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AF due in 7 days! let's hand hold!

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Heron23 · 17/04/2008 09:38

2nd cycle ttc dc2, AF due next thurs

so far i have not done any testing (unlike last month when i wasted so many test strips!)

let us get through the next week together

also i have very little symptoms compared to last month. my boobs are not overly sore, and cramps are much less

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ohjoy · 28/05/2008 15:07

hi knax, thanks bean is holding in there

hi queenie, sorry about AF, but at least now you're going to get looked after/taken seriously by your doc. docs! they can be so difficult!

hi little, fingers crossed for you...

littlemissdaisy · 28/05/2008 15:55

OK, I need to get something off my chest, I need to say this on here because if I said it out loud in the real world it would be even worse!! You will all probably think I am a bitch cos I do!!! OK here goes.... my DH's friend and his wife are having IFV, they are not particularly nice people IMO and today she had a negative result for the second time, Okay this is the bad bit I am glad, god thats awful! is it natural to have this feeling or am I complete bitch, you can tell me. I feel that I should have a bond with her as we are both going through similar things, I don't know how I should feel..... somebody tell me please

queenie1 · 28/05/2008 16:49

Don't even talk to me about being a bitch. All around me friends are conceiving and while 'pleased' I can't help feeling bitter, jealous and annoyed.

LMD, I think it is entirely normal and natural to have thoughts like yours towards people you know (particularly when you don't like them!)...isn't it great to be able to vent this here though so that you can keep up the public facade!!

queenie1 · 28/05/2008 16:57

On a different note, can I have some advice please dear online friends...

Given that we are having such a torrid time trying to conceive am thinking about fertility / ovulation monitoring. Not something I have done - just day counted and worked on vaginal mucus (tmi?)...am going to see doctor next week to see if they can do blood / hormone tests etc to see why I can't manage to keep a baby, but want to make sure I'm also doing everything I can to get one.

Don't know the first thing about ovulation monitoring though. Do you think its a good idea? If so, how does it work? And how would I go about doing this?

Trying to use my AF days positively planning for next month. Presumably I should also give up drinking, take folic acid tablets and move into a convent that allows nightly visits from DH???

If any of you have any advice...

littlemissdaisy · 28/05/2008 17:17

Hi Queenie, I'm glad you feel the same its so confusing isn't it, with regards to advice, I am in a similar situation, I have just got a clearblue fertilty monitor to see if that helps at all, but having read the advice, its not recommended to be used if you take clomid, but we are gonna give it ago anyway, I have been day counting for months but my cycles can be quote erratic, avereging around 33 days. I do take Folic acid daily, but other than that not a lot else, I have the occasional drink and if I am totally honest smoke more thatn I should, however I have no problems stopping when I do get the BFP's (to little to late maybe) but you can't put your life on hold and live like a nun. I am on CD38 today still no AF don't even feel like its on its way, I did a HPT on Saturday which was a BFN, I have a team building event with work on Saturday at Go Ape, swing through trees and stuff on harnesses so planning on testing again on Fri, I am sure I am not Pregnant this month as Clomid was ruled out this cycle by Gynae as I had a CP last month, but its better to be safe than sorry.

queenie1 · 28/05/2008 17:42

LMD, or little (not sure what to call you?)...good to hear you are in same situation. Lets keep hand holding and hope we both have some joy soon.

Like you, I do smoke from time to time (esp when AF is here as 'why the hell not' etc) - something I took up again after my first miscarriage...good response eh? Plan to knock it on the head (again) once I stop bleeding. I also drink more than I should, but just figure that once I get PG I'll stop and, like you, I think nun-like behaviour may lead to more stress on myself. As you say, why put life on hold? (Not like we are obsessed at the moment!!!?!).

I do hope you have a successful month, but saying that I'm a great believer in instinct about all this. Lets hope for your BFP . But if not I'll see you for an online consolatory glass of wine and cigarette ...and then we can plot about next month.

To everyone else - with or without LMD next month (lets hope not as we are waiting for that BFP), are we all here to hand hold and wine glug together? Where are you all with your cycles? From reading past posts, shouldn't we start putting up refreshed lists?

To get everyone going, I'm CD2 (of cycle anything between 25 and 40 days!) So lots of BDing and waiting to go...

LMD - believe you are good at this. Want to take charge in Heron's pregnancy absence / graduation??

xx

littlemissdaisy · 28/05/2008 20:27

Hi Queenie, I totally agree about own instinct, I new before I had tested with other pregnancy. As for me taking over from Heron I think you should take the lead,I like the idea of an updated list,go for it.

queenie1 · 28/05/2008 21:50

okay, here goes...my attempt at where we all are:

Recent successes / graduates:
Beckmo
Heron
Ohjoy

AF recently arrived so CD:
Cece: AF May 19th, CD 9?
Cathers: AF May 23rd, CD 5?
Flowerfairy: AF May 23rd, CD 5?
Leaky: AF 22nd May, CD 6?
Lullamama: AF 20th May, CD 8?
Queenie: AF 27th May, CD 2

Still waiting:
Knax: CD 28
LMD: CD 38
Lostittoday: CD 30
Roquefortlover: AF due 29/30 May
Tink: AF due May 31

Feel free to fill in info and update as we all progress...good luck for all those still waiting, congratulations to the graduates, and lets keep in touch this month for all those whose AF has now arrived...

x

littlemissdaisy · 29/05/2008 08:59

Just POAS and totally missed it, what a donought, lol, I will have to wait until I need another wee now.

tink08 · 29/05/2008 10:13

i feel really wierd this week got tummy cramps but not like af cramps , and i keep holding my tummy without realising ( is it my sub concious or am i just hoping mad ? )
i've been really queasy until around lunch all this week i had to go to work on the bus yesterday and really thought i was going to vomit i asked the bus driver to stop the bus ! i never had sickness with dd1 so not sure if it is a sign or if i've just got a stomach bug
not due til saturday x

littlemissdaisy · 29/05/2008 11:53

OK, POAS and got BFN, I just want my AF to arrive so I can get on and take my Clomid again. Where is the old bag when you want her,

TINK Sorry your feeling weird, the waiting is awful isn't it? have you been tempted to test. My fingers are crossed for you.

Knax · 29/05/2008 20:08

sounds promising tink.
I'm due today/tomorrow and no AF yet but have been getting some AF-like cramps but keep convincing myself they're pg cramps.
Will test tomorrow or sat if no AF by then. Almost want her over with if I'm not cos i hate all the fantasising in vain if not...
Love to all,
knax x

Knax · 29/05/2008 20:09

p.s. will definitely be having a wine and a cigarette with you queenie and Little if AF arrives!!

littlemissdaisy · 29/05/2008 20:31

QUEENIE OMG We have made ourselves sound like wine swilling fag hags lol

KNAX hopefully you went a need a ciggie & Glass of wine. Fingers crossed for you.

tink08 · 29/05/2008 20:40

gonna poas in mornin , like you said knax i wish af would come and go so can get on with next month if i'm not pg ! i hope this ismy month, its a year ttc now if you include mc in march . Its my DD1 's 5th birthday next week and when i ask her what she wants all she says is she wants a brother or sister to play with and it just melts my heart x

Knax · 30/05/2008 06:49

Oh my God Just got a BFP!!!!! Won't need that taxi!!!

littlemissdaisy · 30/05/2008 07:21

KNAX Congratulations

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Heron23 · 30/05/2008 08:43

Hi Knax, CONGRATULATIONS !!!!

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Heron23 · 30/05/2008 08:44

knax, what are you symptoms? so so happy for you!!!

here's hoping your BFP rubs off on others

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littlemissdaisy · 30/05/2008 09:21

Hi HERON Where have you been hiding?? Hows things with you ???

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Heron23 · 30/05/2008 10:22

hi little, i am good how are you today?
little bean is fine i hope. i am knicker checking like you would not believe! also still testing everyday i know it is embarassing, but what can i do? i am a POAS addict

have early dating scan next friday. will be just over 6 weeks...

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Knax · 30/05/2008 12:39

Thanks for congrats! Lots of baby dust to everyone!!
Not really any symptoms I'm afraid, which doesn't help the research, unless you count obsessively thinking about TTc and nothing else! Did have a mild cramping which I thought was AF on way though!
X

LullyMummaOfOne · 30/05/2008 12:46

Congratulation Knax, great news.
I'll still be holding hands this month althoug i know it will be another BFN. DH has been working really horrible hours and the bedroom action has been really poor to say the least. Im on CD 11 now so should be OV soon, i dont have high hopes this month but we will just have to wait and see. Good luck to you all xx

tink08 · 30/05/2008 13:20

wow congrats knax ! i tested this mornin and got bfn but not due af til 2moro so was really early and theres still hope x

queenie1 · 30/05/2008 17:30

Congratulations Knax!!! Amazing news.

And Tink - keep us posted...

LMD - yes, fear we have portrayed ourselves as horribly irresponsible ...as long as people know its only during AF days as a way to keep ourselves sane!