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First date in years, advice please!

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SingleMum01 · 21/01/2010 10:48

I've got a first date next week - a lunchtime drink in a busy pub. Met the bloke on the internet so as well as feeling nervous I feel a bit unsure. Any advice please?

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SingleMum01 · 29/01/2010 11:50

Cheers Niceguy - good to have a bloke's point of view. Keep giving me advice! I'll let you know how its going! He certainly won't be sealing the deal quickly with me!

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mrsmharket · 02/02/2010 11:01

how syou singlemumo1?

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SingleMum01 · 02/02/2010 18:29

Bloke has been texting me a bit over the weekend. We've arranged to meet Thurs for lunch. See how it goes/if he turns up!

How are you MrsH any more luck?

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mrsmharket · 03/02/2010 13:37

nah, have took his number off my phone and off fb list, haven't heard a peep from him since gone midnight (inconsiderate person) on sunday. not my loss lol thanks for asking xx

will keep my fingers crossed for you that tomorrow(?) goes well xx

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SingleMum01 · 03/02/2010 14:31

Not heard from mine since Sun, although didn't think there was anything wrong with that. Will see if he text today about tomorrow (or not!)

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SingleMum01 · 04/02/2010 16:51

Well we've met 4 2nd date and had lunch. Said he wants 2 c me again. He's in town with his mates at the weekend as am i and has suggested meeting up.

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mrsmharket · 05/02/2010 11:26

ooh sounds exciting!

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SingleMum01 · 05/02/2010 12:54

unfortunately i'm not going into town now as one of my mates can't get a sitter so its a pizza night round hers. Disappointed as I wanted to meet up with him and him the same plus he must've wanted me 2 meet his mates. Also thinking this is a good sign he's not playing away.

So should I suggest another lunch date, or an evening date now? Lunch is easier for me as I don't have to get a sitter, but maybe we should move to evening now?

Verity - go for it. I was bricking it, but am enjoying it for what it is at the moment.

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Veritythebrave · 05/02/2010 17:48

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SingleMum01 · 05/02/2010 19:13

OMG - I presume you won't be seeing him again!

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SingleMum01 · 05/02/2010 19:27

Oh no, poor u. He sounds like a real pervo. I guess it depends how much you want to meet someone, you have to be in it to win it!

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mrsmharket · 06/02/2010 14:47

oh no hon

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SingleMum01 · 07/02/2010 15:31

Got 3rd date - lunch date next week. Am stressing on what to wear, wardrobe not great, neither is money. Would nice jeans and a nice tight-ish Tshirt be reasonable. He's seen me poshed up on the last 2 dates?

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Niceguy2 · 07/02/2010 15:43

Yes its fine. You don't want to give him the impression you are unable to relax or that you always get dolled up just to go for lunch.

Frankly he probably hasn't even noticed what you wear. In fact, i bet if you asked him what you wore the first time you met, he'd struggle!

Jeans, (smartish) T-shirt, you'll be fine.

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SingleMum01 · 07/02/2010 15:52

Thanks for your ever useful advice NG2

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mrsmharket · 08/02/2010 11:33

i second that
you'll be fine xxx

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SingleMum01 · 08/02/2010 19:40

Wld you believe I've had to rearrange our 3rd date 'cos of work - he's happy to reschedule. Bless him, out of 3 dates I've had to rearrange 2.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 08/02/2010 20:00

single mum you're obv.doing something right lol
and he sounds like a really nice fella

mrsmharket · 09/02/2010 10:44

ah bless xx

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SingleMum01 · 09/02/2010 19:41

oh no, I've got a huge, and I mean huge spot

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mrsmharket · 10/02/2010 15:07

oh no, will cheapest perfume work?