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quickly please - I think I'm miscarryiing. do i need to do anything?

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oranges · 29/12/2008 15:49

I'm at work so please don't be too kind and make me cry but I'm only about 6-7 weeks and tested positive a week ago and today saw blood and am pretty sure i'm losing the baby - last time i had a miscarriage i was abroad and had a d&v but don't hink i need one this time as it is so early. do i actually need to do anything, or just wait it out?

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NAB3lovelychildren · 29/12/2008 17:29

No words.

So sorry.

ComeWhineWithMe · 29/12/2008 17:31

Its not selfish at all to feel relieved ,I felt the same way I had two early MC's and from the second I found out it just didn't feel right .
I almost expected to mc TBH .

Hope you are ok and manage to relax later .

Myrrhcy · 29/12/2008 17:36

Oranges, how are you?

Any other signs apart from bleeding?

If you do get referred for a scan let us know, there are one or 2 things you may need to be forewarned about (well, let us know how you are regardless obviously!)

Thinking of you.

XmasPud · 29/12/2008 17:39

Your DH sounds lovely, oranges
Take care of yourself and just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you xx

oxocube · 29/12/2008 17:42

Oranges, I have had bleeding with all my pregnancies. 2 ended in miscarriage and 3 went on to be fine and I have 3 healthy dc as a result. Sending you much love and hope you find peace, whatever the outcome.

oxo

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oranges · 29/12/2008 17:53

thank you. do forewarn me now, please. I've miscarried before - had the whole thing of two scans, no growth between them and a d&v. I made a huge fuss at the time, and now, looking back, am a bit embarrased as its such a common thing and so many people go through it.

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Myrrhcy · 29/12/2008 18:14

Ok, you may already know if you've miscarried before that you may be given an internal scan (I wasn't told what to expect and found the whole process invasive)

I miscarried at 6/7 weeks too, with almost no signs other than a bit of bleeding and a slight stomach cramp.

Must go for a sec, brb

oxocube · 29/12/2008 18:16

Oranges, it doesn't matter how common miscarriage is - it still hurts. Please don't be embarrassed by your feelings. I remember howling after my second miscarriage and railing at the world and its unfairness. Hope things may still turn out well for you but if not, please allow yourself to grieve, even if the time for another baby wasn't quite right.

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oranges · 29/12/2008 18:23

oh god i remember that internal scan! I hated it - felt completely violated. tHAT'S KIND OF WHAT i WANT TO AVOID - ALL THAT POINTLESS PRODDING AND SHOVING AND HOPES RAIESD AND DASHED...sorry for caps.

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Myrrhcy · 29/12/2008 18:32

Ok, back now.

I know, it's really horrible. The worst aspect for me was that I had already passed the foetus in 2 separate bits and was told right after the scan that there was nothing left. So it felt as though I had been violated as you say for no reason.

BUT, it had to be done for the sake of my own health and any future pregnancies. Thye also used hte opportunity to look at my tubes and said all was fine.

A few months later (in one night of trying!)I ws pg again. I bled (bright red blood) for 2 months, each time when my period was due. He's now nearly 5 years old!!

Good luck oranges. I'll try to pop in every so often this evening and tomorrow.

Best wishes

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oranges · 29/12/2008 19:20

argh. now the bleeding.s stopped amnd i'm wondering if i dreamed it.......and i know it was real and this dithering is what i wanted to avoid.

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AttillaTheHan · 29/12/2008 20:15

Hi Oranges, Well at least you have an appointment tomorrow. They might send you for a scan seeing as you have been bleeding, whatever that means.
I really feel for you, the uncertainty is very frustrating and upsetting isn't it?
You are in my thoughts. I'll check in again tomorrow to see how you are doing.

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oranges · 29/12/2008 20:18

it is. i'm glad i made the appointment - i did think i'd rather just hide away but now feels good to have something planned that i can do in the morning.

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gnatbite · 29/12/2008 20:28

Oranges, i have just read this - I hope you get some answers tomorrow, will be thinking of you

Comma2 · 30/12/2008 00:07

oranges, just read this, hopefully you are at home....if its a mc, no fruits or veggies could have done the job. Most often the cause is genetics that don't work out, sometimes hormonal problems that no gynae will check before you mc, so you really really aren't to blame.

Hope everyhting'll be okay. My gynae said there is tons of ways you can bleed, clots and all, and the baby is still okay. Crossing my fingers over double for you.

Myrrhcy · 30/12/2008 10:47

How are you today?

AttillaTheHan · 30/12/2008 11:05

How did the gp appointment go Oranges? I hope you had an okay night.

gnatbite · 30/12/2008 14:54

Just checking in to see how you got on, I really hope you are OK, will check back later.

AuntieMaggie · 30/12/2008 15:04

Oranges - hope it went ok at the doctors. Thoughts are with you.

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oranges · 30/12/2008 17:49

Hi,
I went to the gp who was very kind and sensible - the EPU is closed this week so I'm booked for a scan on Monday afternoon. The bleeding had stopped then and she was sayying that there was still a chance of viability, but I got more clots this afternoon so I'm not all that hopeful.

Thank you for your kind words. Not really sure what to tell work - at the moment, I can still go in, but will it get all painful? I don't really want to announce what's going on to everyone.

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oxocube · 30/12/2008 18:14

There is a chance it will not be painful at all if you are indeed miscarrying. With my first MC (a missed abortion was the term they gave at the hospital) I had no pain, just on and off bleeding and a loss of pregnancy symptoms, no more breast tenderness etc. This was at about 5-6 weeks. My second mc was at 13 weeks so obviously very different.

Good luck and hope all may still be well.

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oranges · 30/12/2008 18:45

oh oxo, 13 weeks! how awful for you. thank you for talking me through it. im feeling a bit bereft of things.

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oxocube · 30/12/2008 19:05

Oranges, it was a long time ago (about 14 years) but bleeding has been a symptom of ALL my pregancies (I have 3 kids) so I haven't given up hope for you yet

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oranges · 30/12/2008 19:39

thank you. but there are now more clots and fresh blood, i can't see how this could be anything but bad news now.

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gnatbite · 30/12/2008 21:08

oh oranges, so sorry to hear that you are bleeding again, I wouldn't go into work if I were you, but I know everyone is different. Do you have to work all week or will you have Thurs/Fri off? If you don't want to tell anyone, perhaps you could have a "stomach bug" or something...?