My mum tripped & fell over st home and has had a partial hip replacement. She is in hospital currently but should be discharged early next week. She has cognitive impairment, worsened recently. I have been visiting her in hospital and generally shes ok if a bit bored, snd then suddenly she becomes very distressed & wants to see my dad, saying shes never been apart from him etc.
Dad has dementia & has got considerably worse lately. I have arranged for homecare to start monday. Twice a day visit to help with meditation, food prep, light housekeeping.
It has been an awful few weeks. Mum fell down stairs in June & was in hospital for 2 weeks. During that visit they discovered a tumour on her kidney & lesions on her liver. They planned to operate in August but then she fell again so the surgery has been postponed.
I have been doing a lot for them and so has my aunt & uncle who live close to them (I am 45 mins away, I am working although not in school holidays).
Me, DH, 2 teens are due to go on holiday to France this weekend for 10 days. Another family member has expressed Horror that I'm even thinking about going.
I have done a big shop for my Dad, a Sainsbury's delivery is booked for next week, carers are due to start seeing my dad Monday, mum will have a care package when she comes out.
Should I not go to France?
Am I taking the piss expecting my aunt/uncle to take over temporarily?
If it wasn't the holidays, I still would have had to work mon-fri (part time)