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Hand Hold HIV Test

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anxietycat · 24/04/2024 15:04

Just a hand hold really & any advice.

I have recently found out that I have an auto immune disease picked up on a routine blood test. They are currently doing a number of blood tests to try & find out which illness but one of the tests is for HIV.

I'm absolutely terrified this will be positive. I have been with DH for 18 years & I know for a fact that I have not cheated & I'm as certain as you can be that he hasn't so not sure why i'm so frightened.

Is it possible to have it for that length of time & not know? I really don't think I can cope with having to wait for these results, my mind is all over the place

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PrimalLass · 26/04/2024 09:44

awopbopaloobopawopbamboom · 26/04/2024 07:23

I completely understand that the OP has terrible anxiety.

Health anxiety must be horrendous to suffer from but it cripples people's loved ones. My mother suffers from it and it has destroyed every one of her relationships. Every month there is a different reason she is going to die, she is happy to share these fears with everyone including her young grandchildren.

HA has left her alone, bitter and terrified. Unapologetically, I believe that people who suffer from HA who don't seek treatment are incredibly selfish.

OP is so, so unlikely to have HIV that yes, I am offended on behalf of a relative who has an actual life threatening illness.

Health anxiety is real and I don't doubt that it must be horrendous to live with because I've seen the fallout from it for nearly 40 years.

In this case the OP stated that the HIV test isn't because her health professionals think she has it, it's part of a wider screening process. I've had that many times due to my own life limiting condition. Every time I used reason and logic to understand that the likelihood of having HIV was vanishingly small.

I am simply encouraging the OP to do the same.

And I think more people should.

Again - seek treatment for HA because it literally can destroy your life and make people around you distance themselves forever.

But it's none of your business to be 'offended' by a stranger's worries and on someone else's behalf. Ridiculous behaviour.

AtrociousCircumstance · 26/04/2024 09:46

Yes, bizarre to be offended that someone is worried they have an illness and is waiting for results. Totally projection and self-absorption.

@anxietycat I am sure the result will be negative but I understand that waiting is hard, for any result like this, so try to distract yourself as much as you can.

AutumnCrow · 26/04/2024 16:31

softslicedwhite · 26/04/2024 08:14

Yes OP as said previously they test for HIV in pregnancy, so you've already been tested twice and been found negative.

OP said I don't have children so don't think I have been tested before.

I keep feeling like I've missed something on this thread.

AutumnCrow · 26/04/2024 16:32

Also, this on the Mental Health board, not AIBU.

Balloonhearts · 26/04/2024 16:46

Have you ever donated blood? If so it would have been tested then.

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anxietycat · 02/05/2024 09:23

Morning, Thank you all those that gave a hand hold through this, it really did help me.

I'm pleased to say that you were all correct & the test is indeed negative.

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heldinadream · 02/05/2024 09:35

Fantastic @anxietycat delighted for you.
I hope they discover your actual illness and that it's easily treatable and manageable and you are on an even keel ASAP. Very best wishes. Flowers

Verite1 · 02/05/2024 09:40

awopbopaloobopawopbamboom · 25/04/2024 18:33

You'd be dead by now.

I understand anxiety and have suffered myself but please try and bring a little logic into this situation. I also (sorry) find it quite offensive having a relative with HIV who genuinely has a reason to worry.

By making this comment, it is quite clear you don’t understand anxiety. If it was a simple case of logical thinking, no one would suffer from it would they? Please don’t make this about you!

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anxietycat · 02/05/2024 09:42

heldinadream · 02/05/2024 09:35

Fantastic @anxietycat delighted for you.
I hope they discover your actual illness and that it's easily treatable and manageable and you are on an even keel ASAP. Very best wishes. Flowers

Thank you. I saw a specialist yesterday and things are moving quickly.

Feeling much more positive that they will resolve things soon

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wowsers6 · 02/05/2024 12:22

@anxietycat I'm so glad it was a negative result. I hope you get some answers swiftly and can continue with treatment.

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