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Don't know what to do

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KaySamuels · 04/04/2007 09:44

I've been depressed on and off snce my ds was born (now two) and today and yesterday I feel so dark I have phoned the doctors for the first time because I can't go on feeling like this. The receptionist laughed when I said I needed to book an appointment, said it was book on the day this week, I'm working tomorro, they r shut friday. She said whilst laughing 'is it urgent what's your problem?' . Have just hung up crying. Feel so so down am so glad I'm not working today, don't know what to do now.

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Plibble · 04/04/2007 09:51

I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I think you are doing the right thing in trying to see your doctor. Don't be put off by the receptionist - she does not know how you are feeling. I know it can seem very intrusive when they ask you what is wrong, but you do need to get an appointment so you may need to tell her. The alternative is to call your health visitor and explain how bad you are feeling. She may be able to call the GP for you and get you an appointment.
I really hope you feel better soon.

Surfermum · 04/04/2007 09:52

Oh poor you, and shame on her behaving like that. Ring them back, say you're feeling really, really down and you'd like to see someone today. What's your HV like? Could you phone them?

zippitippitoes · 04/04/2007 09:54

ring back and ask to speak to the prcatice nurse she can circumvent the booking system and get you straight in to the gp

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KaySamuels · 04/04/2007 09:55

Did consider rining hv but thought she might think I was a bit strange to ring her, only seen her for standard ds check ups.

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KaySamuels · 04/04/2007 09:57

Just feel like curling up into a ball and staying like it. Just finding everything so hard.

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Plibble · 04/04/2007 09:59

She won't think you are strange and it is her job to help you. Call her - it might well help.

ScummyMummy · 04/04/2007 10:03

Poor you. HV or practice nurse sound like good ideas. Or is there an NHS walk in place near you?

Surfermum · 04/04/2007 10:22

It's what she's there for KS. Take a deep breath, pick up the phone and ring. I know you probably don't feel like speaking to anyone, but you will feel better once you tell someone how you're feeling and start to get some help.

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KaySamuels · 04/04/2007 14:37

scummymummy what is a walk in? how do I find out if there is one near me?

Rang health visitor numbers a few times now and no answer

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iwouldgoouttonight · 04/04/2007 14:56

Sorry you're feeling so low - what a dreadful receptionist - I remember a while back feeling terrible and seeing a really unsympathetic doctor who basically told me to get over it - it really knocks you back.

This website lets you search for walk-in centres in your area. Or I'd keep trying the HV or nurse - I think you have to be persistant and try to get help whichever way you can.

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KaySamuels · 04/04/2007 15:04

Oh well nearest nhs walk in centre is 33.4 miles away in York! Grr, will try hv number once more I guess.

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KaySamuels · 04/04/2007 15:09

My health visitor isn't in until 16th April

oh feel totally drained this seems such hard work - or is it just me? I know I should follow zippitoes earlier advice but I cannot face calling my gps back I really can't.

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zippitippitoes · 04/04/2007 15:10

try the practice nurse..she will normally have access to appointments and will accelerate you seeing the gp

zippitippitoes · 04/04/2007 15:11

sorry didn't see that last bit..you will probably get a different receptionost

iwouldgoouttonight · 04/04/2007 15:16

I just searched for my walk-in centre while on that website and mine is about 20 miles away too! Have you thought about phoning the samaritans or someone just so you can talk to someone sympathetic immediately rather than having to wait for an appointment. Or are you up to phoning a friend? I know sometimes if you're really down you can't face ringing anyone, but I sometimes find it helps put a different perspective on things - even if you chat about rubbish for ten minutes, it won't solve the problem but it might help distract you and make you feel more confident about phoning GP back (and have a go at the receptionist!)

iwouldgoouttonight · 04/04/2007 15:17

Or could you get someone to phone the doctors for you? If you're feeling crap its easier to get fobbed off by the receptionist but someone else might be able to be more forceful and get you an appt?

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KaySamuels · 04/04/2007 16:31

I have just read a list of possible symptoms of derpression and I have every one. I emailed it to dp at work as well as my op from this morning. He called me and he promised to make me go to docs after bank hols are out the way, think he may have to call them tho but at least it's out in the open now. Have a busy weekend (wedding do to go to, outlaws to visit, will have to see my mum - whole other thread on that), so thinks it best to paste my smile on and get through the weekend. Will keep you posted. Thank you all so much, you have got me through today you really have.

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Swizzler · 04/04/2007 16:35

I keep posting these details but it does help to talk to someone: MIND helpline 0845 766 0163; SANE: 0845 767 8000; Samaritans 08457 909090

Do go to the doctors but in the meantime keep talking - on here, to a helpline, to your partner

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KaySamuels · 08/07/2007 21:15

Thought I would bump this thread instead of starting another one. I still haven't made it to the doctors, have booked twice and had to cancel, ds ill, and took more work on I couldn't afford to turn down.

I feel low still, and just feel like I'm still slipping. I don't want to socialise, I'm anxious all the time, have put on loads of weight, am really spotty (even more than usual), just feel like I'm treading water all the time and I'm so exhausted.

DP is so good to me and he gets nothing back. He runs me baths with candles, buys me flowers, let me have a lie in this morning, and I feel awful as I am so miserable all the time. I must be terrible company. Anyway just wanted to get it all off my ches really I guess, don't have anyone I can offload to in RL, I would feel too awful!

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mamama · 08/07/2007 21:25

I have just seen this thread and have realised how long its been since your OP.

I'm not sure I can be much help but please

don't feel like you are alone - keep posting on here if only to get things off your chest. There are lots of MNers who have been through times like yours. It is awful.
don't try to cope with this by yourself. Make sure you see a doctor. If the receptionist is unhelpful, try to speak to the practice nurse. There is help out there but it can be hard to get sometimes. And often, if doesn't feel worth fighting for. But it is. It is exhausting trying to keep yourself afloat and life shouldn't be such a struggle
remind yourself how well you are doing - you have struggled through this for months. That is no mean feat.
remember that your dp is helping you because he loves you. You'd do the same for him. I'm sure he doesn't expect anything in return. He doesn't have to do it, he wants to.
if things get really bad, Swizzler gave you the numbers for the Samaritans and MIND - both will be able to help you through in a crisis.
try to take care of yourself

I know this is really hard but it can get better.

{hugs}

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KaySamuels · 08/07/2007 21:35

Thanks mamama it has been so long that I have felt so low, since ds was born really, I can't believe I still feel this way, and it just shows me it will not go away on it's own. I need some help with it, am going to try my GPs again, although even the thought of ringing up is making me feel ill. Your post is really helpful and I appreciate your kind words, thank you.

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wrinklytum · 08/07/2007 21:54

Aaah,Kay,please try to get an appointment with your Gp if you can even though it is a big step to pick up the phone xxx

I think that we live in the same city,or at least area

If you ever wanted to meet up,even though you may not feel like it at the mo then I would be pleased to do soI have 2 dcs a 3 year old son and a 19 month old ddI am always happy to meet other Mums

(I am hoping to go on next night out with Squonk etc.Think she is on holiday at the moment but we are hoping to go out later in July,I seem to remember Squonk posting your name on the Mile for Maude thread)

In the meantime,big hugs if you do them.

Wrinkly

mamama · 08/07/2007 21:59

Please let us know how you get on, Kay.

If you can muster the energy, a meet-up might be a good idea. When I have felt very low, sometimes doing something just for me helps - going to a friend's house to watch a movie etc - it's not much but a bit of distraction and adult conversation can help you forget how awful you feel, even if only for a few minutes.

wrinklytum · 10/07/2007 16:59

How are things Kay?Hope you are OK.

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KaySamuels · 05/09/2007 19:01

UPDATE:

Been to docs today. Been feeling anxious too recently and couldn't keep putting off going to see docs, noticed while eating the other day that my hands were shaking.

Doc has referred me to HV for a chat, and said I should have counselling before or alongside ADs if needed. Had to fill in survey for them to give to HV.

Told dp I had been and he has surprised me with his reaction, has been really supportive but was not happy when I mentioned ADs. Said 'when you start on those you end up dependant'.
Didn't know what to say was so taken aback.

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