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ahem, how do you help the man last longer?

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eversoslightlyembaressed · 08/04/2008 21:43

sorry to ask in here for help/tips but any would be great fully received. DP has admitted he knows he can't last very long (is long enough for me but i'd like to help him last a little longer) and of course for myself, but mainly him.

tia.

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eversoslightlyembaressed · 08/04/2008 22:17

we do yes - maybe I should put 2 on there?? hmm. lol.

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zippitippitoes · 08/04/2008 22:18

that durex hot stuff is crasp tho

i couldnt notice anything and niether could he it just made us larf

WanderingTrolley · 08/04/2008 22:19

OH I know I know I know....

You need an anaesthetic cream! It was on some programme late at night on Channel Five....

fireflytoo · 08/04/2008 22:19

larfing is the best way to stop going over the edge though...

WanderingTrolley · 08/04/2008 22:22

Ah, no, ignore me. Read this - scroll down for a hand grippy thing. I know it's not PE per se, but it came up on a google search.

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eversoslightlyembaressed · 08/04/2008 22:26

FF - he might think i'm laughing at him thou!

WT - don't worry i'll explain to your DH/P for you.... honestly...

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Lauriefairycake · 08/04/2008 22:45

I've explained the hand grippy thing - you don't need an extra tool (why is it every word is a double entendre on this thread)

DaDaDa · 08/04/2008 23:03

Why do you never hear people asking 'how do you make the woman last longer'.

Oh, just make sure you're sorted first then both have a nice time afterwards at his pace. All this grabbing and squeezing and algebra is demeaning for the old chap. Does it really have to be the Sex Olympics? As long as he's 'considerate' and you both have fun one way or another...

[will regret this post tomorrow ]

Panino · 08/04/2008 23:05

Dadsnet?? This is Dadsnet FGS!! Not some sleazy makeover sex compartment. Handgrips, creams,pictures of your mothers???!!

zippitippitoes · 08/04/2008 23:07

rofl

i prefer to get sorted after tbh

Panino · 08/04/2008 23:20

Well, couldn't you be just a little quicker????

davidtennantsmistress · 08/04/2008 23:35

it wasn't meant as that pan, it was meant as a can you give me any advice as I really have no one else to ask, and to be fair it's not about me being quicker, it's about him tonight saying to me.

'I know I don't last long enough' and it seems to be getting him down, I did say after it doesn't bother me how long it is, etc but he didn't believe me.

dadada - yes I know you're right - this is what i'm trying to say to him.

KerryMum · 08/04/2008 23:39

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Megglevache · 08/04/2008 23:40

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purpleduck · 08/04/2008 23:46

LOL
at nan on bog/ picture of mum on ceiling...

any hints on how my dh cam SPEED THE HELL UP!!!!

Panino · 08/04/2008 23:47

dtm - I was being playful..should have put the ubiquitous at the end....

If I was to have been read literally, it could end up as a massive competition, which isn't good....and..FWIW..prem ejac. is usually about anxieties well before the bedroom scenario........is this a smutty thread or a serious thread, please???

Panino · 08/04/2008 23:48

hi KM!!

davidtennantsmistress · 08/04/2008 23:49

well - now i've just outed myself - and was hoping for the tread to die away! lol. i guess it's smut with a serious undertone.

pd - we could swop - ooooh er mrs! lol. er quicker - dunno yawn?? ask if he's nearly finished!

what's the nan thing all about?

Panino · 08/04/2008 23:50

dtm - we all thought it was you anyway...

davidtennantsmistress · 08/04/2008 23:53

damn it, 'twas the typos wasn't it

Panino · 08/04/2008 23:57

ok - serious bit is..it's often associated with anxiety, and a fear of not 'being good enough'

Panino · 09/04/2008 00:09

yep. spelling in the title had dtm written ALL over it!!

solo · 09/04/2008 00:22

That anasthetic stuff also affects us girls, which isn't really what you want...I tried this with first h who, incidentally, couldn't even get it in before he'd finished!
I had a great time!

EricL · 09/04/2008 13:15

Surely it's about the time spent on foreplay?

Sometimes we are both wanting a quickie and that's ok - but i can tell the times i am more worked up than her and this is when the time spent beforehand comes into play.

Works the other way round too - sometimes i am not so bothered but she is like a woman posessed.

But for us men, having a naked woman writhing around for ages is well enough to get us there eventually!

I'm still confused as to this whole PE issue anyway. Do some men ALWAYS fire off early then? Or is it just a thing that happens occasionally?

Flynnie · 09/04/2008 13:26

Get him to try stopping and starting when going to the toilet. that is supposed to give more control at other ahem... moments!
saw that on 'how to have sex after marriage' so must be true