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Holy mother of CRAP..this was defo NOT part of my plans...what the jeff do i do??

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nosleepwithworry · 06/06/2012 10:52

I had my 7th mcs about 9 weeks ago (i think, i didnt write any dates down, have little memory of about 2 weeks during the time, due to the drugs i was pumped with)
In short, i dont know when it occurred.

Ive sought councelling because i have never talked about my mcs ever, to any one.(well, only to you lot Smile)
Additionally, i am coming up 42, and thught that that was IT the end, no more, even went and got the pill.

Patiently waiting for my period so that i could start taking the damned thing.
No af as yet.
Feeling much better in myself, councelling really really helping, im on a healthy eating mission (thanks to myfitnesspal) doing really well.

Accepting everything, although the grief has been overwhelming at times Sad.

So af still not here, so bought a cheepy test, thought that all pregnancy hrmones will now be gone...this far after mc....almost immediately a pink line came up.

We dtd only a couple of times..it normally took me up to 22 months to concieve so this has floored me...completely and totally. Do not know what the jeff i should do?????????
All calming words of wisdom very much appreciated....i know i know, theres no fool like an old fool.. Sad

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LemonBreeland · 16/06/2012 15:44

Nosleep, so excited for you. I will also keep everything crossed for you.

flapperghasted · 16/06/2012 15:49

I had 4 mcs, 3 before dd, 1 after, and I remember how bloody scared it got to see the line and know that I was pg. I can't tell you how much I hope that this pregnancy works for you.

Do what all the clever people have said and look after yourself. I'll just wave my hippy dippy hand in the air, say hi, and say I am SO rooting for you and this baby. Good luck!!!!!

Thumbwitch · 16/06/2012 15:56

Ohhh - I hope that everything keeps going well for you!

My latest mantra is get your Vit D levels checked and if they're low, get some on prescription to take - I had 3 MCs over 2y, but then had my levels checked because of something else, they were low, got megadose Vit D from pharmacist on scrip and voila - pg with a sticky! Now 23w and still going strong (FX, touch wood, God willing etc.) - being walloped just now, actually!

Low Vit D is associated with subfertility and MC, so if your doc will test and prescribe, do it! Just to take one more risk factor out of the equation. :)

And do nothing! as far as you can, anyway. (Did I mention I'm 44? Milking it for all it's worth - but I'm also way tireder this time than last time) Grin

ListenToYourHeart · 16/06/2012 19:16

Really hope things go well for you this time, don't ever give up hope.

This time round you might get your little miracle x

shushpenfold · 16/06/2012 19:22

Gosh...crossing it all for you xxxx

RandomMess · 16/06/2012 19:28

So so so so so pleased for you, hope this turns into a complete miracle for you too Smile

LadyInPink · 16/06/2012 19:52

Sorry to hijack but congratulations Thumby, haven't seen you around in a while. That is fantastic news Smile

pixiestix · 16/06/2012 20:05

Ohhhh, I've got something in my eye.

So so pleased for you. Am crossing everything.

Joolyjoolyjoo · 16/06/2012 20:18

What a lovely thread! Really really rooting for you, you sound amazingly strong.

nosleepwithworry · 16/06/2012 21:05

Absolutely delighted to tell you all that i feel utterly utterly shite, exhausted and sick....WHOOPWHOOPWHOOP!!!! SO happy to be feeling crap Grin

Nana naps galore! I kove nana naps me Grin

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ThisWeekonFancyPuffin · 16/06/2012 21:12

Yay! I don't think I've ever wished morning sickness on someone before Grin Grin

5madthings · 16/06/2012 21:13

feeling crap and tired and sick is great Grin thrilled for you, have you told your dh about the scan and shown him the pic? :)

RandomMess · 16/06/2012 21:14
Smile
nosleepwithworry · 16/06/2012 21:19

DH keeps telling me to lie down, have a sleep, leave the hoovering, he will do it...defo very protective and helpful,

I feel very emotional, keep wanting to cry, no not cry, sob & wail really,
I just dont want it to end.

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VickityBoo · 16/06/2012 21:21

I don't know you but read this and wanted to say congratulations and I really hope that this baby grows and grows into a tough little one to keep you busy in 2013! x

KatyJ26 · 16/06/2012 21:27

I read this and just wanted to wish you lots of luck. I have everything crossed for you. You sound like an amazing lady and I so hope you get your much wanted little one, sibling for your son, and complete your family.
Long live nana naps!Grin

Jokat · 16/06/2012 22:27

How wonderful that you're feeling so awful, what a great sign that things are going well! Enjoy Grin

LittleWhiteWolf · 16/06/2012 22:54

Let your DH take care of you as much as possible. Every pregnancy of mine has seen me insist on lie-ins galore; any excuse! Wink
Everything's still crossed for you over here btw Smile

Thumbwitch · 17/06/2012 11:19

Thank you Lippy!! Grin

LadyInPink · 17/06/2012 21:45

I too welcomed the knackedness and sickness as to me that signified a healthy baby growing inside so am over the moon you're feeling that way. I was sick pretty much the whole pg but secretely i was overjoyed as to me it meant she was well and growing (hadn't felt anything with 1st pg and at first i'd been a bit smug that pg was going to be easy not realising what it actually had meant Sad)

Nosleep and Thumb What a joyous Father's Day it's been for you both then Smile

nosleepwithworry · 18/06/2012 19:54

Symptoms still very strong...that said, ive had very strong symptoms in the past and still had blighted ovum and mc.

This one feels very very strong, stopping me in my tracks strong and so im quietly encouraged Smile
This is making it hard to ignore..which as you all know, is part of my plan. So i am instead reminded minute by minute that i have a teeny tiny baby inside me GrinGrinGrin

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5madthings · 18/06/2012 20:33

yay for strong symptoms and yes you have a teeny tiny baby with a hearbeat inside of you Grin its amazing, keep resting and let your dh do all he wants to help, when do you next have a scan, will it be 12wks now or will they moniter you more closely? :)

nosleepwithworry · 18/06/2012 20:36

EPAU have offered me a scan at 9 weeks....im a regular there lol, they know me by name now! Grin
So in 2 weeks time, im going to go back.

They just said "pop back at 9 weeks so we can reassure you" !!! How fab are they Grin!

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JulieScrumptious · 18/06/2012 20:51

Everything crossed here for you x

Fuzzywood · 18/06/2012 20:54

Aww just read the thread, I have a tear in my eye and everything firmly crossed for you, see -> x x x x x x