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It's July, Fledglings are Flying towards Freedom (hopefully!)

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EverythingDelegated · 30/06/2021 20:43

Hello and welcome to the July 2021 Fledgling Flylady Thread. Thank you Willow for an excellent pair of June threads. Welcome to one and all, old hands and newbies, lurkers and longtime posters and anyone in between. This thread keeps us vaguely on track with Flylady and is where we post our Ta Das and Yes Ta Das (what we did yesterday 😁), our To Dos and To Didn'ts, and discuss anything that comes to mind (often not housekeeping!).

The beauty of Flylady is that you are never behind, the whole system repeats every month, just jump in wherever. The aim is to gradually get into good habits and regular routines that keep the house ticking over rather than having a huge blitz on it.

To help you with this I'll be posting links to Flyady's Flight Plan and other useful parts of the website, which is updated daily, it's also good to go in and have a browse (some of it is a bit twee though). Do NOT sign up for the emails, you will be inundated.

The system divides the house up into weekly zones, then in each zone there will be timefor decluttering, a small daily task (the Mission) and each day of the week has a theme too (eg Errand Day). You can switch things around to suit your circumstances, there is a weekly Sneak Peek page to help you plan ahead. There are also 31 Babysteps, small daily habits to adopt (eg wearing shoes around the house if you'd rather not). Finally Flylady wants you to make time for you and your family, so weekends are more relaxed.

Jargon
Flylady (and the thread!) has a little bit of her own peculiar jargon it can help to know:
S&S - swish and swipe - a quick go round a bathroom or cloakroom to keep it acceptably fresh
LoL load of laundry. We are not collapsing into hysterical laughter over the state of our washing baskets
Hotspots any areas that tend to collect clutter no matter how often you clear them - mine is definitely the corner of the worksurface by the kitchen door, and the bookshelf at the bottom of the stairs
5 minute room rescue a quick whizz round any room to create a semblance of order
Weekly Home Blessing (often Home Bleugh here) - an hour a week to keep the house acceptable. I think this can only be done in an hour if you only have one bed in the house to change, so take it with a pinch of salt. I spread mine over the week as I cannot get it down to an hour and don't have an hour to give to it either.
Ned and Ted - imaginary friends often draughted in to assist with washing and ironing
BRC Bag, or box, of Random Crap
(D)LMS (Didn't) Lose My Shit - often a necessary acronym around spouses and teens!
Naughty Corner - the thread's imaginary space for rest and recuperation when it all gets too much. Often stocked with soft cushions, blankets, drinks and snacks. May or may not have a free bar, fire place, sunloungers, hot and cold running barmen etc.
Cherry waves 🍒👋 - lovely type for cheery wave that stuck!
All Fed and No One Dead - a good outcome to a busy day.

The beauty of Flylady is that is can be adapted to any household setup - lots of DC or just one, or none; a partner / spouse, or ex, or those going it alone; those working within or outside the home; shiftwork, you name it.

Our motto is No Fledgling Left Behind, so if you are a returner or a lurker, welcome on board, there is always space her for more Fledglings.

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SingToTheSky · 30/07/2021 20:27

Ooh I love hoarders hazel!

Right I’ve removed the cotton pads from round the bath - it didn’t work so much this time :( not sure I soaked them enough. Didn’t have a lot of bleach or bicarb left but I’ve scrubbed the grouting a bit and left stuff on just to see. DH (and DD1 hopefully although she does have other stuff to do) are going to do the higher bits of the bathroom with the scraper and filler.

SingToTheSky · 30/07/2021 21:58

I am sad and grumpy this evening :( life with its many challenges is Too Difficult.

DD1 is getting on with her room though, and I’ve ordered her dance t-shirt for school. Cleaned all the bleachy bicarby stuff off the tiling and sealant in the bathroom. Tidied up the living room a bit.

Stilllivinginazoo · 30/07/2021 23:23

That's a win then sing remember in past you wouldn't have been able get so much done 💞

DS beentext me it's not going well at dd1.lil zoo up n down and he's finding her too much plus dog keeps barking which he hates/ gets scared about...
I did text dd1 she thinks all sorted but hez still fretting messagesdd2 in full panic attack mode.
I'm highly stressed fret over D's and lil zoo,plus try help reign dd2 anxiety in a bit
Had arguements their dad.hes being absolute twatfaced arsehole.couldnt be supportive emotionally if life depended on it ffs
So funtimes here

HillsBesideTheSea · 31/07/2021 03:04

Want a piece of my homemade pizza Zoo?

I have a block situation. no idea how ended up in situation, where it is going or what the hell is really going on. But only just got in.

Tomo is going to hurt.

Stilllivinginazoo · 31/07/2021 06:36

thanks hills
Been up a while,will tada in a bit...

HazelNuttyElf · 31/07/2021 07:32

Sounds like a rough day already zoo & hills I do hope things improve soon.

I'm on my 5 days off from work! I don't go back until Thursday.
I had a few mojitos tonight, well 3, and I'm feeling pretty drunk 🥴
I did manage to clean up the kitchen, wipe surfaces down and rotate the DW. Other than that, we had leftover pizza for dinner and a lazy night.
Earlier today I took a bag to the charity shop (just a carrier bag full of clothes basically) and another bigger bag to a coworker for her DD. It's clothes my DD has barely worn but she's a teenager so can only wear some things once or twice obviously, and others have to get worn 5 times before they're even washed 🤦‍♀️
Those bags have been in my Jeep for months 😳 but I finally got rid of them.

I'll hopefully post more ta das tomorrow (if I don't have a hangover from hell)
🍒👋 to everyone

HazelNuttyElf · 31/07/2021 07:36

Oh zoo I forgot to mention I have a Shovel and an alibi for you for your DCs dad, if someone has a space under their patio to spare. He sounds like a right dick, sorry 😞
💐 for you. I'm sure DS will be fine too. I do really hope everything gets sorted out quickly for you, but understand it can take a while.

Stilllivinginazoo · 31/07/2021 08:00

hazel thanks.well done on getting bags stuff out,we always have a pile building on the landing waiting for the next charity donation bag to pop thru the door for collection!
Hope your head doesn't regret the mojitos later!

Tada
Cats fed
Wash in
Harpic lav
Survey mess
Write a quick plan to reclaim
Bung dishes in wash up bowl.add kettle water and wash up liquid and let soak
Living room
Pull out sofa and clear crap pushed/kicked under
Tidy cat tree corner/wool stash
Clear floor of belongings,pick up rubbish/recycling
Sweep floor
Wash in drier
More in
Sort overflowing bins in kitchen
S+s
Poo pick litter trays
Sweep stairs by hand

Stilllivinginazoo · 31/07/2021 08:04

To do
Sort washing up
Clean surfaces/cupboard fronts
Scrub sink/drainer
Sweep floor,poss mop

Sort Amazon boxes from D's room whilst he's not in middle floor playing on PS4 (small room,he's a tripping hazard whilst gathering parcels up as they are stored 24/48 hrs- under his midi sleeper!)
This is urgent as got more shit stuff coming tom,incl pillows for my bed,blue light glasses for dd2 and a book I've been hankering for a bit..

Continue making dent in laundry
Poss tackle my room or girls room of doom.i shall see as already start power down

Very worried about D's and lil zoo.be a mum this kind of anxiety never bloody stops☹️

StillUpholding · 31/07/2021 09:05

Wow I’m a crap fledgling ah the minute . Still no sign of the blooming stage currently I roll out of bed for work at the last possible second, get home, eat, take DD up to bed and fall asleep next to her. No time to post and no achievements to post anyway Grin

ED the everhot 😍. It’s beautiful. I want.

Sorry about difficult teens/worry Zoo, Yup, Honey and Hills

Jealous and drooling at idea of mojitos Hazel

Oh Red that it is upsetting Flowers. It doesn’t totally excuse the lack of communication after the event, but any chance the wedding was a last minute surprise type thing? I have two friends who had small weddings where family were invited to a ‘party’ with no idea the couple had just got/were about to get married. If not then it is really thoughtless of your sister after you’ve been so supportive of her.

Willow hope you can resist the decorating!

Today we have booked a new soft play place for late morning (it’s wet and miserable here) and have been invited to DM’s for tea.

Slow start to the morning and will need to get sorted soon. So far I’ve managed to:
✅ put in an LOL
✅ given DD weetabix and an orange
✅ successfully stealth-eat last night’s forgotten chocolate bar under my blanket right under DD’s nose Grin

HillsBesideTheSea · 31/07/2021 09:26

SO this new medicine. Will NOT be staying. 3 fucking hours sleep. I feel sodding wired. I am absolutely exhausted. breathing is nice and all. but sleep is also necessary for life.

heavy busy day. Crap ton to do. And grumpy. god help the fucking idiots in this house!

Stilllivinginazoo · 31/07/2021 09:54

Hills it's not fair you get better breathing in exchange for no sleep

Had breakfast
Acquired loo rolls from local corner shop

EverythingDelegated · 31/07/2021 09:54

Morning all,
Woke up feeling bloated (we had takeaway last night). Sorted papers and despatched DCs on their rounds, flopped on the sofa and am watching Clarkson's Farm on Amazon. I'm not a big fan of his but this is fascinating (and funny). Also in running for crap Flyer award. There is clutter on every single surface everywhere. And plaster dust.

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HillsBesideTheSea · 31/07/2021 10:25

Has anyone got space under the patio. A person DELIBERATELY made sure there was so much noise in the house I was awake. because THEY felt i needed to be up and doing early this morning. I LMS.

IWillWashTheGreenWillow · 31/07/2021 10:32

Joining the Crap Flyers Group - I've pulled something in my neck and I can't move. Also DS2 and GF saw a flat they liked and can afford last night and are signing the papers tomorrow with DH as the guarantor. I'm blindsided, frankly, my second boy moving out out in a month.

IWillWashTheGreenWillow · 31/07/2021 10:35

Hills entirely reasonable to LYS under those circumstances. How dare they make decisions like that for you? 🤬

Up well done on stealth chocolate eating. Do tou give lessons? 😁

Stilllivinginazoo · 31/07/2021 10:44

hills I don't have a patio,but a very lumpy lawn that's in need of serious care could hide some lumps.grounds clay tho,so would only work if you still furious enough,or could hire help for digging?
Given there are no small peopleit's deffo a case fury on your behalf
Willow FlowersI have no words lovely.its hard not having them underfoot as much as they drive us crazy

HillsBesideTheSea · 31/07/2021 10:48

Said person has also managed to piss off everyone else in this house for similar reasons. I m leaving the other people to have their rant.

Stilllivinginazoo · 31/07/2021 11:07

Maybe they will do the deed for you hills and you won't need an alibi,and can then use effort required to use of other things.can you sneak in a rest later,or a bugger off to peace of the hills (even for a short while?) Armed only with a bag frozen cherriesFlowers

IWillWashTheGreenWillow · 31/07/2021 11:14

Thanks zoo. It's bittersweet, I am pleased DH and I have raised two boys with confidence and skills to strike out on their own with their person of choice... And I knew "after A levels" was when they would most likely leave home, even if they bounced back at the end of Uni... But in my head they are still 9 and 7 and I can't fathom how enough time has passed to get here!

HillsBesideTheSea · 31/07/2021 11:17

the new med is of the type that makes me wired. So falling asleep and staying asleep are almost impossible.
I am about to break out the strong pain killers. I have trapped a nerve in my hip/lower back

I probably will go out later. but that is kinda what led to the bloke situation tbh. but i can sit in my car on a hill out the way very easily once i have got done what is needed. Right now i am ignoring what needs to be done ad have turfed out a drawer in my room so that i can work my way through that nonsense and can actually put clothes in my clothes drawers rather than all the other crap that is in there.

IWillWashTheGreenWillow · 31/07/2021 11:20

I'm sorry People are being so thoroughly rubbish, Hills. Looks like I'll have a spare bedroom here from tomorrow night, if you need a change of scene...😭😁

EverythingDelegated · 31/07/2021 11:24

Well, time to open the naughty corner. Tea, coffee, herbal stuff, lots of carbs gin all available, plus cushions, throws, soothing music etc.

Not only is our kitchen (and hence whole house) chaos but I finally logged our broadband fault with BT yesterday, an engineer has appeared and we need to clear the hall for new wiring. There is a lot of atuff in the hall. Thankful its the weekend and the kitchen people aren't here, we can dump the hall stuff in the kitchen

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HillsBesideTheSea · 31/07/2021 11:25

Willow it is actually tempting. Bet we could totally kick ass winning the flylady system if we tag teamed it Grin

going to be honest i am dreading the moving out phase, these big milestone changes are just hard! be kind to yourself

IWillWashTheGreenWillow · 31/07/2021 11:35

Time for a gazebo in the garden ED?

Dancing here is Mickey the Monstera for your delight and delectation 😁

It's July, Fledglings are Flying towards Freedom (hopefully!)