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Mental health

Please help

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Freeflying · 10/02/2015 20:40

I feel so so bad tonight. Have never posted on here before, but I am not going to do anything stupid, I just want the desparate feeling to stop

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Chuffchuff · 10/02/2015 22:02

So do you see your sisters & brother much?

Nosey aren't i?

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Freeflying · 10/02/2015 22:04

I see my sisters quite alot my brother lives in the middle East
No not nosey ! Do you have siblings too?

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Chuffchuff · 10/02/2015 22:08

Yes just one sister - she's a nice person and we keep in touch but we're not really close - her H is a bit of an arse

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Freeflying · 10/02/2015 22:11

that's a Shame but good that you keep in touch
He said he is coming back today I think he's drunk though. I feel shaky again

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Chuffchuff · 10/02/2015 22:14

How does he behave when he's drunk then? Do you feel safe atm?

From what you're saying your H doesn't sound that great - sorry to be blunt

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Freeflying · 10/02/2015 22:22

He's a prick when he's drunk he's loud and stupid and doesn't take no for an answer. He's not violent as such but he is just arsey. I am tired I can't be bothered and he was drinking before he left and his text was weird so I guess he is drunk

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Chuffchuff · 10/02/2015 22:26

he sounds a right charmer.

Do your sisters know what he can be like? Do you talk to them about him?

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Freeflying · 10/02/2015 22:46

One of them does she doesn't like him , the rest of them are either friends with him or they don't really pay attention
Im feeling panicking

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Chuffchuff · 10/02/2015 22:56

Not surprised you're stressed out, anybody would be waiting for a nasty drunk to walk in.

Please just try to remember that you are reacting perfectly normally to a shit situation. This is not your fault, he is the one going out an getting drunk and treating you badly. You are just sitting at home looking after your baby.

Do you want to carry on your relationship with this man? Genuine question...

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Chuffchuff · 10/02/2015 23:03

Anyway, I hope you're ok and you manage to get some sleep tonight

I'm sorry, I've got to go in a mo, early start in the morning. You are welcome to pm me if you need to talk again.

Just don't let yourself forget that you're not to blame for your P being an arse! And maybe talk to your sister...?

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Freeflying · 10/02/2015 23:04

He's not like this all the time and not for no reason I wind him up. I really can't breathe well I'm panicking too much I think

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Chuffchuff · 10/02/2015 23:13

I do have to go soon but please please please Stop saying you wind him up! He's not a child, he's a grown man and is responsible for his behaviour. Even if you are a complete cow bag and do your best to 'wind him up', he should be able to walk away and calm down without giving you a load of verbal abuse. He should be able to cope with an argument without having to get plastered at the pub

It's your choice, your life, but Please stop blaming yourself.