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Thought I'd take the plunge and begin new thread to follow on from this one thread

All welcome.
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Afternoon!

apologies for joining and then not making any comments for ages. i always seem to be busy!

queenie, i have been trying for #2 for very nearly a year - I did something really stupid - i thought i would get pregnant quickly as i was lucky to conceive on 3rd month of trying with DD (nearly 5years ago) - so i left my rather stressful job in July thinking i would already be pregnant (i'm a teacher and have to give a lot of notice). Unfortunately it hasn't worked out and I've had to go back to teaching to bring in some pennies and will probably have to take a full-time job in Sept when DD goes to school (unless i get pregnant before!)
phew - sorry, that was all a bit self-indulgent!

Good luck to all those on the BD fest - you all seem to ahve some good ideas for seduction. My DH is desperate for a baby so although i don't go into the 'signs' as it were - he's quite interested in whether its the 'right' time.
i am in 2ww but am so not expecting to be lucky this month. Roll on next week - i hate this bit!

Hello everyone, I sort of asked to join the last thread around Christmas time, but then went a bit shy and didn't post any more . So, can I try again and join this one? You all sound like a great bunch of ladies and I'd really appreciate somewhere to hang out.

A bit of background, I'm 39, TTC #1, had a mc last September at 12 weeks and am now on my 5th cycle since then.

Currently on the 2ww and already thinking about testing even though that is utterly ridiculous as am only 4DPO! Gaaaaaah.

Anyway, hope to get to know you all a bit better this time.

Welcome back whatsfortea, nice to have (another!) a fellow obsessive aboard .

Sorry to hear about the mc, lots of positive vibes for this month.

Broodzilla - just looked at the AF dates, if you did ovulate yesterday, are you looking at an earlier expected date?

Do I feel another group test coming on ?

Hi funtimewincies, I definitely need some avoidance tactics to stop obsessing, at least til next weekend!

Ideas anyone? What does everyone else do, or do you just give in to the whole obsessing thing? I did actually manage to forget about it a bit last month, but I think I'm a lot more hopeful this month having jumped DH at most available opportunities, so the wait is going to seem particularly long.

Tum-te-tum......

I've just given in the obsessing I'm afraid. DH is well used it by now and largely ignores me or just nods and makes 'uh-huh' noises .

Welcome whatsfortea! Yay for more obsessed people!
funtime, no, I'm an early OVer so AF is still due at the end of the month. I'm not sure why I OV so early, especially as I'm a last-minute girl for everything else in life. Except for POAS, of course. I actually wish my procrastination would make me only POAS when I really, really have to rather than "ooooh, why not?".

I have a confession to make. The other day I thought I was nearing the end of my OPKs (I had about 7 or 8 left) so I quickly ordered a bumper pack of more. They arrived today and as I went to stash them away in the drawer in the bathroom I realized that had I opened THAT drawer earlier I would've found the last bumper pack I ordered in there... untouched! Before you all think I'm a shopaholic I must point out that I use the supercheap tests, so they're only about 10p each. But still... I now have about 80...

Now, I have a very silly question re: ovulation. We all know that the LH gets going in the early hours of the morning, that's why we're not supposed to use FMU, right? Well, doesn't that mean that you're more likely to actually OV at a certain time of day too? As in, if the LH is what makes us OV, surely there must be a correlation between the time of the surge and the time of OV? No?
(Can someone at least tell me that my obsession reasoning is sound?)

Mmmm, good point. Will think about that one over tea Broodzilla .

Hello whatsfortea - I thought I remembered that name

We seem to have had very similar experiences - I'm also 39, ttc my first child. I had a miscarriage in Nov (2 days after my birthday) on the day of my dating scan - would have been 11+5 but I have no idea when the baby died Having a very relaxed 2WW at the mo because DP had some TTC wobbles and wouldn't co-operate - fingers crossed for next cycle

Broodzilla - I very often notice ovulation pains in the early evening, and they sometimes come back the next morning but not always.

Hi Jools, sorry to hear about your mc, it does sound very similar. My mc was the week before my dating scan, went to A+E about 4am with bleeding and cramps and it all went downhill from there, very traumatic and painful . They couldnt tell me when the baby died, but it must have been a while before if they couldnt see anything. Can't believe I spent however many weeks thinking I was going to have a baby only to go through that, I wish it had all happened sooner if it was going to happen. And since then, not much luck on the ttc front. I go from wild optimism thinking definitely this month, to the depths of despair thinking it's never going to happen. I guess that is pretty common though!

Anyway, all the BFPs on this thread are definite encouragement . And I cant do much now for the next 10 days or so. Except obsess of course

Hi everyone. Happy BD!

I have a question if i may! When you came off the pill (if you were on it) did you become really sleepy, and a bit low? Thanks

Broodzilla - meant to say last night that, fate dictates - having all those ov sticks means you will never get to use them

kittycatcat _ I came off pill after 12 years on it and i noticed two things - I felt much happier and 'better', I could smell things better and I had strange chocolate cravings (was never fussed for choc before). So I didn't feel what you are - but guess the hormone changes affect us all differently

Welcome back whatsfortea

Broodzilla - I think you must be right - BUT... the OPK sticks predict a surge - not an exact concentration - so you would never know where you were in the surge if you see what i mean - you might be half way through a surge - or just finishing when you test - so you prob can't exactly pinpoint ov using opk's - if you see what I mean? Maybe with a more precise test you could... I may be wrong - but that is what my inner scientist tells me

Was freezing cold all day yesterday at work, woke up in the night absolutely soaked in sweat and am working from home today after another fun-filled night of insomnia, only to have more wierd hot flushes and very mild nausea.

If I had the remotest chance of being PG, I'd be happily symptom spotting. As it is, I'm trying to work out whether I'm ill, this is really really bad PMT, or I'm peri-menopausal (my mother went through the menopause at age 41 ... I've also just read about someone who had an MC at a similar age to me and the shock to her system sent her straight into menopause - gaaaaahhhhhh

Iggypiggy i have always had a good sense of smell but it's heightened! And up til yesterday felt so much happier, but think that was the joy of my partner agreeing to TTC

joolsiam [hugs] i hope it is the horrible flu that seems to be going around and nothing more sinister! x

Hello all,

Jools - i can understand how you feel - I think anyone struggling to conceive makes you feel confused and imagining the worst - its seems to be the nature of the beast. i'm sure your fears are ungrounded and that you just have one of the million bugs that are around (i don't think i have felt totally well since christmas!)

I love the idea about all those Ov sticks and it being fate that you won't actually need them now Brood - I'm hoping that applying for and getting a new job for september will have the same effect for me.

saying that - not feeling that hopeful as already feel PMTish, only CD20 or CD21 but have short cycles so ...... only time will tell but beginning to feel the urge to POAS

hope everyone else is having a good day...

Hi jools - aaaargh, you naughty lady, all reading of stories on the internet (except MN) leads to doom and tredipdation.... But big hugs coming your way.

Hi whatsfor tea - good to have you back.

We did it last night - phew, would have got very annoyed indeed if we didn't. Hope valentine's weekend means we do lotas this weekend too.

Sounds like you have all been having a great week of BDing, lets hope it ends in lots & lots of BFP's

Welcome to all the new ladies, sending some baby dust your way

I had my check in with the MW this morning & all went ok. I have my 12wk Nuchal scan booked in a King's College on 23rd Feb & hoping that I get a low risk & don't have to go for further test. Telling the parents next wk when we are in the UK for half term & then hopefully everyone else once the scan is over on 23rd if all is well

Re: the question about OVing timing. I knew my dates 100% but when I had my 8 wk scan they put me back 5 days & I complained & said I was certain about the dates, their answer was that although I knew when I OV'd conception didn't take place for 5 days after that.......I looked back on my chart & we BD'd the day before OV the day after & then not till the 5 days past my OV date, which could have made sense for their dates.........so I would say to you all keep BDing even though when you get a +ive on your stick just incase it could be the reason why I was successful that month

I've just eaten TWO GU Chocolate Banoffee Puddings - this is after realising the scales hadn't moved after 3 weeks of full-on low calorie healthy eating, so I thought SOD IT !!!!!

Feel sick now though

Good for you jools. i just went to get a post-work snack and really craved chocolate but had none inthe house!!might have to get some as i'm so jealous of your gu puds.

On the obsession scale, how bad would you say it is to be checking MN on the M5? (DH is driving.) Jools, good on you for allowing yourself a treat! You know those two puds aren't going to show up on the scales either! As they say-life is short, eat dessert first.
smiley that's really interesting, thanks for sharing! yellow well done-we went to the gym and crashed into bed too knackered for BD. Feel v.guilty today... kitty I'm in a much better place mentally and physically since coming off the pill. That may of course be coincidental! iggy I like your inner scientist - let's hope you and jools are right about the OPKs going to waste...

oh, and flintski cheerleading the POAS crowd! Fingers xed for you!

when i came off pill couple of years ago I beame much happier and less teary - had not realised how much it had affected my mood.

Thanks yellow and broodzilla

smileycat looking forward to seeing your next scan pics

jools YUM!

flintski did you give in to choc?

broodzilla MN is soooooooo adddictive isn't it!

Hello everyone,

Was offline yesterday as it was my birthday so spent it doing nice things like having my hair cut and coloured. Then dh and I had a nice night in with pizza and a bottle of champagne. Then an early night!

I think I would normally be ovulating about now if I was on a normal cycle but I haven't had any of the usual signs like a zit breakout or EWCM or anything. Kind of assuming it won't happen this month. I nearly got an OPK out yesterday but thought - I'm not going there. They are supposed to not be reliable straight after mc anyway.

Welcome back to "whatsfortea" - so sorry to hear about your mc. I had one recently and all the ladies here have been lovely in helping me to deal with it.

Smiley - good to know all is well with you. I agree with you re late bding - the month I got my bfp we did it later once than we normally did because it was our wedding anniversary (think it was day 20) and bingo. OPK's are not an exact science by any means.

Jools - hope you are wrapped up in a duvet ffighting off this bug. I'm not even going to entertain thoughts of another reason! Positive thinking missy x

Brrodzilla - that is some OPK stash! I'm not sure about your theory about LH surges. In some women the surge lasts a day or two - in others just half a day or so - this would give some indication as to variation ov times maybe? I am no scientist!

Hope everyone is having a good day.