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Holy mother of CRAP..this was defo NOT part of my plans...what the jeff do i do??

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nosleepwithworry · 06/06/2012 10:52

I had my 7th mcs about 9 weeks ago (i think, i didnt write any dates down, have little memory of about 2 weeks during the time, due to the drugs i was pumped with)
In short, i dont know when it occurred.

Ive sought councelling because i have never talked about my mcs ever, to any one.(well, only to you lot Smile)
Additionally, i am coming up 42, and thught that that was IT the end, no more, even went and got the pill.

Patiently waiting for my period so that i could start taking the damned thing.
No af as yet.
Feeling much better in myself, councelling really really helping, im on a healthy eating mission (thanks to myfitnesspal) doing really well.

Accepting everything, although the grief has been overwhelming at times Sad.

So af still not here, so bought a cheepy test, thought that all pregnancy hrmones will now be gone...this far after mc....almost immediately a pink line came up.

We dtd only a couple of times..it normally took me up to 22 months to concieve so this has floored me...completely and totally. Do not know what the jeff i should do?????????
All calming words of wisdom very much appreciated....i know i know, theres no fool like an old fool.. Sad

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nosleepwithworry · 17/07/2012 15:15

Midwife visit was........well, just routine really.

I did highlight my anxiety for 12 week scan, need to know here is still a hb there.

She just said i would get a date over the next few weeks.

So thats that. just got to wait.

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 17/07/2012 15:20

Couldnt she have listened for a HB with a doppler today? or is it too early?
If you really feel unhappy, go to EPAU. {{hug}}

nosleepwithworry · 17/07/2012 15:23

Dont know about doppler and how soon they can listen in tbh. Spose it depends on the skill of the midwife in finding it, if she hadnt been able to find it, then that would be worse.

Gonna just wait, like normalfolk have to Grin

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lotsofcheese · 17/07/2012 15:25

That doesn't seem very reassuring for you Sad

In terms of nuchal translucency, I think the timescale is within 13/14 weeks, so you should be scanned within that timescale. You could even have it now....

It's all & well for people to say not to worry, none of us who have been through it would agree though!

Incaminka · 17/07/2012 15:31

Hi nosleep
Just checking in, keeping fingers really crossed for you, hang in there, you are a lot further through than before!
Am back at work and we are trying again. I do have kittens!!! :-)
hugs

xx

nosleepwithworry · 17/07/2012 15:44

referred to consultant to.

mw asked about birth plan, i just said i dont want to talk about that, i need to get safely to 12 weeks. She seemed to understand.

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lotsofcheese · 17/07/2012 16:14

Yes, I remember being asked about that, and breastfeeding at 10 weeks - WTF!!!

StaceymReadyForNumber3 · 17/07/2012 16:16

Midwives listen for the heartbeat at 16 wks, very few dopplers will pick it up before.

Don't worry too much about birth plan etc, you've got plenty of time. If you haven't heard about a scan date by 13 wks chase it up with your midwifery team/antenatal department at the hospital. A 12 wk scan should be done before 14 wks.

5madthings · 17/07/2012 18:12

yes they wont get a heartbeat until nearer 16 wks, i am suprised she is so blase about your scan!

DO go the epu, they will not be sick of seeing you at all! only a few more days and then you are 12 wks! symptoms do come and go and they often start to tail of at 12wks, that is normal. i know it wont stop you worrying tho!

honestly go and have a scan!

xxx

nosleepwithworry · 17/07/2012 20:19

Going to nip to epau in the morning.

Now i know that i have putting away wagone wheels...like..alot, BUT my trousers are tight and uncomfortable.....think this means either my arse has doubled in size, or my wee plum is growing nicely Smile

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Jokat · 17/07/2012 21:18

Sounds like a good plan, just to settle your nerves. And hooray to the tight trousers! Grin

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 17/07/2012 22:48

Tight trousers is a good sign. When I was pg with my second I was wearing maternity trousers at my first scan. I was only 10 weeks!! Shock they were loose, but anything else was agony.

minceorotherwise · 18/07/2012 19:05

Did you get your scan?
How are you feeling today?

nosleepwithworry · 18/07/2012 19:39

ahhh, i nipped off with our little portable scanner at work and did a sneaky scan myself.
It has grown LOADS! i saw the facial profile and it was moving around loads Grin

Lots of bouts of nausea today, and my girls are sore.

Wanted to lay my head on the desk at 4ish, but worried because i share an office with the organ donation specialist nurse and think she would whip out a kidney if i look even half asleep!!! Smile Grin

So i feel like im walking on air today, thrilled and so very happy.

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flubba · 18/07/2012 19:41

Yay!!!!!!! :) :) :)

5madthings · 18/07/2012 19:41

omg how amazing at the facial profile! two more sleeps till 12wks!! Grin i cannot imagine how happy you are, i am grinning just reading your post! fabulous :)

RandomMess · 18/07/2012 19:43

I just so love your thread x

StaceymReadyForNumber3 · 18/07/2012 19:44

Yay!!! So pleased for you!!

secretly wish I could self scan, although I do have a Doppler toe thing that tadpole decides to boot whenever I out it on

nosleepwithworry · 18/07/2012 19:44

I have a baby...with a nose and everything!!!!!!!

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Tillyscoutsmum · 18/07/2012 19:45

Yay !!!!!!!!!!!!!! So so happy for you x

Bookworm15 · 18/07/2012 19:50

Woo hoo just read your thread sending you all the positive vibes i can find !!!

ElephantsCanRemember · 18/07/2012 19:52

I love this thread Grin

5madthings · 18/07/2012 19:55

this thread is the best i agree! Grin

a nose is it a button nose?! Grin

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 18/07/2012 19:57

I love this thread.

ElephantsCanRemember · 18/07/2012 20:00

I have a baby...with a nose and everything!!!!!!!

Not ashamed to say that actually brought a tear to my eye.