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After five girls, finally a boy

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belgo · 13/09/2009 07:41

here interesting, honest article about a father's thoughts when he had a son after five girls.

It's also an interesting article about wanting a big family and the economy of scale - something that I've noticed having three children.

Love all of their children's names. I would lvoe six children, but no way could we cope!

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belgo · 13/09/2009 07:42

It's DM but still a good article.

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franklymydear · 13/09/2009 07:49

i think girls are far more difficult than boys

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belgo · 13/09/2009 07:51

franklymydear - I think that depends on the individual child.

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Meglet · 13/09/2009 07:54

Aaaaw, I remember seeing an article about his family when his wife was pg. Glad their new ds is ok after a rocky start. I would have loved a big family, but stuck at 2.

franklymydear · 13/09/2009 07:57

well I've got 2 of each and a wide range of cousins of varying ages and it isn't true at all in my life so disagree that its individual child

the article stated confidently that boys are harder to raise and I've seen that said a lot on here and i totally disagree with it in my experience

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belgo · 13/09/2009 08:06

I've found the sentence you were referring to franklymydear, somehow it had past me by:

'Everybody seems to agree that bringing up little women is a doddle compared to boys, with their constant thirst to test themselves and obliterate boundaries.'

Ha Ha Ha Ha;

Totally disagree.

But I still maintain it depends on the individual child.

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MarshaBrady · 13/09/2009 08:08

It is a nice article, I know dh revels in having a boy for many of the reasons he states. But would also love a girl.

Why are girls more difficult iye frankly? Out of interest as I don't have one yet.

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belgo · 13/09/2009 08:09

Marsha - my dh is so happy with a boy as well, as were all of his family as he is the only grandson.

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belgo · 13/09/2009 08:19

Marsha - I think boys and girls both bring challenges with them - some the same, some more specific to their sex.

I think it's rather naïve to say one sex is easier then the other - it simply depends on the child.

I've had a few people ask me if I have noticed any difference with my ds aged 11 months, compared to my two girls.

Well, no, I haven't. He's easy to look after, he's a baby. I just need eyes at the back of my head, because he climbs everywhere, but dd1 did the same and more, so I'm well practised .

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GirlsAreLOud · 13/09/2009 08:21

NIce article.

This statement though: "I have had five opportunities to watch how my DNA replicates itself in female form. It is not narcissistic to want to see the male equivalent."

DOES sound narcissistic to me! Guess it's just the way it's phrased and my interpretation though.

MarshaBrady · 13/09/2009 08:26

I imagine that to be true too belgo.

Especially as ds is not typically boyish in his escapades, but more interested in concentrating on lego or learning stuff. Very particular to him.

Another one due soon so I'll have a chance to compare!

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belgo · 13/09/2009 08:29

I suppose he means it's not any more narcissistic to want to see his DNA replicated in a boy then it is in a girl.

I'm interested in the statements about Belgium clinics leading embryo selection based on gender - I know that Belgium clinics are very advanced in embryo genetic testing.

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FlamingoBingo · 13/09/2009 08:31

Girls or boys are surely not harder, just different! Different people will find different sexes a harder challenge based on their own abilities and personality.

Just like parenting at different stages is difficult in different ways, and different parents find different stages hard.

Disenchanted3 · 13/09/2009 08:33

wow i bet shes knackered.

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belgo · 13/09/2009 08:33

Marsha - the lego thing really annoys me - the lego aimed at little girls is more or less rubbish compared to that of boys. We are big lego fans in this house! DD1 is rather boyish in her escapades (that can be a good thing and a bad thing!), but also can be very girly, singing and dancing.

DD2 is more of a typical girl, but her piercing screaming drives me to distraction.

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belgo · 13/09/2009 08:34

yes that sums up the article very accurately disenchanted!

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TheBalladofGayTony · 13/09/2009 08:38

lovely family but i couldn't finish the article i go bored with the self congratulation.

sweetkitty · 13/09/2009 08:52

I am pregnant with no4 after 3 girls, I DO NOT WANT A BOY, I AM NOT TRYING FOR A BOY, MY DP IS NOT A POOR MAN, the last comment particularly upsets DP when people say he is poor having only daughters, he says he has 3 healthy, happy little women, how can he be poor?

We are pregnant again as we want 4 children, I know in my heart this baby is a girl, if a scan reveals an extra bit I will fall off the table, I adore my girls another one will be fab. Yet I feel the need to justify and bat off all the inevitable comments once I go public. A boy wouldn't stand a chance in this house he would be drowned in a sea of pink (well that's not strictly true there is DD2 with her train sets, lego and cars) but I would feel sorry for him 3 big sisters, no another pink one will do just fine.

Regards the article it was very smug, lovely children though and good on them, wonder if they would have kept going and going until they got a boy though? I do feel a little sorry for the daughters though especially 4 and 5 as if they got in the way of the authors desire for a son.

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FlamingoBingo · 13/09/2009 09:08

Sweetkitty - we have four girls and get the same comments. DH just says smugly 'It takes a man to father daughters'

Disenchanted3 · 13/09/2009 09:11

My parents had 4 girls and my dad wanted to try for 5 for a boy, doesnt mean he loves us girls any less.

afvter 2 boys (which were what i wanted) i was desperate for a daughter and luckily got one

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sweetkitty · 13/09/2009 09:18

I suppose then I am damned not matter what we produce this time.

a boy - poor henpecked little thing, and poor DDs

a girl - well we will be so disappointed for sure, poor DP

I guess this is such an emotive topic for me as I remember things like being heavily pregnant with DD3 with the other 2 DDs and someone saying "oh you'll be praying for a boy then?" and I replied "no I know it's a girl" to be told "aww that's a shame, scans can be wrong you know!" and once DD3 was born holding her in my arms and people looking at her and saying "aww another girl" as if there were ill or something" I had a perfect baby girl, how can I be disappointed??!!

Oh I cannot wait for the comments this time!

PlumBumMum · 13/09/2009 09:37

Sweetkitty Love your outlook, and congratulations on another addition to your family!

Flamingobingo your dh is right, I can understand everyone saying it depends on the individual child but I definitely think litte girls are far more independant little madams from a young age than boys

btw I had 1 of each and went on to have a third baby sometimes I felt people thought I was being greedy, because after one of each I could stop,no?

Podrick · 13/09/2009 09:41

Perhaps some parents find girls more difficult than boys or vv?