Absolutely happier I can sometimes have a "get shit done" mindset and just go for it. it's both a blessing and a curse.
dh did just say i'm doing too much - i have asked him if he'd like to bake the birthday cake, and make sure presents are wrapped up and collect the balloons at lunchtime. suddenly he's busy.
I have an appointment with my GP this afternoon - so am leaving "work" early to get there so needed to start early to make up the time. dh not at all comfortable getting the kids up dressed and off to nursery. but he did it because mental load.
this evenings cake assembly should be relatively simple if i'm just left the hell alone to do it. i am so so glad i have my stand mixer. it took less than no time to whip up the sponges yesterday and the frosting. no idea how dm used to do it without one.
one of my most best birthday cake she made was a pirate and mermaid cake. like peter pan. the entire boat was carved from sponge. it was set on a "sea" of blue jelly. chocolate mini rolls for cannons, maltesers for cannon balls, boot laces for rigging. play mobile pirate mens. 
probably took her hours.
in other news i had a message from my assistant today - he's not logging on as his gf had their baby last night. so if ever there's an excuse not to do any work...! 
so happy for them!!