and how long it will be before it's over - then you can get an idea of how much time you need off. I had dwindling hcg levels that took 3 weeks to drop to zero (bled for 3 weeks), I took 2 weeks off. This time I had a d&c and had bleeding for 4 weeks after the op, but only took 2 days off because it was manageable and I wanted to get back to normal life. You should do what feels right for you. Take care x

LobstersLass · 02/01/2009 23:35

Oranges, I would advise you to take at least a week off. I ploughed on with work thinking it would take my mind off things. It did for a while, and then four months later I was a wreck. It's eight months later now and I still have weepy moments. I only got around to telling my boss today!

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

kookykid · 02/01/2009 19:53

If you feel like that - sorry.

kookykid · 02/01/2009 19:52

If you feel like I don't blame you for not wanting to go to A&E. When this happened to me recently when I was 5 weeks pg I saw my GP who told me to do a test a week after the bleeding had started to make sure the pregnancy was definitely over. I did and the test was negative. If it had been positive they would then have sent me for a scan.

GP also told me to take a couple of days off, which I did - I just curled up and let myself be sad (I have a 21 month old DD who I sent to the child-minder as usual - I really needed time alone.)

Not sure whether that helps, but sometimes it helps to hear about other people's stories. Really feeling for you.

oranges · 02/01/2009 18:35

I just can't bear the thought of hanging round a&e and being seen by an overworked, unsympathetic doctor ( ilive in London so that is what will happen). The bleeding is like a heavy period and not that painful. I do keep worrying though that it will turn heavy. just how much time should i take off work? my boss has been really wonderful and told me to take what time i need but i have no idea what that might be really.

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kookykid · 02/01/2009 18:24

So sorry for you, oranges.

Take the time you need and allow yourslef to feel sad.

dreamydowler · 02/01/2009 18:16

Im so sorry you are going through such a bad time oranges. You need to be kind to yourself and your body and take some time out to recover. I do feel it is vital for a scan having had two miscarriages myself the scan after the first home managed one showed not everything had passed and I needed a dandc The second became extremely painful and almost heomoraged which happened very quickly I dont mean to scare you but you will be better off at home until you know all the bleeding has stopped. Dont struggle with pain or excessive bleeding until Monday I went straight to A and E
On a more positive note I went on to have two more pregnancies
I wish you well Please please look after yourself

theladysnowlush · 02/01/2009 18:04

Yes ikwym. Having a dc does ground you when your having a m/c but also you feel sad that they are losing out on a sibling. Also having your lovely ds on your lap makes what you are losing seem more real. Take some time to grieve and try again when you feel ready xx

oranges · 02/01/2009 13:35

the wait for the scan feels interminable now. i'm still bleeding with a few clots coming out now - i'm pretty sure it will all be over by monday. feels like a very lonely time, even with a lovely ds on my lap.

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theladysnowlush · 31/12/2008 17:59

I mean dh

theladysnowlush · 31/12/2008 17:59

Feel for you, what with it being NYE Hope you and dp can comfort each other.

oranges · 31/12/2008 17:52

thank you i think i'll wait for the scan - a pregnancy test won't really give me any clear idea of what is happening and I can't really face going out to buy one. happy new year to everyone.

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theladysnowlush · 31/12/2008 17:36

Oranges, v glad your manager was sympathetic. Takes the pressure off doesn't it. Glad you are feeling better today. Seems as though you are getting good support from the family By the way, re earlier suggestion of trying a hpt - it depends on how efficient your body expels a failed pf. Mine doesn't and I have had a positive hpt almost 4 weeks after an ERPC.

oranges · 31/12/2008 16:20

thank you. I am MUCH better today - took the day off work - my line manager could not have been more sympathetic and told me to take what time I need. I also told my mum, and my lovely mil, whi came round for the morning and made me tea and settled me down. I'm glad I told a few people - it made the whole issue shrink to manegeable sizes and I don't feel so scared now. I think I was going slightly mad trying to pretend nothing was wrong. Still bleeding 0 its a bit like a period. if i had never tested, i would simply have assumed my cycle was late.

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Myrrhcy · 31/12/2008 13:25

How are you today?

Comma2 · 31/12/2008 00:00

I had no pain so I hope the same for you. and I told everyone I felt liek telling. Why not. It was actually somebody else telling me a year earlier that they miscarried that helped me the most.

liahgen · 30/12/2008 22:48

maybe a good quality home test would give you an answer.

at 6-7weeks woiuld the hcg level drop fairly quickly enough for a hpt to show up neg.

I was 4-5wks, and tested couple days after blleding and was neg with a digital.

Look after yourself. x

theladysnowlush · 30/12/2008 22:45

I am also shocked that EPU is closed. It's agony having to wait that long for a conclusive answer
Don't feel guilty for feeling secretly relieved - nothing wrong with that at all. It makes sense to prepare your body as best as you can for the next pregnancy.
Wrt bleeding - I've had 4 m/c and have 1 ds. Have bled in each pg but to varying degrees. For me bleeding would not necessarily = m/c. IKWYM about internal scans. They are horrible. For me though, I rely on them a lot because it enables me to know early on whether the pg is viable or not. I've got to 13 weeks before thinking the pregnancy going well only to find the embryo died at 8.5 weeks.
Anyway, I'm glad you're off Thursday (so are most of the population!) but maybe you should think about taking more time off? Pregnancy related sickness is not treated in the same way as usual sickness - in terms of your sick record I mean. Take care and am glad you are being well looked after

Myrrhcy · 30/12/2008 22:41

Never mind if other people are upset, they will deal with their own emotions and will hopefully help and support you.

If you have a reasonable relationship with your mum then I would tell her. Ditto any other family or friends. I'd def. tell your manager just for practical reasons if nothing else

I told virtually no-one - not a good idea in hindsight.

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