ahem, how do you help the man last longer?

[eversoslightlyembaressed]

sorry to ask in here for help/tips but any would be great fully received. DP has admitted he knows he can't last very long (is long enough for me but i'd like to help him last a little longer) and of course for myself, but mainly him.

tia.

stop / start during "the act", too.

hi eric thanks for the man's input, it can either I think? but for us it's every time. althou he's not quite as bad as 2 seconds and all done - he manages about 5 mins and then that's that.

we did try longer forplay during the week, but he was still the same. I did say try to stop yourself (prob not a good thing) lol. but he couldn't.

pan - I think wiht him it's the issue of not feeling adequate (as in he keeps saying he knows he has a small willie etc) so as much as I keep saying it's not small it's average etc etc he always worries.

i'm sure we'll get there in the end.

ah. We're a funny lot. I've never known a man admit that he thinks his willie is too small, to another man. YET, if someone came alongand said "fancy another inch or two?" we'd all grab it with both hands. As it were.

FWIW, I suspect you are on a losing battle with repeated soothing comments. "You're only saying that.." will be his self-talk response, evwen if he doesn't actually say it.
I'd just say to him (if you already havent) that you love him, his dick is lovely and more than adequate, that you are having sex/making love with all of him not just a fleshy appendage, that dicksize is NOT the prob., but his ability to relax and be trusting in you - and that is the way it is and you're not prepared to entertain discussion around this anymore as it is daft and damaging to you both. The danger is that your frustration may well lead to an impotency between you.

A sex therapist may help, but he sounds a long way from getting to that, and it may not be necessary anyway.

All naturally IMVHO. Best wishes.

Top tip - I have found that doing intensive weight-training in the gym is an excellent way of keeping harder for longer. I found it increases testosterone levels quite a bit so gives the guy a serious appetite in the bedroom. Plus will make his body look better too.

Another advantage I found is it allowed me to keep going after reaching orgasm and carry on for a second one all in one session!! So even if he is a bit quick a second one can be had straight away. Brill!

Use a proper training programme. The best introductory programme I found is called Body for Life. It's a bit cheesy and American but it works.

Very big

But if it's long enough for you what's the problem?

Time wise I mean.

pan I think i'm just gonna give up tbh! lol. althou today was quite ahem good!

fast - ewr how do you do the 2 in 1 thingy without having to wait 5 mins or so? lol.

davidten - do the weight trg and you will see what I mean. It just does (or did for me anyway - don't come back to me with the trades descriptions act if it doesn't - just my own experience).

Train v intensively for at least 2/3 weeks and see what happens. You want as much muscle as poss - body-building supplements (eg creatine) help (stay away from steroids). Just stay inside - don't take it out. You should feel a lowering of desire after your 'issue' but enough is left to stay hard and just carry on!!!!!!!!!!

What the FUCK is fasteddie on about???!! >

Panino - JUST TRY IT AND YOU WILL SEE!!!!!!!!!!!

I want to train?? not sure I can suggest that to DP - think the poor bloke might get a complex!

nkf - no real probs form my pov, but he's the one who keeps on about it - might just need to work on the technique a little more, and try some differnt stuff out.

davidteenat is a woman

So..let me get this straight ( no pun)..by lifting weights..for a small period of time...this will help with an issue of prem ejac. when sex and performance thereof actually happens in the brain, and is a complex interaction re his self-esteem and levels of expectation from partner...and, in this case, alleged dick size??!!

oh yes I am should have pointed that bit out! lol.

hi zip - trust you to join me over on the smutty thread!

as is PaninoPan....

god i am confused now

maybe it is just a new relationship issue

lol. doesn't seem to be zip. will just have to try different stuff.

oh i just wondered

Pan - I don't think you quite have the idea. You have to do what is effectively body-building, a preliminary programme for which (eg the prog known as 'Body for Life')usually would last 12 weeks as a minimum, but you would start to feel the effects after about 2-3 weeks in terms of increased testosterone levels. In my experience this increases appetite and staying power quite a bit. This is not unusual and is a fairly common feature of body-building.

Can't say it will work for all - there may be different reasons for one man's prob compared to another. I say this simply as someone who has done it and that's what happened.

probably why it takes me so bloody long then

ill have to cut down thweights

ok Eddie. I am open to learning. Really. Teach me??

Eddie!! I'm feeling very self-conscious in my singlets and shorts, stood around in this drafty gym. When so we start???

lol pan i think he has roared off into the sunset with jack nicholson et al

Okay Pan, I'm back. What do you want to know?

ok.
This 12 week malarky. I can do this. What do you do??