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The Hoarders Anonymous Thread. Sorting It Out.

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Solo · 28/12/2013 17:54

There was a thread that I was involved in some time ago which was started by someone trying to understand why her Dh kept so much 'stuff' and couldn't throw anything away.

The thread quickly turned into a support thread for many MN hoarders and there was a large support network that evolved from that thread.

Eventually, the thread died and with it, certainly my 'support and encouragement mates' circle...

From other threads where lovely Mumsnetters have supported and given rl help, there have come other hoarders, untidy people and those who are just plain stuck in a rut admitting they have a problem. People like me that have become emotionally attached to stuff and it has taken over their homes and their lives. People that cannot cope after loss of different types (parent, relationship, job etc) and it just turns into one big nightmare ~ it certainly did for me following my relationship breakdown, my Dad dying and another nine people in my life passing away inside 11 months.
Personally, I feel that being unable to let anyone in through my front door means that no one can hurt me; I've pulled up the drawbridge, so no one can get to me and shoot me again.

I've always been a bit of a collector of things. I'm a make do and mend type and I can make something out of nothing. Trouble is that once I started to lose important things (people mainly) from my life, I felt unable to let anything made of something go...what if I could never get or have another?! that'd be terrible right?

So! that is a part of my story and here is a thread of support and encouragement (I hope) for others feeling overwhelmed by their hoarding, clutter and stuff. I am hoping that I can get my life sorted out and that there are others that will come along on the journey and perhaps also sort out their homes and lives.

I want to raise my drawbridge and invite friends in. Anyone else? :)

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ChippingInAutumnLover · 10/11/2014 22:30
Wine

It's actually DrP Grin

It's been a tough day for you, but it's done now! :)

Will DH be home soon?

Babieseverywhere · 11/11/2014 07:32

Yes, DH was home just before I sat down and I had a glass if DrP and went to bed !

Today is my birthday, so school run abd basic cleaning this morning and then out for lunch !

cikecaka · 11/11/2014 09:22

Happy Birthday BABIES

ChippingInAutumnLover · 11/11/2014 09:47

Happy Birthday!! Flowers Cake

Does DH have the day off or are you going out to lunch with friends?

Barest minimum of jobs today!

Xx

Solo · 11/11/2014 12:09

Happy Birthday Babies!! Grin how many candles?! Wink

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Babieseverywhere · 11/11/2014 17:07

Far too many candles and yes just done the bare minimum house wise.

Went out to lunch with my parents and DD3 who was not in the mood and was a bit screamy. I had a nice time even though.

Babieseverywhere · 11/11/2014 17:08

DH has taken Friday off and we'll go out window shopping then.

ChippingInAutumnLover · 11/11/2014 17:28

Oh sorry to hear that DD3 was being a bit of a monkey, but glad you had a good time anyway :)

I hope DH isn't having another late night at work tonight?!

Do you need new windows?

ChippingInAutumnLover · 11/11/2014 17:28
Grin
Babieseverywhere · 11/11/2014 19:47

Lol, we need new everything in this house but will be looking at paint and wallpaper :)

Solo · 12/11/2014 00:00

Today!!

Emptied my hall bookcase and boxed up the books from it.

Emptied washing machine from last night and hung up clothing to dry.
Stripped bed and washed dried and remade bed.
Took delivery of my new log splitter!!!!!

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ChippingInAutumnLover · 12/11/2014 00:12

Babies if that makes you happy, then great :). Hope you have a lovely day and find some nice things!

Solo. What a fab day! Another friend of mine got a log splitter a while ago, she loved it so much she has firewood the next millennium, and the aches to show for it!! I hope you love yours too! Well done for listing more stuff.

Solo · 12/11/2014 00:54

I know!! Get me!!!

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ChippingInAutumnLover · 12/11/2014 11:36

Where are you hiding Cikecaka? You've been quiet this week.

Fuzzy is your Mum there yet? How are you holding up??

solo more on its way out today?

cikecaka · 12/11/2014 13:35

I'm here! Afraid to mention that I was doing the washing! Am managing to keep on top of bottom half of house! Need to go downtown so will be back with a list

cikecaka · 12/11/2014 14:34

I'm back, just cleaned out fire!

Need to
Move clothes out of sitting room
Hoover sitting room
Wash fire hearth
Dust TV stand
Make dinner for DCs

ChippingInAutumnLover · 12/11/2014 17:27
Grin

Wash fire hearth...definitely don't miss that job :). not that it got done very often

cikecaka · 12/11/2014 19:14

Move clothes out of sitting room
Hoover sitting room
Wash fire hearth
Dust TV stand
Make dinner for DCs

All Done

Delighted Chipping I finAlly found something you didn't like about the fire!

ChippingInAutumnLover · 12/11/2014 22:42

Another good day Cike :)

Yeah, but if I had another open fire, I wouldn't wash the hearth that often Grin I have a Henry, a good session with him would do me!

Solo · 13/11/2014 01:44

I have not done anything today other than put together a couple of kids jigsaws as I'm getting shot of the complete ones to the parish bazaar. Then I got my roots done!

However! tomorrow (today) I have at least three items being collected including a large bookcase.

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ChippingInAutumnLover · 13/11/2014 04:14

I love doing jigsaws!

More stuff today! Marvelous! It's going to be lovely when you move stuff back in and have space for everything.

Will you and the kids having to move out when they do the rewire?

Solo · 13/11/2014 10:23

Nooo. We have to live through it!! though I might send Ds to Mums.

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cikecaka · 13/11/2014 11:04

Need to tidy kitchen! Such a miserable morning

ChippingInAutumnLover · 13/11/2014 11:11

That sounds like a good plan!

Solo · 13/11/2014 11:39

I am still waiting for these people to collect! I now cannot get in or out of my very cluttered porch because I've put everything to go out there! they are late...

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