ex is in intensive care after a vasectomy!

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tital says it all exdh father of my three dc's had a vasectomy on friday. then sunday stared feeling unwell anyway in a nutshell he is critical with septicemiia, cellulitus, gangrean had his scrotum removed. They are waiting till the morning to do more surgery as very unstable. He's been on a venolator, but off that at the moment. Just in shock.

Wow! So sorry to hear that.

I'm foreign, and have known countless men who had vasectomies and never a one has had a problem with it.

I've only heard about men having problems with it here.

Lordy! Am speechless, and that doesn't happen very often.

I don't know anything about your exh, so he may be the biggest shit ever. But, this sounds awful and I hope they manage to stabilise and treat him.

God.

Really hope he recovers.

good grief, thats awful. do your dc's know yet? not surprised you are in shock.

Hope he is okay.

sorry, phone not stopped, have just told dc's daddy poorly in hospital and he has a bug so they can't vistit yet. Yesterday though was told to prepare to bring them in to say goodbye how do you tell a child that.

Get on ok with ex very strange at the hospital as his girlfiend (who ha had an affair with) is there and this is the first time I had met her. I think the hospital are slightly confused.

Poor guy though looks awful, they are just trying to control effects of septicemia at the mo.

Goodness me. That poor man. This has to be a very rare case. DH had a vasectomy at beginning of this year and ended up with an infection, he was in absolute agony.

okay, perhaps I will not ask dh to have the snip that is really really scarey. Hope he gets better soon and that your children are okay with it all (and that you don't lamp the OW)

Hate to bring it up, but are you completely divorced? Has he made will provisions for your dc's?

Oh god poor bloke! No on deserves that. Hope he gets through it ok for your dcs.

good grief. so sorry xx

Bloody hell. poor bloke. Hope he makes a full recovery, and hope your children aren't too frightened. A friend's dh had an infection following his- same guy did dh's- no problems thankfully.

no not divorced, seperated nov last year he's been with girlfiend since. he has the kids alot though as I work nights so we are proberly closer than alot of seperated couples.
Don't think his girlfriend is to happy with me at the hospital but I don't care, at the end of the day I was with him 12 yrs and he's the father of my children, and I still love him even though more like a brother

gosh only separated last year. Must be tough. Hope you['re OK xx

And you are not divorced, so he is not just your childrens' father, you are also his legal next of kin.

thanks, am just dong my usuall thing when i'm stressed running around like a headless chicken. I'm still very close to his parents so they have been staying with me, just feel drained tonight but my head is buzzing

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How nice that his parents are still able to stay with you & that you have that relationship. Hope you can support each other through this.

Oh my goodness, how awful!

poor you - wishing him the stregth and stamina to fight off the septicaemia - my FIL did at Easter, and it was touch and go.

Good luck x

hope he makes a full recovery. sorry to hear this.

How old are the DCs?

How is he?

Ack, cellulitis is BAD... if he had that in his system, thats probably whats caused the rest of it.

my DH had it in his leg and ended up in hospital for a week, they said if it had been much worse he'd have lost his leg, as it was, he's got a 4 inch diamter scar on the side of his knee and was off work for 3 months.

I hope your ex gets better quickly.