FET/IVF/ICSI Part 2

[MoonlightDreamer]

As I was replying I realised the thread has reached the limit.
I thought I'd create a new thread for us all to keep in touch.
Please feel free to tag anyone I've forgot

@lauralozzle
@meliss
@thinkpink37
@luckypineapple
@ivfkinster
@babyplease23
@lolly2507
@4thcyclelucky
@marshk
@user491
@kitt86
@Hopingforno2in2023
@woaaaahnelly
@rosesinbloom19
@millie89xx

@Millie89xx I hope you get some support and answers from your clinic and I hope you're okay. Try not to scaremonger yourself into believing if it's not worked it's because of this. You'll really never know and there's nothing to suggest it hasn't worked so far. Hang in there.

Sorry to hear about the negative tests people have had ☹️ I won't tag you in case you're just needing a bit of space. Take some time, look after yourselves and do what you need to self-care ♥️

How are you feeling @User491 anxiety-wise?

I had my viability scan with the clinic today. So grateful and thankful and just so lucky to say it went well even though I think in the 28 days since transfer I've had bleeding or spotting on approx. 20 of those. Just in case anyone else had spotting and worries. It can work out okay. We have "graduated" from the clinic and my anxiety is 150% less than the unquantifiable amount it was.

@IVFKinster so sorry I didn't wish you well! Aww amazing, so happy for you 🥰 what a milestone 🙂

Can I ask what you could see if you don't mind please? I'm there next Thursday at 6+1 and unsure what is normal for them to see?

I keep having waves of positivity, then worry 🙈 it's the cramps and twinges etc, you just second guess everything 😢

Oh don't worry at all @User491 😊 I was 6 weeks 5 days today based on transfer date. The baby blob looked a little bit like a tiny version of Casper the friendly ghost? Still quite tadpole like from different angles. Saw the blob (that's what I'm calling it until it looks like a baby), the yolk sack, fetal pole and the heartbeat flickering away. I've had so many cramps, twinges, spotting, pulling - all terrifying, all apparently fine. I won't tell you not to worry though as I was basically hyperventilating right up until the nurse said "yay!" And turned the screen.
The nurse warned before the scan that it wouldn't be unusual not to see the heartbeat at this point and not to panic if it wasn't there.

Aww your little Casper ❤️
That was my fav film as a child 🤣

So happy for you! Congratulations!!
Thanks for the reassurance, just trying to take each day as it comes. My boobs are ridiculously sore atm, I keep prodding them to make sure though... several times a day 🙈

@IVFKinster @User491 Ah thankyou. I will keep that in mind . I was offered counselling by my clinic and I'm contemplating giving it a go but I'm hesitant to open up to someone who may not possibly understand. It's different talking to you ladies, I feel I can express myself as I know you can relate to what I'm feeling. I just have the opinion I don't see how someone can offer me advice and guidance in life unless they've experienced infertility themselves.
I'm trying to just let it go today and relax a bit more. What will be will be. I'm trying to keep positive that I'm still pregnant until someone tells me otherwise.
Its just hard when I have absolutely zero symptoms and just dont feel pregnant anymore at all. Maybe I'm just very lucky and can tolerate pregnancy well. I'd read an article that said women who had morning sickness had a much lower risk of miscarriage. I suppose that hasn't helped my anxiety. I need to lay of googling things and ive ordered OH to confiscate any tests.

That's brilliant news about your scan @IVFKinster
You must feel so relieved.
I have my scan next week.
I can't imagine how nerve wrecking it must be sitting there while they scan you looking for the baby. I suppose all sorts goes through your head.
I should be 7 weeks at my scan then .
I used an ivf calculator. I had my transfer on 29th October and it claims I should be exactly 6 weeks today. Does that seem about right

@IVFKinster ah thanks .. yday was horrendous I come home from work I could Hardly walk my belly was so so swollen and sore .. woke up not feeling as nauseous today but pain and swelling still there I’m at the hospital today at 10.45 for more blood tests and hopefully from this they can give me some answers .. I test Friday and I just feel physically sick at the thought of it .. my boobs are HUGH and so sore but I’m certain that’s the pessarys ! So glad your scan went brilliant and you got to see your little baba! When I was last pregnant naturally I seen a scan at 6+2 and there was a heartbeat so nice to see isn’t it !!!!! ❤️ hope everyone is all ok ..
@Hopingforno2in2023 you hanging in there ??

Amazing news @IVFKinster!

I hope you get some answers today @Millie89xx

I am well thanks, just getting through each day.

Good morning girls !!!!
i hope everyone is keeping ok?
with everything going on and how I’m feeling I’ve took a test this morning and it’s positive I’m 10dp5dt today and the digital clear blue says pregnant I literally can’t believe it I’m so happy and shocked !
im sorry if this post upsets anyone that wasn’t my intention I just wanted to share that it does happen first time occasionally 🤞😭 x

Aww congratulations @Millie89xx that's lovely news!

@MoonlightDreamer I thought the counsellors attached to the clinic often have lived experience but maybe that's just the one at mine. But if not they'll have counselled enough people to have a good idea of what people go through. I'm a bit biased as I work in therapy so I know you don't need to have been through everything in life to be able to give empathy and understanding. I think mostly though it's just a stressful time of life we need to live through. I'm not sure about how far along you'll be. From transfer I'd be 6 weeks 5 days on my scan but paperwork says they measured me as 7 weeks 🤷

Congratulations @Millie89xx! Wonderful news :)

I am a mess at this point, convinced it hasn’t worked.

@Hopingforno2in2023 that’s what I felt like this morning so I just tested I couldn’t wait no longer with how I was feeling I’m that bloated I look 6 months honest to god I can’t believe it .. I must of had a delay to the drugs xx

I can’t test as DH has ordered the tests and they don’t arrive until tomorrow evening. Just have to keep plodding on. In a way I don’t want to as at least this way I have two more days of a small hope.

Congratulations @Millie89xx! Hope everything goes well for you 🙂
Fingers crossed @Hopingforno2in2023 that you follow in the same footsteps.

I have officialy started my period today but I am ok. I knew since Tuesday so had 2 days to be sad and cry. I am ready to get back to my normal self.
We have decided to go on a little holiday at the beginning of December to reconnect and just relax. Don`t want to think about IVF or babies this month.
We will continue trying naturally next year and then revisit IVF again if nothing happens in the following months.

I wish you all the best of luck and hope everything turns out how you want it! 🙂

@Millie89xx Congratulations! That's lovely news 🎉 I'm sure you're over the moon, especially after feeling so poorly.

@IVFKinster That's great news that your scan went well! I'm sure that's given you reassurance. Long may it continue.

My scan date is the 5th of Dec and im just feeling so very anxious at the moment. It's so difficult to stop worrying.

@MoonIightDreamer I hope you are ok?

For the ladies who didn't get good news. I'm so sorry to hear this. It is heartbreaking. I hope you are looking after yourselves well ❤️

I have red spotting so I think I’m out.

@IVFKinster thanks 🤩

@Melisss that sounds like a lovely idea I hope you both have a fantastic holiday and give yourself both time to reconnect .

@LuckyPineapple thank you so much

@Hopingforno2in2023 argh no !!!! It may just go off ? When was your period due V

It was due 3 days ago @Millie89xx. Have read that it could just be cervical irritation from the pessaries. Have had a good cry and feel calmer now.

@Hopingforno2in2023 oh I would just do a test put your mind at rest x keep positive

I'm sorry to hear that @Melisss. A holiday with time to reconnect sounds lovely and much deserved. I hope you have an amazing holiday. Take very good care of yourself.

@LuckyPineapple I hope you're holding up okay. The worry is unbelievable. Such a heavy thing to carry around all day everyday. I hope your scan comes around very quickly. Does anyone in real life know?

@Hopingforno2in2023 that sucks that you've had red spotting. You really won't know until you test as I don't think spotting means anything any more but absolutely relate to the reaction of just having a bit cry about it. I have everything crossed that you get a positive outcome when you do test. I think irritation causes by the pessaries is normal. From my experience the ends of them are a bit thicker than the rest and I reckon can be rough in there as they dissolve!

I'm on lubion injections and the leaflet literally says it can cause spotting/bleeding. Isn't that weird for progesterone? 🙄 Like do the creators not know that's the worst side effect ever for the medication that supports pregnancy?

How are you feeling @Millie89xx ? Did you ever hear back from the clinic or the hospital about whether you have an infection? Hopefully it all feels a little bit more worth it now!

@IVFKinster so it looks like whatever I had has peaked because my white blood cells are coming back down however there not happy about the swelling and pain on my belly I honestly look 6 months pregnant and I’m still in pain .. so I’m hoping they call me in for a scan tommoro to see if there is anything going on in there that shouldn’t it is a constant worry isn’t it .. non of my pants fit ha ha

@IVFKinster with the exception of my mum, my partner and I hadn't told anyone about our fertility journey. My partner is just a bit more private in that regard.
However, we decided to tell my sister and her husband and my partners parents last weekend. Really just for that support and probably for them to understand if I appear distant at times with anxiety. They have been so supportive and they really can't believe the journey we have been on.
It made me realise by telling them all about IVF, just how strong we all are ❤️

@MoonIightDreamer absolutely keep that feeling it will keep you going, it's what I am trying to think all the time too, one week to go!
I think your dates are right, mine was the 6th November and it says I'm 5+1 now.

@Millie89xx lovely news, congratulations 🥳
Hope they get to the bottom of what's causing the issues

@Hopingforno2in2023 bless you, I really hope you get some good news, hopefully the spotting is nothing to worry about 🤞🏻

@Melisss thinking of you, a holiday will do you both the world of good ❤️

@LuckyPineapple so lovely you found the right moment to share your journey, it's so true isn't it that sometimes until you reflect on it all, the whole process and journey you don't realise how much you have been through!