DM nearing end of life.. this time last week all was normal

[Channellingsophistication]

My lovely normally fit and well Mum took unwell Tuesday morning early hours with what was disgnosed as a bowel blockage. At 85, she would likely not survive the operation to potentially fix it. We have literally gone from discussing her shopping list on Monday to end of life care discussions on Wednesday.

It’s very difficult to absorb. Terrified of what comes next, my DF I’m not sure has fully taken it all in. I never thought he would be the one left.

I don’t know how to face this. Such a shock.
Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. Thank you

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Sending much love ❤️ xxx

So sorry for your loss @Channellingsophistication

So sorry for your loss🌺

My mum died very suddenly at 77. She was in good health but caught an infection and then sepsis. She went out for her first Indian meal one night and next night she was dying in A&E. I never got chance to say goodbye and tell her how much I loved her so my advice would be to talk to your mum and let her know how loved she is and all the other things you need to say. Spend as much time as you can with her, hold her hand and make the most of the little time you have

Sending hugs, such a brave lady.

Thinking of you.

I’m so sorry, sending love, my Dad refused treatment at 84 he said he just didn’t want the pain and to be messed around. The hospice nurse said she wished more would choose a peaceful end when they have had a long life and that he was brave. Your Mum sounds like a wonderful woman.