Do I go to birthday family meal?

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Our separation is fairly recent. I instigated it - he's in the aggrieved/angry phase now that he's realised I mean it.

Youngest DC (16) seems to think it's unfair on her dad - he has one overnight a week and no weekends (both his choice but I don't feel like I can tell her that) - though I could be reading too much into unrelated grumpy teenage behaviour.

We are trying to do big things like Christmas and parents' evenings together - so I know there are times I have/will have to plaster on a grin and get on with it.

So - to the question. It's his birthday this week. We normally go out for a family dinner. Do I go? Younger DC asked me if I was - then did the Teenage Shrug when I asked if she wanted me to. He won't say either.

I just don't know. Tending towards not - but should I this one time??

Are you married? As he jointly owns the house he has every right to move back in, you'd be best getting it sold or one person buying the other out, as soon as you can.

Or, if married, it will be sorted in the divorce, which will take ages.

For child's birthday yes, for ex birthday no.