First date in years, advice please!

[SingleMum01]

I've got a first date next week - a lunchtime drink in a busy pub. Met the bloke on the internet so as well as feeling nervous I feel a bit unsure. Any advice please?

Tried all kinds on it. Got 24 hours for it to go from huge to invisible

It'll either completely scare him off (in which case he's not worth bothering about) or if it doesn't it'll mean he's really interested!

Just wear a low cut top. He will be too busy looking elsewhere!

Thanks Niceguy - I will do and hope it works!

niceguy
singlemum dab some toothpaste on it tonight it should help it to subside

lol asbm....you know me.

I do remember one of my first dates after my split. She was a nice girl, little on the big side but what clinched it was the low cut top. Apparently she wore it on purpose and it had the desired effect!

I went for the low cut top! Felt self consious still 'cos of zit

The lunch seemed to go OK and as we left, he said 'I expect your busy with your son this week' (we'd been talking about half term). I text him to say thanks and he text back. He's not said anything about seeing me again, so I don't know if that's it or if he'll contact me again after half term.

Ah well, it was nice while it lasted

So do you think that's it or he'll contact me again?

What made you think it only went "ok" rather than "great".

What were his last words to you?

I think 'cos I was conscious about the second head growing on my chin I don't think I was myself. His last words were 'I expect busy next week' - can't remember if he said he'd be in touch or not

He may have got the impression that you'd lost interest.

Why don't you invite him out? Send him a text saying that your friend had booked a couple of tickets to the cinema to see x,y,z but now can't make it, has given you the tickets and you were wondering if he wanted to come. That way you show you are still interested without screaming it.

If he's lost interest he will say no or make up some excuse.

I did wonder if I should ask him for an evening drink as I can't do lunch anyway this week, but wondered whether that seemed a bit pushy/desperate.

Or should just leave it and see if he contact me, but then he may think I'm really not bothered and not bother either. Help me Niceguy!

I don't think it should be for a "drink", i'd go with some activity instead so you can make it sound casual rather than "datey" and therefore pressure IYSWIM.

Hence why I suggested the cinema thing but you can replace with any activity. The idea is that if he says no, it doesn't sound that you were desperate, you were just asking cos you had been offered tickets.....

Its a nightmare isn't it dating?

Thanks to you both. Yes I think I'll leave it for a bit and see if he contacts me next week. He has so far been a gentleman and not pushy and understanding that I've got commitments. Fingers x'd he contacts me.

Yes niceguy it is a nightmare especially when I'm sooo out of practice

Bit out of practice now myself. A year ago I was never short on ideas or words to say

He's just sent me a happy valentine text - I guess that's a good sign