Slattern, list makers and procrastinators, fudging our way into Feb - ..........

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everyone welcome (and yes I'm taking a flipping liberty starting the new thread )

Afternoon

internet crashed for several days last week and though I have my iphone, it's a bit of a nightmare to do certain things from it - not been ignoring everyone!

Hope everyone is feeling better. I am losing my voice - some might say that's a blessing

Mostly I have been panicking about childcare, visiting nurseries etc so my house looks a state...

JOBS:

Check out nursery - if ok, enrol DS2 (sob) done
supermarket done (I had to eat chocolate biscuits to recover....)
email boss re return to work (sobering prospect, not sure I can remember what it is I am meant to do. ) done
enrol Ds1 at after school club done
email friend re joint birthday dinner next week done
ring parents
washing (1 load done, only a mountain left to clear)
hoover
cook dinner (what??)
start Ocado order
book catsitter done
Book spa day DH bought for me (2 years ago...) done. Hurray

have to go. DS2 crying.....

Hi Jolene

Wasting - no, tbh he just wanted to look out the door window but another mum kind of sat in his way so he couldn't easily get there, and he didn't really join in anything.

Tues:

• all up & breakfasted DONE
• all dressed DONE
• strip beds & find clean bedding DONE
• swap over bathmats & towels DONE
• quick tidy round pre-cleaners DONE
• DS1 to pre-sch DONE
• me & DS2 to Sing & Sign DONE
• home for phone calls/jobs Done2
• collect ds1 DONE
• lunch & tidy kitchen DONE
• DS2 nap Doing
• pop to shops for forgotten bits (+ lightbulb, take old one with me) DONE (they didn't have the right bulb or Vit E)
• other afternoon activity? DS1Played
• tea x 3 DONE
• kitchen tidied DONE

• boys bath & bed
• orchestra (check cash for sitter DONE) (ask other player for recipe for a friend)
• book sitter for Saturday too (my bday) Texted

Ongoing List:

• contact new dentist & see if we can register
• return borrowed stuff (2 x DVDs)
• photos off camera (upload & order online prints)
• order door curtain (& rail) for front door
• see if old bed can be got out of room without wrecking it to give away
• find home for spare double mattress (or give away?)
• go through all the bedding & sort out
• thank you cards for DS2's birthday
• clean kitchen cupboard doors Started
• sort kitchen shelves & clean
• get new lightbulb for under-cupboard light in kitchen Tried
• windscreen cleaner in my car BoughtMore
• find out about swimming lessons for DS1 (Have tip about nearby place with spaces)
• plan London activities Doing (Booked London Eye tickets)
• Vitamin E capsules Tried
• wait for GOSH to ring back re weaning DS2 drugs

Evening everyone We've been out all day, Music with Mummy and then lunch - and then I fell asleep when we got back! DH was here so I wasn't being a neglectful parent, honestly!

JKS - that does sound upsetting. Is there another class that you could try locally instead that he might get more out of for this term? DS didn't take to signing at all, he prefers something where he can get up and have a dance about to some music and play the drums!
For the Vit E - have you tried the Healthspan website? Very good quality vitamins and supplements and not expensive.

Alice - that sounds fab!

Plum - glad DD is getting better, you have been very calm about it, I would be freaking out about meningitis etc

Jolene - when are you due back at work?

HMHB - I saw you had mentioned work clothes a couple of days ago, are you due back soon?

Freak - wow, I will be opening the champagne the day that my house has no Areas of Doom!

I need to have a bit of a moan about my brother and the stupid wedding stuff again. I e-mailed him asking for the timings for the day etc because we need to sort out what to do with DS. He e-mailed back with a list of nurseries near to the wedding venue and said 'hope these are useful, if you can leave DS at one of these on the day then it would be really nice if you all came to the hotel the night before blah blah'
WTF? They are normal nursries, so Mon-Fri and probably with waiting lists as long as your arm! He has no bloody idea.
So I e-mailed back saying that they were only weekday places, our only option would be a nanny for the day which we aren't prepared to do for a whole variety of reasons. Said that I would probably come on my own so that DH could look after DS, and that I would leave after the meal and not stay for the first dance/evening etc.
I'm awaiting his reply!

So bloody cross, he obviously thinks it's a major concession that they are 'inviting' DS to even come to the hotel. They can fuck off, I'm not letting him play doting uncle when he chooses to while he excludes DS from the actual day which is also effectively excluding DH.

And BREATHE!

DONE
Music with Mummy
Lunch and afternoon with friend
Pick DH up from the station
Nap
Dinner
DS bath and bed (DH finishing now)

TO DO
Unload dishwasher
Clear up
Tidy living room and dining room
Wash nappies
Fold clean and dry washing

Ali - breathe, wedding seem to make people lose their marbles or something. Stay calm, do what you can and one day (maybe) he'll realise how twattish his behaviour was and be really sheepish!!

Well we go to a normal stay & play thing on friday mornings (though he's only been twice since the op) and he enjoyed that so will keep going to that.
Am joining a 'heuristic play' session that starts in a few weeks which i hope he'll enjoy (i know the other mums going so i know i'll be fine, lol).
And the SN centre has signed him up for a physical group called tumbling turtles which sounds kind of cute (though i'm nervous as know no-one).
So will just skip a few S&S for a few weeks and see if he gets more into at home. Thing is he used to sign loads and be really into it but i think i didn't think about how it would feel for me 'going back'...

Tues:

• boys bath & bed DONE
• orchestra DONE (ask other player for recipe for a friend - DONE)
• book sitter for Saturday too (my bday) DONE

Wed:

• remember to book a restaurant for Sat
• all up & breakfasted
• all dressed
• DS1 to pre-sch
• some jobs done
• pop to friends for cuppa later on (11ish)
• collect ds1
• lunch & tidy up
• see if any friends free/healthy/doing anything (everyone seems ill atm!)
• ds2 nap
• tea x 3
• tidy kitchen
• boys to bed
• DH home late

Ongoing List:

• contact new dentist & see if we can register
• return borrowed stuff (2 x DVDs)
• photos off camera (upload & order online prints)
• order door curtain (& rail) for front door
• see if old bed can be got out of room without wrecking it to give away
• find home for spare double mattress (or give away?)
• go through all the bedding & sort out
• thank you cards for DS2's birthday
• clean kitchen cupboard doors Started
• sort kitchen shelves & clean
• get new lightbulb for under-cupboard light in kitchen Tried
• top up windscreen cleaner in my car
• find out about swimming lessons for DS1 (Have tip about nearby place with spaces)
• plan London activities Doing (Booked London Eye tickets)
• Vitamin E capsules Tried
• wait for GOSH to ring back re weaning DS2 drugs

Oh Ali, what a silly DB!

JKS, that's a shame. Just being in a different environment will be stimulating for him tho I'd have thought? Agree with Ali though, check out some other classes.

• all up, dressed, teethbrushed done
• beds made, windows and curtains open done
• condensation patrol done
• spatone + OJ done
• breakfast done
• check email and online banking doing
• laundry - 2nd load washing
• town - market + Boots done
• lunch done
• chill out doing
• kitchen - needs clearing some
• tea done
• tidy downstairs done
• DS bath and bed done
• is the kitchen cleared? is
• ready for the morning? bag packed? yeah
• more paperwork nah

DIY jobs -

• paint front door - 1 coat inside, 1 coat outside
• pictures and clocks up DSroomdone
• open painted-shut window in bedroom
• mirror up in bathroom - going to get a different mirror
• big mirror up in bedroom
• fix wardrobe door need correct screw
• get new curtains for front room

To Do -

• make compost bin
• get a 2nd green box
• filing - new folder/dividers etc.? progressing
• can I buy another shelf for oven? err not sure, found a number to ring, rang will ring back
• need new bedding
• take DH ring to get mended
• locate or replace cable for camera
• plan Christmas 2010

Hi all. Haven't been able to read through yet but will do in a bit.

A massive PHEW from me. It has been just mad the last few days have hardly had time to think.

DH is away and I've been back to work the last 2 days on Keeping In Touch Days. Hence buying of work clothes Ali!

Granny has been looking after DD and I've been driving back and forth from work to bfeed her.

Also the boiler has packed in (no heating or hot water) and DS is being a nightmare (missing his dad). I have been thinking that I can't cope with much more of this but my mum and I have been having a couple of glasses of wine of an evening and hopefully things are going to calm down now. I won't be going back to work for a while yet and I'm glad because it was just too much. I haven't been having much sleep either. DD has been waking at 3am or 4am and I was up til midnight last night trying to fix the heating.

So I am hoping for a better night sleep tonight. The heating bloke is coming tomorrow morning and I don't have to go to work so should be lots calmer.

DS is bugging me, trying to get my attention and messing about at meal times because he is missing his dad. It is just so waring with him repeating questions endlessly. I should be able to give him more attention tomorrow and hopefully this will chill him out a bit.

Tomorrow
Breakfast
Clear away breakfast things
DS to school
Pilates/walk
Vitamins
Rubbish out
Recycling
Make beds
Food shop
Put shopping away
Lunch
Bring logs in
Light woodburner
put washing on
put washing to dry
Washing folded and put away
tidy kitchen
empty dishy
reload dishy
filing!
dinner
bath DD/DS (if got hot water)
DD/DS to bed
tidy bedroom
put toys away in lounge

also
Pay DS's dinner money done
Pay meithrin nursery done
Write meithrin nursery donation letters
admin/post
pay money into DD's account
Speak to builders re ridiculous quote for wall
thank you cards!!! donex2
Pick up stuff from laundry and put away
Get photos printed
Buy new address book and fill in
Get some clothes for work done

Ali - feel for you with the wedding issue with your bro. Same sort of thing happening for us with two weddings this year. The first is this month where neither of our kids are invited. I can't leave DD as am bfeeding so we aren't going. The bride and groom have a baby so should know better.

The second is in May and they will let DD come but not DS as he will take up a space. So annoying as we will have to make all kinds of arrangements for DS and do a lot of travelling to make it to the wedding.

Hope it gets sorted without too much hassle. Sounds more difficult for you as its your bro!

Blimey HMHB, what an awful week so far for you! Hope it gets better.

It is a total PITA this whole wedding thing, because there is the expectation that I at least am there - DB has actually said to me 'don't you dare tell me that you are not coming'. If it was friends then we could either leave DS with my parents, or say 'thanks but no thanks' - but neither of those options are open to us. SIL and BIL were going to come and look after DS here, but BIL is 99% going to be posted to Afganistan and SIL is really quite disabled so she can't manage DS on her own, not safely.

That is pretty awful about the wedding in May - do you have to go?

JKS - those groups sound good, hopefully in a couple of months he'll be able to start the signing again.

DONE
Music with Mummy
Lunch and afternoon with friend
Pick DH up from the station
Nap
Dinner
DS bath and bed
Unload dishwasher
Clear up
Tidy living room and dining room
Wash nappies
Fold clean and dry washing
10 mins Area of Doom prevention in the kitchen

TO DO
Drink hot choc and watch Survivors!

I need a laptop, Kids have been busy with projects etc and I havent got a chance to get on! Hope everyone is well, Have got up early so I could post

TO DO
Wash Breakfast Dishes
Clear Counters
Clean one press door
Clear out one press
Washing
Brush Kitchen Floor
Tidy Dining Table
Brush Floor
Tidy around Computer Table
Tidy one shelf at side of fridge
Tidy sitting room
Sweep Floor
Make Beds
Clean Bathroom
Collect DD3
Make Lunch
Down to give Mam her tablets
Collect DDs
Make DCs dinner
Clear over after it
Make Tea for DH
Leave him to tidy up
Scouts

Morning CC

HMHB - hope things calm down for you a bit.

Ali - how old is DS? Can you not say to your bro that you are all coming, fait accompli and all that. At least if you're all at the same place you & DH can take it in turns to entertain DS/take him out if he's restless, etc.
Even if you all go to bed early (is it in a hotel?) or one of you does with DS, that would be better than not going or you going on your own i would think.
Also, really DS will not massively impact on things in a negative way & all the older generation will like seeing him.
Sorry sticking my nose in!

Wed:

• remember to book a restaurant for Sat
• all up & breakfasted DONE
• all dressed 1Done
• DS1 to pre-sch
• some jobs done
• pop to friends for cuppa later on (11ish)
• collect ds1
• lunch & tidy up
• see if any friends free/healthy/doing anything (everyone seems ill atm!)
• ds2 nap
• tea x 3
• tidy kitchen
• boys to bed
• DH home late

Ongoing List:

• contact new dentist & see if we can register
• return borrowed stuff (2 x DVDs)
• photos off camera (upload & order online prints)
• order door curtain (& rail) for front door
• see if old bed can be got out of room without wrecking it to give away
• find home for spare double mattress (or give away?)
• go through all the bedding & sort out
• thank you cards for DS2's birthday
• clean kitchen cupboard doors Started
• sort kitchen shelves & clean
• get new lightbulb for under-cupboard light in kitchen Tried
• top up windscreen cleaner in my car
• find out about swimming lessons for DS1 (Have tip about nearby place with spaces)
• plan London activities Doing (Booked London Eye tickets)
• Vitamin E capsules Tried
• wait for GOSH to ring back re weaning DS2 drugs

Morning everyone

JKS - we have been through all that and they refuse to make an exception. SIL is a total bridezilla and is determined that her wedding be the social event of the year, the daft cow. There is still a strong possibility that I won't go either, because I dislike them both intensely at the moment and wish they weren't getting married!

CC - you do need a laptop! MNing cannot be interupted by your children!!

TODAY
Me and DH up - done
Shower and dressed - done
Get DS up and dressed - done
Spatone + vitamins - done
Breakfast and tidy kitchen - done
Make beds and tidy upstairs
Wipe over bathroom
Pack bag for day
Make sure I have cash or chequebook for hairdresser
Drop DH at station?
Drive to my parents
Haircut at 2.30
Come home
Dinner x 3
Clear up
DS bath and bed
Post DS-to-bed tidy
Kitchen clear before bed
Take ADs

LAUNDRY
Fold clean laundry
Put away clean things from airing cupboard
1 load of washing

JKS - DS is 18 months.

TO DO
Wash Breakfast Dishes DONE
Clear Counters DONE
Clean one press door
Clear out one press
Washing LOAD ON
Brush Kitchen Floor
Tidy Dining Table
Brush Floor
Tidy around Computer Table
Tidy one shelf at side of fridge
Tidy sitting room
Sweep Floor
Make Beds
Clean Bathroom
Collect DD3
Make Lunch
Down to give Mam her tablets
Collect DDs
Make DCs dinner
Clear over after it
Make Tea for DH
Leave him to tidy up
Scouts

Bloody hell HMHB sounds hectic.

for you Ali, how wierd that your brother thinks you can just put ds in nursery for a day! Did you find me on fb btw?

JKS must be so hard, you have been so amazingly strong through the whole thing so don't forget that you are allowed to break down sometimes!

RE the areas of doom, I think I just have low standards . Plus there are loads of things that I would be working on if I owned the house but it being rented means I either can't or just don't want to go through the whole hassle of getting permission from landlord etc. In terms of tidiness/cleanliness/organisation it's currently not too bad though (says I as ds attacks the board games again!)

Oh and I have watched the entire s5 of lost in 2 days

All up, dressed, breakfasted - DONE
Washing up -
Wipe kitchen sides and dining table ?
Load of washing in ? DONE
DD to preschool - DONE
Load of washing hung up ?
Supermarket - DONE
Hoover downstairs ?
Clean loo ? DONE
Wipe bathroom sink ? DONE
Try to de-limescale taps- DONE ( STILL NOT SUCCESSFUL)
Strip ds? bed ? DONE
Hoover up plaster from fallen down curtain rail ?
Remake ds? bed -
Lunch ?
EXERCISE ?
DRINK MORE (not alcohol!) ?
Recycling pile into box- DONE
Put away clean washing-
Pick up dd ?
Cook dinner ?
Wash up -
Bath and bed dc?s-
Tidy kitchen and sitting room ?

Morning

After my enthusiasm yesterday i was violently sick (some bug) so that put paid to that. Hopefully get some stuff done today.

JKS what does ds like to do? Our childrens centre has a sensational babies group which is lots of twinkly lights, different textures etc. If there is something like that near you they may let you take DS because of the situation.

Ali I can't understand people banning kids from weddings. We got a bouncy castle and made sure there was some childrens food sepecially for them. Where abouts is the wedding? Could you perhaps see if there are any Mnetters about that child mind in the area?

I have put the horses out in the field and been to waitrose. Need to do lunch and pick friend up at 2.30 to come and ride one of the horses. Then sort some clothes out when i get home.

sepecially? I mean especially

Hello all. DS was sick in the night. I bathed him and redid bedtime routine at 5am!

Glad you're better today Alice.

HMHB, hope you get a break soon.

• all up, dressed, teethbrushed done
• beds made, windows and curtains open done
• condensation patrol
• spatone + OJ done
• breakfast done
• check email and online banking doing
• laundry - folded done DS sheets
• kitchen - Aaarrghhhh!
• lunch
• ?
• tea
• tidy downstairs
• DS bath and bed
• is the kitchen cleared?
• ready for the morning? bag packed? Playgroup tomorrow!
• more paperwork

DIY jobs -

• paint front door - 1 coat inside, 1 coat outside
• pictures and clocks up DSroomdone
• open painted-shut window in bedroom
• mirror up in bathroom - going to get a different mirror
• big mirror up in bedroom
• fix wardrobe door need correct screw
• get new curtains for front room

To Do -

• make compost bin
• get a 2nd green box
• filing - new folder/dividers etc.? progressing
• can I buy another shelf for oven? err not sure, found a number to ring, rang will ring back ring them again
• need new bedding
• take DH ring to get mended
• locate or replace cable for camera
• plan Christmas 2010

HI Everyone

HMHB Hope you get your boiler fixed it snowing here so can't imagine having no heatat the minute

JKS you'll have days like that and I think the important thing is to not feel guilty about having a bad day, like you should be over it/used to it, but your coping well think the new groups sound good

Ali Ithink you sould go with JKS suggestion and just book yourselves into the hotel anddh & ds join you after the cermony, is that possible?

It is really anoying we recieved our Invite to BILs wedding,
so dh needs to ring him and let him know that me and the dcs are not going,
I'm still hoping they will reconsider about the other reception but I doubt it, which the bride has already said to me will just be a celebration party with a buffet not a proper dinner service reception.
Actaly the more I think about it the more peeved I get, probably wouldn't be so annoyed if BIL had been so flippant about me being able to miss dd2s birthday for once

Anyway
I'm really struggling to get motivated today, realised I have no dinner planned for today, so will cjeck cupboards before I go do school runs as I need to go to shop anyway

definitely need to do lots of ironing if not finish it all!!!

Thanks guys

Weddings do seem to cause such probs don't they? it's weird

Wasting - hope DS is ok?

I've had so many people stay for kids tea over the last year, today is the first time we're going to someone else's! & yey at the same time.

Wed:

• remember to book a restaurant for Sat
• all up & breakfasted DONE
• all dressed DONE
• DS1 to pre-sch DONE
• some jobs done
• pop to friends for cuppa later on (11ish) DONE
• collect ds1 DONE
• lunch & tidy up DONE
• see if any friends free/healthy/doing anything DONE
• ds2 nap Doing

• go to friends later & stay for boys tea (yey!)
• boys to bed
• DH home late

Ongoing List:

• contact new dentist & see if we can register
• return borrowed stuff (2 x DVDs)
• photos off camera (upload & order online prints)
• order door curtain (& rail) for front door
• see if old bed can be got out of room without wrecking it to give away
• find home for spare double mattress (or give away?)
• go through all the bedding & sort out
• thank you cards for DS2's birthday
• clean kitchen cupboard doors Started
• sort kitchen shelves & clean
• get new lightbulb for under-cupboard light in kitchen Tried
• top up windscreen cleaner in my car
• find out about swimming lessons for DS1 (Have tip about nearby place with spaces)
• plan London activities Doing (Booked London Eye tickets)
• Vitamin E capsules Tried
• wait for GOSH to ring back re weaning DS2 drugs

re: wedding craziness. What planet are some people on?!

JKS, have fun!

He still seems a bit off it today, though he's not been 100% since the thrush started. That seems to be gone at least, though I've been very forgetful about the medicine some days.

• all up, dressed, teethbrushed done
• beds made, windows and curtains open done
• condensation patrol
• spatone + OJ done
• breakfast done
• check email and online banking doing
• laundry - folded done DS sheets washing
• kitchen - Aaarrghhhh! - dry pots done wash pots, clean surfaces, take rubbish out, clean floor,

+ black bag done

• lunch doing
• ?
• tea
• tidy downstairs
• DS bath and bed
• is the kitchen cleared?
• ready for the morning? bag packed? Playgroup tomorrow!
• more paperwork

DIY jobs -

• paint front door - 1 coat inside, 1 coat outside
• pictures and clocks up DSroomdone
• open painted-shut window in bedroom
• mirror up in bathroom - going to get a different mirror
• big mirror up in bedroom
• fix wardrobe door need correct screw
• get new curtains for front room

To Do -

• make compost bin
• get a 2nd green box
• filing - new folder/dividers etc.? progressing
• can I buy another shelf for oven? err not sure, found a number to ring, rang will ring back ring them again
• need new bedding
• take DH ring to get mended
• locate or replace cable for camera
• plan Christmas 2010

just en this on ahther thread love it!!!!!

that was supposed to say just seen this on another thread

laptop key board and me don't work well together