TTC FIRST BABY - New cycle, let's go girls !

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Follow up form TTC BABY #1 - cycle buddies.
For all the girls trying to conceive their first baby !

All fingers crossed for you!! Glad they are being proactive for you!

I think if you have the energy go for it! It can’t do any harm? But the deeds before ovulation probably covered it so equally don’t worry if not :) x

I feel you!! It’s awful and no one understands. I’m going shopping tomorrow for some retail therapy need a distraction!!

Aw @KT199 we are on the exact same tww! 5dpo today, right? I'm trying my very best to keep occupied, we just got accepted for a house so that's been taking my mind off things but the urge to pee on sticks is rampant 😅😅

@Frenchtoastie ahhh sounds lovely! Make sure you treat yourself! My weekend plans fell through as my friend is unwell, so defo need to find another distraction and a walk round the shops might be just what I need!

@littlebluu yesss! I’m 5DPO (feels like 15)
Ahh how exciting, congrats on the house!! ✨
Its so annoying at this in between point where it’s too early for any signs, but too early to pee on a stick😂

Morning Lovely! I'm 3DOO today! I feel so exhausted from last week and POAS testing and timing DTD!! It actually feels quite nice now to know there is nothing more I can do this month!! Hoping next week at work is busy to pass the time!!

Have you got any symptoms? Xxx

Morning gals, be strong during the 2WW! almost a stark white for me on my lh test this morning, 0.12. I'm going to carry on testing until cd22 (I'm cd19) but I think based on this I'm out already ... we still DTD yesterday just in case I missed the peak on the strips but I'm not holding much hope !
Ordered my thermometer for next cycle though 😅

@slothbat heyyy! No nothing at the moment, got a little bloating but that’s normal for me every cycle at this point. I don’t really get many other symptoms than bloating and slightly sore boobs which normally appear in next few days. I guess it also is too early for any symptoms to be pregnancy related too.

I’m hoping for a busy week too!! And to resist testing until next Friday at the earliest 😂

Morninggg!!
Ah I guess you will find out Monday either way, defo hopeful that you have that test to confirm/deny ovulation this month if you’ve not found your peak!

Hahahah, good luck. It can be SO frustrating but I do find it useful when it confirms my ovulation date. It’s meant I know the exact length of my luteal phase and mines always 12 days.

Hi we didn't DTD again last night, hubby struggling with getting in the mood for it.

I think where next cycle we'll DTD in the five days leading up a bit more rather than waiting until ovulation day itself. We'll try, if mood allows.

It's so so difficult because TTC is all I can think about and what I want so much. Hubby really is ready for a family but now he feels really bad because he can't go as much as I feel is needed.

How do you ladies deal with this?
I really don't want to put pressure on but also the chances of conceiving with just one time are relatively slim also.

Morning! It's really hard I feel the week of ovulation is almost like a chore!! It doesn't feel natural 😂😂😂 and the pressure is on! Now I'm past ovulation I'm quite in the mood 😂😂😂

It's a tough one but remember it does only take one chance!! Xxx

@Itstime2023 I had a chat with my husband about that and he doesn't have any issues in that department but he did say the pressure on the man is quite big, to perform and deliver at set moments or on set days...
Not quite sure what would make him feel better, maybe explain to him how it works in details so he understands it more ? Xx

Hey,

My OH doesn’t seem too phased but everyone is different. Not sure how long you’ve been TTC? We’re on month 3, but I defo think if this takes 12 months+ things could change in that department.

Is there anything you could do to “set the mood” a little more? Like maybe not say to him your wanting to DTD for the purpose of a baby.. but set up a nice dinner, get dressed up and try make a date night or even book a night/few days away near ovu day and don’t even tell him that that is happening. Then try create the moment more naturally and abit fun? I know in your head it won’t be but maybe him not knowing would help?

I agree with @KT199 we put some music on, massage or anything. That can make it seem like it's not for TTC !

Morning! I’m CD 14 and had a flashing smiley yesterday and now static with peak OPK today which is a day later than my others (maybe due to my chemical last month) it’s the first month I’ve had a flashing smiley! this is my second cycle but been tracking for a few months. DTD last night and hopefully again tonight. First month I’ve had heavy ewcm too, others been light so taking it as a good sign.… good luck girls! Xx

Mine this month went from 0.19 last night to peak peak today so always hope 🙏 xx

@Gemmaemilyx aw thanks for your experience ! I think I'm gonna test afternoons for another 3 days ... we shall see ! So far had another really low reading .. I'm cd19, will test until cd22...

It is so frustrating isn't it! Hopefully it comes later on today!

Is it just me who finds this so funny in the sense that we used pull out method for years! Avoiding like a whole week thinking you could get pregnant so easily 😂😂 if only I knew then 😂😂😂

I think book a holiday over your next ovulation time but maybe lie about when your fertile so he doesn’t feel pressure and it could just be more natural holiday sex?

@slothbat omg 100%! I haven't been on contraception for 6 years !! 😂
I am also now starting to resent people who " didn't even try " 🤣

We said this exact thing 🤣🤣wasted so much money on condoms ffs 🤣

I've had a cry with him.

He now feels bad 😂😂 I absolutely hate the thought that he feels bad and was the last thing I wanted to do but I can't just keep my emotions bottled up.
It's so hard to keep everything in check right?

I think it's difficult because I've been stopped on contraception for a year now but we've had a lot of illness on both sides this year so just feels something is always in the way. I'm usually a strong believer of when it happens it will happen. But we're also both mid 30s and I'm ever so conscious of time running away.

We've decided we're going to try and carry on naturally, we'll try and make things more romantic.
Unfortunately he doesn't have any more annual leave until April but we can do weekends away, I think that might be quite nice actually.

Thanks ladies for letting me air my feelings.

I guess we did DTD once so there's always a chance. But we're putting this month a side now and will just try again next month, not much more we can do really.

❤️

How does that even happen to people! 😂

It’s not an easy journey, and I don’t think it’s talked about enough that it can be mentally so challenging when you’re going through the motions of TTC. Sending love.

I always find though when I’m getting a little down/overwhelmed if I force myself to go exercise (even when it’s the last thing in the world I want to do) I feel a thousand times better! I had got myself worked up and stressed in the last 24hrs so we went to play squash this afternoon and I already feel so much better! May work for you and your OH as it completely distracts the mind, it’s fun and we always have a laugh 😊

@Itstime2023 it does only take once maybe this will be your month as your so worried you haven't done it enough!! It is really hard and must be hard on the man to "deliver" on demand etc. I'm over it this month what will be will be. At least there's no more testing or POAS etc!! Xx