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Men. Do you mind if she fakes it?

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Spidermama · 26/01/2007 13:36

Would you rather your dw/p faked enjoyment of sex from time to time, or would it be better if she just said 'no thanks' on occasions where she wasn't really up for it?

Would you be offended to learn she fakes the odd orgasm?

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HappyDaddy · 26/01/2007 13:49

I'd rather she said no thanks. But then, I've never had this problem .

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Spidermama · 26/01/2007 14:11

You wouldn't necessarily know though HD. There are some fine acting talents amongst women.

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HappyDaddy · 26/01/2007 14:12

That's true. Please don't burst my bubble!

DrDaddy · 26/01/2007 19:11

Definitely better if she says she's not up for it...which she does when she isn't.
I'd be surprised and offended if I found she'd ever faked. (But I just asked her straight out. She said no. I told her to look me in the eye and she did. She's about as bad a liar as I am, so I think she's telling the truth )

UnquietDad · 27/01/2007 21:49

Some women are quite good at putting it on. Or so I've been told.

expatinscotland · 27/01/2007 21:54

I only faked when I had a crap lover and just wanted him to finish up and get out.

WideWebWitch · 27/01/2007 21:57

Wrt faking, what's the point? They won't learn if you don't tell 'em what they're doing wrong and if you don't want to shag them then you shouldn't imo. I've never faked in my life though. like thsi!

expatinscotland · 27/01/2007 21:59

Sometimes, www, you don't discover just how shite someone is between the sheets till you're there with them.

And you're just too drunk to play teacher.

So when they whisper, 'Are you cuming, baby', you fake so they think so and then go for it and finish it off and then you get them out as soon as.

Or make for the door after giving them a fake phone number.

WideWebWitch · 27/01/2007 22:00

hmm, but I always answered 'no' and if they were THAT shit told them to go, now! Hey, I used to be a slapper too

losty · 27/01/2007 22:01

I used to fake it all the time when I was younger but not since I have been married. If truth be told I when I was younger I had cr*p lovers and didnt know what I was missing cos they never pushed the right button!! But I wouldnt dream of faking it now. I dont think I could actually. If it doesnt happen, and my dh is unsure, I dont lie.

God, cant believe I have posted on a thread like this

WideWebWitch · 27/01/2007 22:01

Hmm, maybe that's where I was going wrong, my negative feedback was 'right, this isn't working, can we stop now please?'

zephyrcat · 27/01/2007 22:06

lol@ this thread

I was with someone for 4-5 years-ish and in that whole time I faked it every single time, except twice!!! He thought he was God's Gift and the most amazing lover. He regularly told me, even after we split up, that he taught me everything I knew.

I think not!! I would love to go up to him and tell him to his face! "Erm, by the way Mr LoverLover, you were CRAP!"

Since meeting dp though I never have and if it doesn't happen it doesn't happen - but that's rare

expatinscotland · 27/01/2007 22:06

See, that requires a lot of thought.

And sometimes, at 3AM, after a night of boozing, I just wanted to get off and go to sleep.

And if I couldn't have the former, well then I was keen to get the latter.

expatinscotland · 27/01/2007 22:07

I went out w/the bloke like that, zephyr.

He thought he was hung like a horse, and length-wise, he was generous.

But my ex was just as long.

And wider.

I made sure he knew that before I left.

Also to lay off the 69. I can't concentrate enough to get off that way.

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Spidermama · 27/01/2007 22:11

Shit! It looks like it's just me then.

I fake about one in 7 or 8 times with DH. Am I really the only one.

Of course, now I can never meet any of you on this thread in RL and probably never go to a meet up because I'll feel disloyal to DH who can be a fantastic lover at times by the way. I think you'll find. Actually.

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Sobernow · 27/01/2007 22:15

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losty · 27/01/2007 22:17

1 in 7 or 8 spidermama? dos that mean once a week you pretend? lol

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Spidermama · 27/01/2007 22:17

But you're all saying that the men are crap. Isn't it a two way thing? Genuine question.

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Spidermama · 27/01/2007 22:18

More like once a month losty.

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losty · 27/01/2007 22:18

yes of course it is two way - but a man has to know what he is doing doenst he? answer us men - we need your 'advice' lol

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Spidermama · 27/01/2007 22:18

Surely no-one who has kids really has sex daily.
Do they?

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expatinscotland · 27/01/2007 22:19

I had a flatmate like that, too, Sober!

Only she was worse, she'd stop them, get her vibe out of the drawer in her bedside table and finish the job herself!

Right then and there!

losty · 27/01/2007 22:19

us too losty!!!!

(have you got a rabbit btw?)

WideWebWitch · 27/01/2007 22:20

Yes, it's a 2 way thing but a man does either need to know what he's doing OR be willing to be shown.

expatinscotland · 27/01/2007 22:20

I have a rabbit.

I call it Bob.

My battery-operated boyfriend.