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AF due in 7 days! let's hand hold!

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Heron23 · 17/04/2008 09:38

2nd cycle ttc dc2, AF due next thurs

so far i have not done any testing (unlike last month when i wasted so many test strips!)

let us get through the next week together

also i have very little symptoms compared to last month. my boobs are not overly sore, and cramps are much less

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queenie1 · 22/05/2008 16:23

Hi all - congrats to you oh joy, great news!

Not so great with me though. After the two tests with faint lines tests then started coming back negative. Still just felt pregnant so went to doctor's today. I showed him the faint lines and he did say that I could well be pregnant. So he did a test and it came back negative. He said it was conclusive that I wasn't. I burst into tears in the doctor's surgery and then cried all the way home. And continued to cry. So fed up, felt so sure I was. Now having a glass of wine. Need to wait for my period now and then find the strength to try again next month. Why is it so hard to conceive?

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Heron23 · 22/05/2008 17:05

hi little, my AF was due today and it did not come and i got a strong BFP!!!!!!!

i know it is early days, last month, it was very faint. so i am a bit more confident. also i feel pregnant

hi queenie, i am so sorry to hear that...sounds like it was a chemical pregnancy

i have no clever words to make you feel better. i am thinking of you though. it is hard to conceive! i sometimes wonder how come our earth is overpopulated???

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littlemissdaisy · 22/05/2008 17:09

Oh HERON I am so pleased for you
Who will hold my hand next month if I got a BFN on Saturday Which I Think I Will

leaky · 22/05/2008 17:47

I'm still here Little

Try not to worry too much Queenie,you could still be pregnant....it could be down to the test they use,my friend said they are just cheap ones too.Here's hoping....

mumfor1standmaybe2ndtime · 22/05/2008 17:52

I am waiting for AF now. I am on day 25 and usually have 25-28 day cycle, keeping fingers crossed!

queenie1 · 22/05/2008 18:05

Congrats too to you Heron!!!

Littlemissdaisy - looks like I'm still around, with leaky to hold your hand.

Leaky - thanks for your kind, supportive words. But I don't think I can hope anymore this month. Just want AF to arrive, boobs to stop tingling and to get on with next month.

I'm pretty new to this Mumsnet malarky but just wanted to say thanks to you all. It is wonderful to be able to swap and share stories, hopes, fears and ultimate bad news (as well as, for some, positive and good news). So thanks (clearly still feeling vvv emotional!! !)

littlemissdaisy · 22/05/2008 18:27

Thanks, Leaky & Queenie

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Heron23 · 22/05/2008 19:09

hi little,
fingers crossed for you the witch does not get you ! i am very very cautiously happy about my BFP. have a first response to use tomorrow morning or maybe sat morning.

i will still be on these threads. i will definitely hold your hand

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LullyMummaOfOne · 22/05/2008 20:30

Hey Queenie1, Leaky and Littlemissdaisy i'll still be here next month we can all hold hands together.

flowerfairy · 22/05/2008 20:41

Heron i'm thrilled for you wishing you lots of luck and crossing fingers for you.

Queenie hope things work out for you.

Will be back again next month to hold hands with anyone who has a bfn.

Have lots of nice things planned for the next week so am going to be kind ot myself and as i read on somone elses post somewhere know i'm privileged to already to be called mummy!

(see calm and rational now af has arrived-give me 14 days and i'll be back to why can't i be pg!!!)

leaky · 23/05/2008 07:05

Help everyone,advice please!!

On CD34 yesterday I had a bleed in the morning after 2 days of cramps on & off. I assumed it was AF. The blood was bright red & there was a very small clot bit about 2 inches long but only couple of mm's wide, I don't think it was an actual clot. Anyway, I thought it was AF & put in a tampon.Went to change it later & there was hardly anything on it.Changed again later still & it was completely clean.Yesterday also I've had no period pain at all.

Usually at the start of AF my 1st day is very slow & then speeds up overnight or on the 2nd day.Last night nothing has happened still.I've occassionally had a slight feeling in my lower area but not as low down as period pain.
I'm totally confused I'd done a test too early on CD33 which was -ve.
Also I've never started AF with bright red blood. Do you think I could be PG?

cathers · 23/05/2008 08:58

Congrats Heron! You must be over the moon - best wishes for next few months.

Not such good news here - Af arrives this morning after being 3 days late. Now on month 9 of ttc, so just ordered some pre-seed as GP won't see me till August and need to feel i am doing something to help.(already have 1DS ag 3) Feeling really low as AF is never late and was starting to believe there was a chance this month. Will be back next month to hold hands again x

queenie1 · 23/05/2008 10:50

Hi Leaky - could be implantation bleeding or even a hormonal bleed that is lighter than normal but comes at the same time as your period...saying that the clot doesn't sound promising. Why don't you wait a couple of days (however hard that is!!). If there's more blood, its probably AF and if none, test again. You could also go to the doctor's. I felt so stupid and neurotic going yesterday and was so upset with the outcome of the visit - i.e. not PG - but feeling better today and now trying to put this month behind me (still no AF though....!!...). So wait a few days and see what happens, or if you can't go to your GP. I've got my fingers crossed for you.

Cathers - sorry to here about AF...see you next month!

leaky · 23/05/2008 13:07

My AF has definitely arrived now. To be honest I'm all over the place when it comes to having another child now anyway.Spoke to a few friends this morning & one mum who has recently had a 3rd said doing school run is really hard & she's not enjoying it as much as she thought she would but it's what she wanted. I'm scared that could be me in a years time.
I'd pretty much decided not to try again (I'm very impulsive)then got home to receive a Conception, Pregnancy & Birth book I'd ordered from ebay.Oh it's so hard. My DH says it's much better to waste a few £'s on a book than to make the wrong decision.
I know he's right but i want to be pregnant one last time

Sorry, I know I must sound ridiculous to those of you TTC for 1st child. Just getting it off my chest

queenie1 · 23/05/2008 13:30

Oh leaky - you don't sound ridiculous at all. Enjoy the two children you do have - they are such a blessing and I so hope to be able to have even one. But it sounds entirely natural and normal to feel this way - wanting but not being completely sure about a third. It can't be an easy decision. I hope you get the outcome that is right for you.

I also ordered a book on conception a few days ago and waiting for it to arrive. Figured it would be a good omen when I thought I was pregnant, but reassuring and a positive step if I found out I wasn't.
x

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Heron23 · 23/05/2008 18:14

hi leaky, i completely agree with what queenie has said about enjoying the 2 you already have. give it time and i am sure you will come to the right decision! in the meantime, summer is coming

Cathers, so sorry the witch got you i can completely recommend pre-seed. we used it. it is expensive but i think it is worth it. good luck!

have a good weekend everyone!
tomorrow promises to be a bright sunny day!

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queenie1 · 23/05/2008 20:01

One more question before I finally concede this month isn't happening for me...

So, as you know, had two faint positives, then two negatives including one from doctor yesterday who told me i definitely was not pregnant. Could have had a chemical PG...

But now day 37 and still no AF. Weird thing was, was that from day 28 to day 32 had LOADS of ECVM. Thought it might have been linked with implantation but seems not. May I have been ovulating again, and might I then have conceived which is stopping my AF from coming?

So confused...want to just accept that this month is over but no AF yet and this nagging question...Thoughts oh wise Mumsnetters?????

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Heron23 · 23/05/2008 21:19

hi queenie, so sorry this is so uncertain for you.

question: how long are your cycles normally?

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queenie1 · 23/05/2008 21:37

before miscarriages they were always 29/30 days. Since then, has been anything from 25 to 35 days - never this long...

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Heron23 · 23/05/2008 22:27

hmmmm, i would say wait and see because there is always a chance as long as AF hasnot got you.

fingers crossed for you

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Teuch · 23/05/2008 22:31

Hey queenie. It is less likely that you ovulated again and more likely a delayed ovulation. If you have an idea of how long your luteal phase (ovulation to period) usually is, you should be able to work out when to test again (assuming period doesn't arrive meantime).

I would estimate around 9 days from now, but that is based on average.

I can't explain the faint positives - unless they were purple-lidded ebay ones or were evaporaion lines.

Good luck.

Knax · 24/05/2008 08:59

Hi everyone, just poking my head round the door
of your chat... Anyone else due AF on 30th May and want to hand hold? Looking at the title of the thread it looks like it is lucky as Heron got a BFP after setting it up! Congratulations to you ladies who recently got a BFP .
Keeping fingers crossed for all the others.

Teuch · 24/05/2008 09:09

Well I missed that Heron!!!!

congratulations!!!

roquefortlover · 24/05/2008 15:15

Hello Knax, my period is due on 29/30 may too! I am not sure about this month - dh was away over much of the crucial time and also I did not get a peak on my Clearblue monitor. BUT, having said that, i really don't feel premenstrual at present and normally am a sore-boobed banshee by now! Anyway, as of tomorrow we are off on hols until 1 June and I am not going to take a preg.test with me so will have to wait till I get back to find out!! Getting jitters about missing MN for a week too actually... so, I won't be around much to hand hold but wanted to wish you good luck anyhow!! Don't test too early!!

Knax · 24/05/2008 17:28

THANKS ROQUE, oops capitals. Have great hols! Good plan not to bring pg test kit to avoid temptation! I only keep one stick in the house and am determined not to use it until AF actually a few days late... We'll see if I can manage it. have given up trying to symptom spot because pMT seems to have the same symptoms!