5 week old wriggled and bashed head off doorframe when bf was trying to unlock door, bruising around eye

[Ckp88]

We feel really bad and it was totally an accident, my baby screams whenever I am not holding him, but I needed a nap so my partner went to go make a bottle and was unlocking the door and since baby is so wriggly and has a lot of neck strength he managed to hit his head, there is a bit of bruising around the eye, this is also the eye that swells up and dowwn because of the forceps. I have social involvement because I am underage and have ASD but they are happy with us as we have good engagement and baby is gaining loads of weight (he was born a bit too small) we are phoning the GP on Monday as we beed to anyway for his 6 week check up, but we are worried they will think it was not an accident or that we are too irresponsible, we will mention it on the phone to GP, social are due out on Monday, my baby is acting normal and it doesnt appear to be bothering him
Will social escalate because of this? It took a lot of effort to have social services happy with us and I don't want to lose my baby

Not sure why an eye should swell up then go down again then swell up again because of a forceps, if this is true you need hospital tonight.

So you were napping? You didn't see what happened?

Your partner is lying to you. There is no way a five week old baby moved their head so much they bashed against a nearby door.

Your baby needs medical help today. Not Monday. Today.

This.

An immobile baby with bruising needs to be seen immediately.

Waiting for other symptoms is the wrong thing to do. Go proactively tonight to A&E.

You'll be seen very quickly because your baby is so young.

It's concerning that you haven't automatically taken them to A&E after a bang hard enough to cause bruising.

You need to go now.

Baby needs to be check now

His story is not believable at all, and anyone who has had a 5 week old will be doubting his explanation. They are essentially flaccid potatos. Do you have to support your baby’s neck normally? That should give you a clue as to whether he’s being honest or not. Most babies can’t support their own head until at least 3 months old, let alone smack their own face into a door frame.

i would not be leaving my defenceless baby alone with him again. I suspect you know this already and that’s why you haven’t taken your baby to A&E yet.

Hmm a small 5 week old baby and your partner "says" he wriggled so much he hit his head hard enough to cause a bruise? 🤔

Did you see it happen? I think your boyfriend might be lying to you.

A lot of abusive men target single parents. Is he the babys father?

Also puzzled as to why you have SS involvement for being under age. Or are their additional factors?

Ditch the boyfriend. Go to A and E.

A&E right now. Your baby needs checking out today, not Monday. I know you're nervous about going, but a delayed presentation would look far worse.

get your baby to hospital. Stop stressing about ‘the social’ your priority should be getting the baby seen. I can’t see how this has happened to be honest as an accident. Like a PP said 5 week old babies are like potatoes they don’t move a lot!

Basically you’re saying your 5 week old baby banged his own head on the door.

No way did this happen.

I’m assuming you still live at home OP, if you’re under 16/18? Can you ask one of your parents to take you to A&E to get the baby checked over if you’re not able to get there by yourself?

It will look far, far worse to social services and the GP if you leave it until Monday without seeking medical help.

I know this

OP are you able to get your baby to hospital? This is a worry as you say you are underage, have described injuries to a tiny baby and have then not returned.

I have worked with a social worker who managed to ignore a bruise on an injured immobile baby, however.

Your partner is lying, the story is totally unbelievable.

Your job is to protect your baby, go to the hospital, explain what your partner said, show your Social Worker that your main priority is to safeguard your baby, even under difficult circumstances.

5 week old babies do not smack their own heads off doors because they are wriggly.

A and E asap for sure. Social services will be more concerned about a delay in seeking medical help for a bruised baby than they will if you go now and seek help.

OP, you know your bf isn't telling you the truth. Please protect your child.
I am a support worker for a victim of shaken baby syndrome. She was 8 weeks old and the father shook her and threw her against a wall. Before this her father made up stories about the reasons for her ear piercing screams or bruises that would happen while the mother napped or popped to appointments, don't let this escalate.

Please take your baby to a&e now to get checked over. Social services will be more upset that you’ve waited and it then looks even more suspicious.

You're much less likely to lose the baby if you act like a responsible parent now and go to A&E.
When I saw the thread title, I was going to come onto this thread and empathise and refer to the episode of Modern Family where new parents over-react to a baby getting a minor bump but, having read the thread, this is totally different. Your baby has bruising. That is external swelling but their may be internal swelling too and, on a tiny baby, that could be a real problem. They might even be concussed but you won't be able to tell as a lot of the symptoms could easily be passed off as normal baby fussiness, especially at this age when they are so new and change so quickly that you don't know what their normal behaviour is like as it will be different from day to day.
Wrap yourselves up, take the baby to A&E with plenty of snacks for you &, if you're formula feeding, some bottles as you may be there for a while and get the professionals to check your little one out. Accidents do happen but only they can assess what the impact might be.

A baby of 5-6 weeks doesn't have that much neck strength.

OP please update once he has been checked, try not to panic at some of the messages just take him in this is number one priority right now you will have support here if you need it but just do the most responsible thing the fact you have posted shows you are concerned don't leave it just go right away x

Go to A&E.

If you try to hide this, you will be in serious trouble.
Show that you can put your baby first, and do the right thing.

@Ckp88 Sorry to have to tell you this but 5 week old babies are not that wiggly that they hurt themselves in such a way. It’s nonsense.

Sure believe your BF if you want to, there is going to be one of two outcomes here. either BF kills your baby or SS will remove him from you

I hope beyond hope you stop contact with this boy, or if you cannot then they will whip him away from you.

Or baby will die

It’s on you OP just walk away I even with the slightest of doubts.

Lots of the replies are scary, but the only thing you need to do is take him to hospital. That is what SS will be looking for, that you got attention for him. They will see that as a positive, not going is what gets you looked at.