40+ Lone parents

[WillIEverBeASizeTen]

I'm 49 and a lone parent (13yo and 20yo) am I in the minority on Mumsnet? It appears alot of the LP's here are a lot younger!

I'm in the wild and exciting county of South Yorkshire.

Well, ok, I'm sure some parts of it must be wild and exciting... Perhaps I'm just too old and past it to remember where!

Well I'm off to bed (minus the cocoa I hasten to add) - DS will be awake at 6:30 and be "quietly reading" his book at the top of his voice.. He knows it off by heart and feels very grown up that he can "read" it to me.

Oh the deep and abiding joy of hearing "one mole digging a hole" everyday at the crack of dawn....

Going - Mid way between London and Cambs sounds like something I could handle too.

And yup, the café is in possibly the most tacky touristy bit of Marbella, however I have done the tasting throughout the town and this place does the best. So I sit head down and take EL Mundo and talk Spanish to Bella so I don;t have to answer stupid questions from people who quite frankly should not be given a passport....

Sorry ladies Monster Munch really doesn't do it for me..I have a more refined palate...pom bears (formerly pom-bar)

Am also, like puss off to bed, no repetitious narrators to be woken by, just a errant Kevin to turf out of the pit...

Night night ladies...

morning ladies Coffee or tea this morning .Im up showered got my cofee and typical none of teh kids are yet up

It takes a cup of both to get me moving Going!

Morning Girls,

absolutely required here too!

Can see sun if I squint slightly so saying my proverbial prayers that it stays dry long enough for the mounds of washing that need to be attacked....

Busy day, but be back later, no doubt with some biscuits and wine and whatever else I fancy at that time!!

Have a good day.

going we really are an early bird thought I was gonna be the first here! Tea no sugar please

mornin puss et al

Another glorious day here:) what's it like up t'other end puss?

boo hope the lluvia is over...but then you still have churros nearest comparison me thinks is a Yum Yum..poor substitute

Have a good day all:) :) :)

x post boo

Hey Ten,

Can't really compare them, however I LOVE YumYums and have been known to eat a whole pack of M&S, Greggs, Sainsburys in one go over a day - see I am NOT picky when it comes to sweet stuff. I do however HATE marshmallows with a passion. And anything similar ish - like Percy Pigs!

Enjoy you sunshine. And I do NOT say that through gritted teeth, honest

Saysd very quietley i ahave both my patio doors wide open here scaring all the rabbits with me playing rather loud rock music and luckily no direct neighbours either

De clouds have cleared and I now have blue skies and sunshine too!!!!!!!! SO blast away dear Going I will be doing the same while I tackle the ironing!

ironing sheesh swearing i dont know .I put my iron in cupboard when moved here and it come out very rare

Well it was a lovely day up North, only marred by the fact I was in the office all day and missed it!

And now I'm off to attempt to make something vaguely resembling Tarka Dhall... How close it'll be depends on what I find in the cupboard, whether I bother to look at a recipe, and whether I follow it when I've looked :o

And why the hell do I always leave it until this time of night to start cooking!!

Puss supper at yours sounds fine, I'll bring the
Won't make it in time as ferry has already left for tonight so youll just have to let us know how it turned out :)

oh no did i miss supper and . Looksround for the broom to sweep the mess of the floor

Since im up shall i open the biscuits butter the toast and make the

Ok ladies tell me that im not mad .Im about to book a holiday that sees me flying with the two youngest for 9-10 hrs .Have took all mine on holiday in the uk without thinking about it.But am looking at Florida/disney next year with younger two and am worrying how im going to mange the airports etc with cases and ds wheeelchair and without my older two along to help

Morning going

and toast thank you kindly

The holiday sounds fab, and I think that you are really brave to even consider it. Your younger 2 may be more help than you think, and if you have a child in a wheelchair, then you can probably request help from the airline/airport. In an ideal world people would see your plight and rush in to help (I always do) but unfortunately it's dog eat dog at the carousel. But I don't think you should let that put you off, think of the looks on the kids faces when they see "Mickey", will be worth it. I'd say deffo do it:)

++ Just needs a bit of careful planning, that's all xx

Good Morning,

Going when you've booked, contact the airline and book special assistance with them for BOTH ends. If you're flying from Gatwick South they now have a complete separate security bit for people with buggies and those in wheelchairs where they can not do enough for you. Once through they will then come and get you at an agreed time to take you to the gate (often before the number's even up on the board too). This facility should be open in the North terminal by this summer too. The American end I think is very good too, and with pre-booked assistance, you get fast tracked as well.

HOwever, I have always found that the most unlikely looking candidates will jump to help and it's amusing to watch those that don't become shamefaced at these actions. I travel a lot with Bella and there is always someone somewhere that will practically take everything for me!

Joely how are you? I was thinking about you last night and wondering how you are getting on.

Ten morning my dear. How's things with you?

willIeverbe

its the younger two im taking dd will be and ds be 7 by then and he smy wheelchair whizz .Im hoping that can sort out help .Im excited and nervours at the same time and lol going to be very skint .Ds1 and ds2 are not intrested in coming at all .If i pushed it that i needed the help they would But I shall cope im sure though i may require holiday when we come back

Boo
Yes i find tats the case when im out and about with the younger two .In fact find its often the commuters if were in London at sillyoclock that help more than most and men do seem better than woman .

Roll on school holidays and calmer mornings but of course by time first week is over i shall be thinking when do they go back pleaseeeeeeeeee

Hi ladies, I am back again...!!! Had a nice time with mum and dad- they have gone now and i feel like a little girl- sad that mummy and daddy have left!!

I am off on the school run now but will be back on here later- just to let you know i have had some support this week from my local Womens Aid- it has been really helpful- but i have still spent alot of the week crying....!!!!!

Hope that you are all ok and i look forward to getting in touch again later.xxx

boo mmm heavily buttered toast Sun has been shining once more so life is good:)

going forgive me, I clearly didn't read the thread properly (so early). Like boo says, you will be able to get lots of help I'm sure with your DS. I think it will be wonderful to go and yes, you will cope.

paul nice to see you back, It's always rotten when the parents go back, I hate it too. I get a great feeling of calm when they're here so I know how sad it feels. Please don't cry, makes me sad to hear that, come on here and have a or and a jaw xx

joely and puss g'day

Well its only taken an hour and half to get DD and DS 3 settled to sleep. I'm exhausted now - but thought I'd join you for a or 2 before bed. So how are you all? I seem to miss you most nights an tonight being Friday bet your all out disco dancing round your handbags!! Ah those were the days - you wouldnt dance round your handbags in many places nowadays would you! LOL

paulwellan

It does get easier and yes think its the loney thing athat hits us all especially when had people staying to help then they go and you realise its all down to you

/Will .

No its fine honest and im so used to ahving my older two around will be odd without them

Joely

no disco dancing round my handbag, ye snowdays you would keep hold of it tight

And i will join you with a Im feeling horriable .Dd was having a megastrop which to be ffair its not very often .I warned her if she kept it up her chocolate which she was eating for supper i would throw out the door.Well she kept stropping an d throwing a right wobbly( shes pretty worn out ) and could not reason with her so I took it of her threw it outside into the field and carried her and dumped her into bed and told her no computer tomorrow .But no cuddle before bed from her and makes me want to cry

But im feeling hate having to get that cross and feel really guilty that i did it .But i said i would so had to go through with it.Just hope she realises that when i say i will .I will do it .

Evening Girls,

Well I've just been out for supper (on the beach just to make you ) and eaten rather a lot of seafood...and possibly had a couple of glasses of wine too. It's Friday and it's the first time I've been out for 6 weeks, so allowed I think!

PaulW Bum to that. I ALWAYS cry when I leave my mum or she leaves mine, and so does she! Have you managed to say anything to your babies yet? And what's the score re living arrangements? You did cross my mind this week as I was in slight meltdown wondering how/what/where/when I would do what I need to do. I hope you've perked up some now...

Going Rotters they is these children! Give her a hug in the morning...She cannot behave like that and get away with it - but we all have crap days whether we're 4 or 44... You CANNOT feel guilty for getting cross - how TF are they meant to learn if we bail when they get shitty with us? She'll not be doing that again in a hurry...

Ten MY toast. I will not share heavily buttered toast....

Joely what's happening? You been to talk to him? How are your big boys? Clearly the smaller peeps have been keeping you on your toes...

Ok. This will make you laugh. Today I cleaned the windows. I live in Spain OK. So all the downstairs windows are big sliding doors. Did such a good job that this afternoon I smashed right into one while attempting to go outside. It very bloody hurt and I very bloody cried. Bella meanwhile, pissed herself laughing. Got big bruise across nose and it's not funny. But I bet you are all laughing at the very image.

opps ok i may be laughing a tad about you walking into the door .And yes i bet Bella wa smy youngest would he finds anything even slightly slapstick funny

and yes im supper on the beach

and yes it all blow over with dd she was asleep 5 minutes after i put her to bed so tired me thinks .But rabbits or foxes in the field in for a treat theres several mini eggs out here looks like easter bunny came early .But mine do tend to knwo if i say it i will do it even though i feel guilty

And of course right now i could eat chocolate .considers going outside witha torch