FET/IVF/ICSI Part 2

[MoonlightDreamer]

As I was replying I realised the thread has reached the limit.
I thought I'd create a new thread for us all to keep in touch.
Please feel free to tag anyone I've forgot

@lauralozzle
@meliss
@thinkpink37
@luckypineapple
@ivfkinster
@babyplease23
@lolly2507
@4thcyclelucky
@marshk
@user491
@kitt86
@Hopingforno2in2023
@woaaaahnelly
@rosesinbloom19
@millie89xx

Morning girls how are we all!?

so was back in a and e yday they’ve done more bloods and I have to have scan today my stomach is all inflamed and swollen it’s mild OhSS I just knew it !!! Decided to take the day off today to rest it out on the couch don’t think I can face 8 hours sat in a chair in the office 😭 hope you are all keeping well x

Hope you feel better soon @Millie89xx, definitely a good idea to take the day off.

I had slightly heavier blood in the shower just now. I almost want a negative result now as I genuinely am not sure I could take this level of worry for weeks until my scan. Questioning whether this is the right thing for us or whether I should spare myself this torment and be happy with what I have. Has anyone else felt that way? That the process is just too hard?

I'm sorry @Hopingforno2in2023 that's really distressing. I wonder if it's slightly different because you're trying for a 2nd? So I don't know if my thoughts are really comparable but I definitely know what you mean about finding it too hard. I think, I'd go through this hell as many times as needed for number 1. And before this I thought I'd do as much as needed for a 2nd. Now...I think the level of anxiety at every stage and the panic and despair at bleeding is so intense. I've downgraded to hopefully just this one (🤞🤞) and I'm not sure if I'd even be able to do a transfer for the embryo we have left for a second. I definitely won't be doing another egg collection if have one child already. It's too hard mentally.
I'm sorry you're finding it hard and exhausting, I can't believe anyone ever experiences anything else.

Good idea to take the day off @Millie89xx I was really surprised when they said not OHSS as it sounded exactly like OHSS. Drink lots and take it easy. Hopefully it resolves soon.

100% with you @IVFKinster. For a first I would absolutely go through anything but with a second I do have to think about the impact of it on my family. And also I want to enjoy my DS not be constantly stressed. I will definitely use my one in the freezer if this doesn’t work but like you not sure I can go through egg collection again.

@Hopingforno2in2023 it must be really hard wanting another but having to balance everything else around family needs. You still have to manage to be a mum whilst dealing with the stress and exhaustion! I've barely been able to look after myself let alone anyone else during this process and w e can all only take so much! I hope the bleeding has stopped since this morning.

Thanks @IVFKinster. Have had some more but it is now brown and spotting. The pregnancy tests have arrived so am ready for the morning.

@LuckyPineapple I realised I didn't reply to you! It's good you've had a positive experience telling people so far 😊 I'm torn on if we'll tell anyone other than the few people who know already. I don't think they'd understand. But maybe that's just me being super private!

Negative unfortunately :(

Am ok, going to focus on Christmas and will go again in the new year with my 3bb.

@Hopingforno2in2023 oh I am really sorry 😔.. focus on your little family for Christmas! It will happen for you !
im not having a fun time over here I mean I’m counting my blessings but I have never been in so much pain in my whole life my stomach is the size of a house and I’m struggling to walk , sleep , sit ohss ain’t fun 😭

thinking about you ❤️

has anyone else on this thread had OhSS with positive didn’t I see @marshk post something about it ???

Thanks @Millie89xx. I’m so sorry you are in so much pain. OHSS sounds absolutely horrible and I hope it improves for you soon. Rest up and take care of yourself and little one x

Sorry it was negative @Hopingforno2in2023 I guess it's good Christmas is there to focus on. And then new year new transfer new chance 🤞
Take good care of yourself today. I hope you can plan to do something nice for yourself.

Thanks @IVFKinster. Just about to go for a frosty walk with my boys and then we have Christmas afternoon tea booked later :)

@Millie89xx rest up easy.
I don't really know if I had ohss but the consultant said I may have mild ohss and all the things I was experiencing with my bladder pain, tummy pain swelling ect was probably just because my ovaries were a bit swollen .
I think the best advice is rest, lots of fluids and salty foods to draw the fluid out. Tbh i lived off takeaway pizza and hot food from the counter 🙈
I think so long as your not experiencing any breathing problems ect it should settle down in a few weeks. I took a good few weeks to feel normal after ivf.

@MoonlightDreamer was ur belly really swollen ? Mine does look bad … I must have a serious amount of fluid in there I had my ovary’s measured yday and they were Hugh she said so maybe it’s all down to that ! Asked could they use my images in training because it showed how bad it can get .. last night I sobbed straight for a good half hour because of the pain and stretching feeling it it’s a catch 22 cos lying down eases it but then makes it twice as bad when I get up trying to function again … she told me only drink to thirst and all I read is lots of fluids ????

@Millie89xx I drank flat out although I had intense thirst . My stomach was pretty bad. I legit looked in my second trimester and now it's just back to normal. I still have discomfort in my bladder most days. i get really bad pains in my tummy and the only way to relieve it is to pee however when I do pee the pain gets worse and it makes cramps kick in. My clinic had told me to drink lots of water and monitor it. If I'm drinking say a 2L bottle a day and only peeing out a little bit then to let them know and if I had any breathlessness to report straight to hospital as that's a sign it's severe .
I told my OH if this dosent work out I don't think I could go through that again as I was in so much pain for weeks on end. I'm still feeling physically and emotionally exhausted from the process

How is every one else doing ?
I've been spending a few days with family to try take my mind of everything.
I don't think my anxiety is any better and I'm feeling exhausted.
I had a light bleed yesterday morning but nothing since. I'm trying to just block everything out the best I can.
GP still won't do a 48hr blood test so I tried to book with medichecks and that hasn't been any easier.
I can't do finger prick so booked an appointment at a clinic to have blood drawn and it's been a difficult task .
Before id paid for the tests the clinic assured me it was no hassle trying to get an appointment and they can do bloods anytime just ring the day before or early morning of and of course I went and paid for the kits. Then apparently they couldn't do Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday so I just had the one blood taken yesterday and she's not there Monday or Tuesday next week 🙈 so basically paid for 2 kits for 48hr bloods and can't get the second set done now either.
Still had no symptoms but I've been in bed since yesterday evening feeling light headed and sicky but I think its more to do with food I ate 😪

@MoonlightDreamer sound’s exactly like what I’ve got how long before the pain and bloating went down ? It’s been a week tommoro 😭 I haven’t had thirst with mine .. they’ve classed it as mild/moderatte

@Millie89xx I felt like that for a good 3 weeks. I had my retrieval on 24th oct and I only started feeling completely normal around last week. Mine had started a week before the retrieval.
I think that's what made me fear something was wrong as tbh alot of what I was feeling probably was from the side effects of ivf and not pregnancy itself so when all the symptoms vanished I panicked thinking maybe I'd had a loss.
Spending time with family and having that distraction really helped settle me down but the bleed has really freaked me out now. I'm just hoping since it was short lived that it's not concerning.

@MoonlightDreamer can’t believe they still done your fresh transfer if you had OHSS usually it’s a freeze isn’t it 😭 god our poor body’s … I’m dreading going to work Monday sitting in a chair all day

Remember that you are protected with regards work and sickness @Millie89xx so take more time if you need it!

@Millie89xx my consultant didn't seem that concerned and was pushing me towards a fresh transfer . He said the trigger set me up for a fresh and my lining was looking perfect ect so I just went with it as I'd had concerns over my lining in the past as they told me it was thin. I figured maybe now is the best time when everything is looking good but I definitely had my worries that maybe all the pain and immflamation in my body would go against me as they do say more often that's why fets are more successful as you have that time to recover from the procedure and crazy hormones but maybe thats what I needed as my body wasn't doing all the right things on its own anyway .
My only regret about not waiting is the fact I've felt so terrible and to be honest I'd eaten really unhealthy for weeks and not been able to exercise

@Hopingforno2in2023 yeah that’s true ! How are you feeling .. hope you enjoy your night with the family 💙💙

I’m ok thanks @Millie89xx. Had a lovely walk and Christmas afternoon tea. Now waiting for strictly to be on. Am v tired as was up at 5 testing but otherwise fine.

@MoonlightDreamer ahhh , how did you feel about stopping the progesterone when they rang me yday to ask about my result of test they said you can stop taking them now and although I had 4 left to take I physically can’t bend round to put them in hahaha so I was glad but I think now worry is setting in .. 😭 when is ur first scan ?