scottishmummy, apologies, really didn't mean to get into a spat. But if you have already been drinking, it's very hard to just go 'OK, you're all right, it's a bit silly, I'll just go to bed'. But aBW, if you can take that advice, please do.
I just know that we have crossed paths in previous threads and that aBW, you're not finding things easy at the moment, and I know how that feels, and that sometimes alcohol feels like it would help, even though that's not the case. But also that even when the alcohol is on board, you can still get the day done, and that's the most important message here..get the kids sorted out first, you can do it.
A virtual shoulder here, anyway.