5 week old wriggled and bashed head off doorframe when bf was trying to unlock door, bruising around eye

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We feel really bad and it was totally an accident, my baby screams whenever I am not holding him, but I needed a nap so my partner went to go make a bottle and was unlocking the door and since baby is so wriggly and has a lot of neck strength he managed to hit his head, there is a bit of bruising around the eye, this is also the eye that swells up and dowwn because of the forceps. I have social involvement because I am underage and have ASD but they are happy with us as we have good engagement and baby is gaining loads of weight (he was born a bit too small) we are phoning the GP on Monday as we beed to anyway for his 6 week check up, but we are worried they will think it was not an accident or that we are too irresponsible, we will mention it on the phone to GP, social are due out on Monday, my baby is acting normal and it doesnt appear to be bothering him
Will social escalate because of this? It took a lot of effort to have social services happy with us and I don't want to lose my baby

If you baby has hit his head/face hard enough to bruise do not wait until Monday to seek medical help.

It's must've been quite a knock to cause bruising around the eye.

I'd be taking the baby to A and E.

I agree take him to see a doctor now, and be prepared for a sceptical response to that explanation

A bang hard enough to cause bruising at 5 weeks needs urgent attention. If you don't get that checked out they will certainly question your capabilities as parents.

Any medical professional will most likely report bruising to the face to social services anyway. Most of the time nothing comes of it because kids have accidents all the time, however you're already under social care so I'd be prepared to be open and honest with them.

I gave birth at 18, so wasn't underage, but was part of a young mums baby group and plenty of those mums were younger than me..none of them were under the eye of social services based solely on their age. Is that the only reason? You also say it's taken a lot for them to be happy with the position you're in. Is there more to that?

When did this happen? Bruising takes time to develop.

Thst doesn’t sound believable at all. Get the baby to a doctor.

That explanation sounds unlikely. Is your boyfriend the father? A bruise in a 5 week old should be looked into. I would not be defending your bf, he can explain and you should protect, and get your baby checked out.

Sorry you can't leave him, he's 5 weeks old and has a bruise that's been caused by a significant knock to the head. He has to go to hospital tonight and prepare for social referral and lots of questions

I’ve reported the thread. I hope mumsnet can refer this onto someone as it could be child abuse.

I thought this too to be honest. How hard must he have hit his head to bruise ?

I would be getting your baby seen by a medical professional asap today not only in case there is anything serious going on which needs acting on straight away but also because not seeking attention straight away also will not be looked upon lightly in itself but also looks like you are trying to hide something. Do not wait until Monday.

A&E will see a 5week old really quickly. Get yourself down there, and all will be ok.

Edit - be totally truthful when you speak to them. The staff will be really happy to speak to you alone if that will be helpful.

Baby needs to see a doctor, why was the door locked and how could he hit his head on the doorframe.

It won't look great to social if you wait till Monday to get baby checked. If your story is true it will all be fine. Is your boyfriend the babies dad?

I am sorry to say that I think if I was the social worker who had been working with you prior to the birth ( for whatever reason) I might be a little bit sceptical about a five week old baby wriggling so hard it hit its head on a door. I would also be concerned that you aren’t getting medical advice quicker than Monday.

Take your baby to a&e right now. You should have taken it in when whatever happened, happened.
The longer you leave it the worse it will be for all of you.

Get to the hospital now

Baby comes first

I hope social services look into this properly as this poor baby needs to be looked after

Lovely, you need to take your baby to A&E tonight, that is what parents do. Social services would be worried if you waited until Monday. That shows you can’t safe guard him/seek help when needed. Be prepared that they will question how it happened left in charge with your partner. That’s okay that they ask that and consider that, it’s a possibility.

If he tells you you don’t need to go in, then message someone and get your baby help. Bruising around the eye is a serious sign of head injuries in a baby.

I sincerely hope this is made up.

In case it’s not, unfortunately that explanation makes absolutely no sense and any decent social worker will be asking questions and taking your baby for a medical examination.

Not seeking urgent medical attention for a head injury on a newborn baby will only make it worse.

Your baby needs to see a doctor.

Please don't wait until Monday. Baby needs a&e as quickly as possible. Irrespective of what happened, something could be going on inside his head and Monday could be too late to treat him properly.

And secondly, don't leave the baby alone with your partner for a moment. If you shower, the baby goes in the bathroom with you. If you leave the room, baby comes with you.

Just please get to ED tonight.

It will need a CP medical regardless. It's a bruise on an immobile baby.

Take your baby to A&E they may seem ok, but you need to make sure. The story your partner has given you does not explain that level of bruising so they will likely want to investigate further, but delaying seeking medical attention for this will only look bad to the professionals and make them think you have something to hide. You will need to cooperate fully with them and that starts with making sure your baby is ok by getting them checked by a doctor today.

As a social worker, I would be more worried if you waited until Monday to get your baby checked out. Please take your baby to be checked,accidents do happen and I can imagine it feels scary but you have to put your baby first and their need right now is to be checked over properly.