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Has there been a thread yet about parents who want schools to tell them what time to send children to bed?

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emkana · 07/05/2006 20:09

Haven't got particular article to hand, but I was just thinking about this because I'm enjoying the peace and quiet with both my dd's asleep.

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SenoraPostrophe · 07/05/2006 20:10

what? do parents want that?

GDG · 07/05/2006 20:10

?

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emkana · 07/05/2006 20:11

Yes it said in the paper last week that some parents have asked for headteachers to give guidance what time to send children to bed.

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Enid · 07/05/2006 20:12

dd2s nursrey put in the newsletter at the beginning of veery term, please ensure your child gets 12 hours sleep a night

marthamoo · 07/05/2006 20:33

Enid, I'd have to put ds2 to bed at 6pm for that - he's up at 6 (or before..) every day. Is this the nursery that wants you burned at the stake if you don't say grace Grin?

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emkana · 07/05/2006 20:38

I think insisting on 12 hours is a bit much.
Dd2 is not three yet and sleeps 11 to 11 and a half hours in every 24 hours, and that's just right for her.

But why do some parents want headteachers to tell them what time to send their children to school? Because they need the added authority when telling their child to go to bed? "Mr so-and-so says..."
Or because they really can't work out themselves what time to send their child to bed?
I can't understand because it's so lovely when all goes quiet in the evenings - why would anybody deprive themselves of that feeling?

Saying that, I have a friend whose dd is nearly seven and she is up every night until about 10 o'clock, and she always has stayed up this late. Friend seems completely unable to change that.

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Caligula · 07/05/2006 20:39

Lord, why don't they just insist the Headmistress comes round and reads a bedtime story as well - for 400 children.

What is the matter with these people? Don't they have access to books, magazines and Dr Tanya? Are they really so dependent on the schools their children go to, to tell them everything? I've heard of schools working in partnership with parents, but this is mad.

TwoIfBySea · 07/05/2006 21:32

Why would some parents be so clueless as to need someone to tell them an appropriate bedtime?

If it really has gotten so bad then perhaps the antenatal classes should be replaced with proper parenting classes. Step by step guide for the completely thick if needed!

Dts go to sleep between 7.30-8 and wake up around that time in the am. I know if they have woken up too early or gone to sleep too late as they are grumpy and argumentative.

It is like the article you posted on the other thread emkana, why do some people bother having children at all!

Piggiesmum · 07/05/2006 22:39

These are the parents who will then blame the school because their 3 teenage daughters are all mothers before they are 16/17 like that woman in teh news a while ago.

Because they are too lazy/stupid to take any responsibility themselves.

GDG · 07/05/2006 23:06

Why on earth would you need telling that 7pm is a good bedtime - not least because you crack open a bottle of wine and flop down on the sofa watching tele. Or even, gasp, go to the loo uninterrupted!

Never mind that the kids need sleep - we need our sanity! Who doesn't know that?!

FairyMum · 08/05/2006 08:50

Probably also a rubbish story. A couple of moron parents approached the teacher with this idea and suddenly all parents around the country (or make that working mums if article was in the Daily Mail) demand the government send out directives about bedtime.

Enid · 08/05/2006 08:53

yes moo it is that one

the newsletter also recommends no telly or computer games during the week

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threebob · 08/05/2006 09:26

Maybe Mumsnet should become the national advisor for bedtimes, nappy rash creams and taking your kids out of school in term time.

You post your question and we all come up with an opinion and then you do exactly what the majority reckoned.

Turquoise · 08/05/2006 09:31

My ds is a day boy at a mixed day and boarding school, and it really pisses me off that I expect his light out at 9pm (he is 11) but always get an argument about "the boarders don't go to bed till 9.30". So no, I don't appreciate the school 'guidelines' at all!

Uwila · 08/05/2006 10:21

Is this a joke? Have they no brain? I think these parents need to go on a course for "How to make decisions on your own".

My goodness, do you think the school could come round and remind them to inhale and exhale repeatedly throughout the day?

flamesparrow · 08/05/2006 10:38

pmsl that so many of us have earlier bedtimes so we have quietness and wine Grin

DD goes to bed at 7.30 (ish) whether she is tired or not! If she's not, she plays in her room for an hour or so, and then more often that not turns her own light out and goes to bed before I go up to tell her (I'm not sure whether to be proud or sad of that in a 3 yr old Blush). I need that time for my sanity. DS is now going up about the same time.

I am mummy 24/7, and evenings is my coffee break Grin

Twinkie1 · 08/05/2006 10:39

Think this is rideculous - why not just give the school your kids and be absolved of all parental responsibility!!!

flamesparrow · 08/05/2006 10:40

pmsl that so many of us have earlier bedtimes so we have quietness and wine Grin

DD goes to bed at 7.30 (ish) whether she is tired or not! If she's not, she plays in her room for an hour or so, and then more often that not turns her own light out and goes to bed before I go up to tell her (I'm not sure whether to be proud or sad of that in a 3 yr old Blush). I need that time for my sanity. DS is now going up about the same time.

I am mummy 24/7, and evenings is my coffee break Grin

Gingerbear · 08/05/2006 10:45

Geez! What next? Advice on what they should have for tea and at what time?? Best time for a poo? (I prefer morning myself)

joelalie · 08/05/2006 14:20

I don't need schools to tell me when to put my kids to bed...I know that [tutting and eyes rolling emoticon].

But if they'd like to come and actually make it happen I'd really appreciate it....please.

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Caligula · 08/05/2006 14:22

Yeah, I wish they could come and make the dinner as well.

And vacuum the place while they're about it. Grin

Caligula · 08/05/2006 14:22

And if they wouldn't mind putting the laundry out, I'd be very grateful for their input!

Caligula · 08/05/2006 14:23

And then they can wipe my arse as well. Grin Grin Grin

jac34 · 08/05/2006 14:34

My boys are 7yo and have about 11hours sleep a night,sometimes 12.If they don't get it,they are complete grotbags the next morning.We do allow them to stay up a bit later on weekends but not always,it's a privilage that gets withdrawn if they are naughty.
I got a bit of an offish comment about it,from one of their mates mum(he's obviously allowed to stay up till all hours),but they just can't cope with late nights.

You would think some parents would have more sence though,when you hear how late some children are put to bed,perhaps some need to be told.

Blandmum · 08/05/2006 15:46

The thing is though that some kids obviously don't have enough sleep. A few years ago I taugh one lad who would be almost asleep on his feet, because his father used to take him to the pub with his mates most nights. The lad never got to bed before (was 14-15 at the time)

few, if any MNetters would need to be told that kids need a reasonable bed time (the wine factor is a good one! Grin ) but you can't believe how daft some parents can be. Some have no common sense at all.