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Holy mother of CRAP..this was defo NOT part of my plans...what the jeff do i do??

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nosleepwithworry · 06/06/2012 10:52

I had my 7th mcs about 9 weeks ago (i think, i didnt write any dates down, have little memory of about 2 weeks during the time, due to the drugs i was pumped with)
In short, i dont know when it occurred.

Ive sought councelling because i have never talked about my mcs ever, to any one.(well, only to you lot Smile)
Additionally, i am coming up 42, and thught that that was IT the end, no more, even went and got the pill.

Patiently waiting for my period so that i could start taking the damned thing.
No af as yet.
Feeling much better in myself, councelling really really helping, im on a healthy eating mission (thanks to myfitnesspal) doing really well.

Accepting everything, although the grief has been overwhelming at times Sad.

So af still not here, so bought a cheepy test, thought that all pregnancy hrmones will now be gone...this far after mc....almost immediately a pink line came up.

We dtd only a couple of times..it normally took me up to 22 months to concieve so this has floored me...completely and totally. Do not know what the jeff i should do?????????
All calming words of wisdom very much appreciated....i know i know, theres no fool like an old fool.. Sad

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5madthings · 18/06/2012 21:00

oh thats lovely, shall look out for your update, i am sure you wont relax till you have baby safely in your arms, pretty sure we will all hold your hand over the internet the whole way through if you want us to, everything crossed for you and your baby bean :) xxx

daisydotandgertie · 18/06/2012 21:14

I'm so glad you feel crappy - and have everything crossed it continues. Grin

Your story has given me a teeny ray of hope - I'm now in double figures (i think, have also stopped counting) for mc's and about the same age as you and have absolutely given up.

Good luck and take it really easy.

nosleepwithworry · 18/06/2012 21:21

daisydot i had given up too, completely, totally and utterly.
Had been discharged by reoccuring mc clinic as there was nothing they could do for us, got the pill, went to councelling to accept the decision it was over.

So..here i am, gobsmacked!
Nothing to say that this wont go tits up, but so far this should not be happening to me.

Grin teeny tiny little hope SHOULD come your way too...Smile

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Thumbwitch · 19/06/2012 00:23

daisydot - can I recommend vitamin D to you? I really don't know if it will make the difference or not but it might and it certainly can't hurt, so worth a go?

chipmonkey · 19/06/2012 00:49

Right, watching and praying. I am good at praying.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 19/06/2012 04:44

Lurking but popping up to wish you many more weeks of feeling like utter crap :o Fingers crossed for your ongoing sickness x

izzybizzybuzzybees · 19/06/2012 05:11

Wow! Seen this thread in active combos. I don't 'know' you either but I am so happy for you. I hope you have a lovely scan in a fortnight and that you get tour long awaited take home baby
:)

worrywortisworrying · 19/06/2012 05:24

Fingers very tightly crossed here too.

WheresMyCow · 19/06/2012 08:04

Fingers (and everything else) still crossed here...long may the sickness continue Grin

ajandjjmum · 19/06/2012 12:14

Popped into Church on Sunday nosleep when I took flowers to my Dad's grave. Said a little prayer for you and baby.

Another one glad you're feeling shit!

nosleepwithworry · 19/06/2012 15:51

Ok, so feeling very emotional...crying at, well, just about everything..especially that last wee post ajandjjmum that is just so sweet thankyou so very much, little weepy tears streaming when i read that.
What a priviledge to be in your thoughts along with your lovely dad xxxxx

Homes under the hammer made me cry this morning, the transformation of a little shop into a bungalow was evidenty too much for me Blush!

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nosleepwithworry · 19/06/2012 15:52

Oh and having to unleash my girls from the constraints of an average size bra the very minute i walk into the house...they are an almighty pair, let me tell you! Grin

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Nonio · 19/06/2012 16:17

Keep up the counselling and follow your plan... Only you know how much you can take. I wish you all the luck in the world x

daisydotandgertie · 19/06/2012 16:26

thumbiwitch - why vitamin D? What does it do? I'm up for almost anything, I think.

nosleep - long may those puppies continue to burst through your bras. Quite the best news. And I can't imagine how shocked you are - I don't think I've accepted my situation as you had. And now look!

Fingers crossed you continue to feel absolutely shocking with vast tits.

Thumbwitch · 19/06/2012 16:33

Daisy - I posted this further up thread but for ease and convenience will repost it here:
My latest mantra is get your Vit D levels checked and if they're low, get some on prescription to take - I had 3 MCs over 2y, but then had my levels checked because of something else, they were low, got megadose Vit D from pharmacist on scrip and voila - pg with a sticky! Now 23w and still going strong (FX, touch wood, God willing etc.) - being walloped just now, actually!

Low Vit D is associated with subfertility and MC, so if your doc will test and prescribe, do it! Just to take one more risk factor out of the equation.

As I said, it can't hurt and it could help - I don't know that it made all the difference to me, because it might just have been a "good egg" as opposed to a rotten one - but at 44, I'll take what I can get! I just think it's such an easy risk factor to remove that it's worth telling everyone about it. :)

MakesCakesWhenStressed · 19/06/2012 16:44

Watching in hope - what a lovely thread!

RobinSparkles · 19/06/2012 17:45

Also watching in hope! Have all my fingers and toes crossed for you!

kittykatsforever · 19/06/2012 20:10

Will you have anymore early scans?? Maybe you could post the pic and keep everyone's spirits up, it's a beautiful story x

PullUpAPew · 19/06/2012 20:27

Wow, just amazed really at your story, I am hoping for you x

willitbe · 19/06/2012 20:35

7 and half weeks and counting,,,,,,, whoops you are trying not to think about it Grin. May your tiredness, sore boobs and general 'orrible symptoms continue and increase as necessary and you grow your bubba. Just wanted to let you know I am still thinking of you.

EugenesAxe · 19/06/2012 20:38

You already have a DS NoSleep - so who's to say this pregnancy won't turn out the same?

Really hoping it will. Obviously total whimsy, but I'd like to think a music festival will give it something in life to cling to :) Besides your uterus that is.

porridgelover · 19/06/2012 20:52

Wow nosleep...I've just read this and you sound incredibly strong. I wish you the very best over the coming weeks.

catinboots · 19/06/2012 21:00

I am praying for you and your little munchkin nosleep Smile

xxx

Sittinginthesun · 19/06/2012 21:14

Just read your thread, and will also be with you all the way. Good luck.

WhatDreamsMayCome · 19/06/2012 23:24

thumbwitch - I took 4000iu of vitamin D3 everyday and unfortunately it wasn't to continue further than 14 weeks. I know that you are recommending it because you feel passionate about it, I was too but it didn't do the trick - perhaps I wasn't taking enough, perhaps it was because it wasn't in the form of natural sunlight (was winter) but I was unwilling to take more than i had read was acceptable and the maximum recommended on US websites seems to be that amount for pregnancy. It's unlikely that taking it was the cause of it so it can't hurt for others to talk to their GP if they are thinking about taking some. On the bright side, I did get pregnant on first attempt so there may well be something in it (was 39 at the time). Don't want to hijack or bring down the beautiful joy of this thread - we could talk about vitamin D on another thread, would be pleased to do so at any time, it would be great to do so. Hope you don't mind me giving another side to it.

Nosleep! Enjoying every one of your lovely posts. Things are sounding very positive! The sickness is all good. Glad to read that you are enjoying your nana naps, that made me smile!