TTC October 2023

[beaniesunrise]

Couldn’t find a thread so thought to create one and see who else will join the community!

Preparing to start TTC early October based on my cycle.

TTC: baby no.2
Age : 29
average cycle is 28 days for me 😊

@wanderlustre that's so tough. All my friends caught straight away with their first and second it's so hard to sit and talk about how easy falling pregnant and pregnancy is with them (believe me it's allllll they talk about). I find it hard to explain because there's an element of "why not me" even though you wouldn't want their baby you want your own. Not sure if I've explained that right. Especially if no one knows it's not as easy for you (one of my friends does but it still doesn't stop the conversations).

Good luck to everyone entering the dreaded TWW. AF has just finished for me but I have quite long cycles so will be a week or so before I start using OPKs.

I'd really appreciate some advice from BBT-ers though - all the guidance says you should do it at the same time in the morning every day before you get up. I get up before 6 for work when I'm in the office and don't get up til 7 when WFH and weekends could be later depending on what DS does. Do I have to wake up before 6 everyday in that case to track BBT? Am I overthinking this?!

Oh no. I'm so sorry 😞 in what way was it not well received. I hope you're okay!

Hi. I’m so sorry it’s taking so long for you. I too seem to be surrounded by people who get pregnant the first month of trying. It’s a very lonely journey and the process feels all consuming at the moment but I’m determined not to give up! Have you tried acupuncture or anything like that? I’ve had quite a few sessions now and find that they help manage the stress/worry around the process as I’m a bit of a worrier in general. I’m also taking Chinese herbs which have helped regulate my cycles which have been quite irregular since we started trying (although mine tend to be longer, anything from 29-44days!). I’m giving pre seed a go this month as I know a lot of people seem to have had a lot of luck with it! Do you use opks to track ovulation?

@wanderlustre sorry I forgot to tag you!xx

@hicketypickety mine varies too depending when I wake. I’ve not had a problem but if using an app to track they’ll make a note using a symbol if your time was different to usual. For me it hasn’t made a difference though, my temp is always either below cover line if at start of cycle and above once I’m in luteal regardless of the time o take it.

@MissT90 I take my BBT every morning, usually whenever I wake for the first time and need a wee - the time obviously varies quite a lot! I then log it in the app whenever I wake up properly so times are all over the place. It never occurred to me to log them at consistent times!

I've been using easy@home ovulation strips for about 10 days around when I ovulate. I never get a positive test but I do get small surge most months that coincides with symptoms (usually about 0.6). I log everything in Flo and Premom at the moment.

I've been taking proceive vitamins and I've added in 300mg of CoQ10 in the last month or two as well as some Omega 3. Try to chance my husband round daily and make him take vitamins too (it's like having a toddler already!). Trying to walk 10,000 steps away, drink 2ltrs of water and cut back on alcohol. Generally eat healthy anyway but being a bit more conscious there too.

No acupuncture yet. My husband's friends wife goes (she's been TTC for coming on to 2 years with 2 losses) and she enjoys it. May sound a bit silly but I love giving blood and I don't think you can when you are having acupuncture. My Grandad gave blood for decades and I started going when he died so I feel like it's a legacy I carry on for him. May need to think of pausing and considering acupuncture though at this point. I am starting to struggle with all the emotions attached to it now.

I’ve just been reading everyone’s posts the past few days. Welcome to all the new joiners! 👋🌺
sorry for you ladies that are struggling right now but hopefully this forum will be a place you can speak to someone about & not feel lonely. Sending lots of baby dusts for you all and that we get our BFPs very soon. 🌹I don’t know much about BBT and OPKs so it’s interesting to read everyone’s experiences here!

What kind of ovulation symptoms do you all get? Like do you know when you’re about to ovulate or anything that comes out the ordinary? Curious to know as I haven’t noticed, maybe slight cramps but confuse it for being close to AF🤔

CD8 today ⏳

Aww the same to you lovely - sending baby dust to you and all the other ladies on here.. I was lucky enough to conceive 'accidently' with my little boy so I didn't realise I'd be here a year later, probably 8 months properly tracking/trying!

My main symptoms are what I'd describe as a pinching sensation in my ovaries (usually just 1 side but this month had both sides!!) And then very mild PMS symptoms like tender boobs, slight cramps etc. I've not ovulated past 3 months so was starting to worry but thing it was due to an underlying kidney infection I've now been treated for.

How are you feeling? How long have you been trying for? (Sorry if you've already said) x

I was wondering the same. I guess I've not thought about it before this month, but on Sunday I had cramping in what must be my left ovary.. so am I to assume I've ovulated?! DTD is a bit knackering, we don't normally do it evert night ! Ha.

Throwing my hat into the ring here!

This will be our first month trying. I’m 43 though, so really not sure if it’ll happen for me.

Currently on day 6 of my cycle.

Lovely to meet you all xx

My ovulation symptoms are cramping/achy lower back, tiredness and EWCM. I don't get the cramps every month to be fair.

I’m on my 7th cycle TTC my second and I didn’t use OPKs this time. I found it much less stressful without them and we strangely dtd more often. I’m guessing I’m in the tww now as I think I ovulated Sunday/Monday going by symptoms. So hard not to get your hopes up each month and the tww never gets any easier to manage (already looked ahead to when I could potentially test 🤦🏻‍♀️)

Spotting along wit headache.

😭

@wanderlustre oh interesting about the giving blood after acupuncture! I never knew that. I would definitely recommend trying it out for a month or two anyway and see how you find it. I see you mentioned about not getting a positive ovulation test, have you had day 21 bloods done to check that you are definitely ovulating? I’m booked in for day 3-5 bloods tomorrow and an AMH test. I’m a bit nervous about it :(
@beaniesunrise my ovulation symptoms are strong cramping on one side plus I always get moody and emotional 😅 but that’s about it! I don’t really see any EWCM that I see people talk about, just wondering does anyone else have this issue? I also did the BBT tracking one month, I actually found it quite interesting seeing the shift in temperatures depending on what phase you’re in but having to wake up at the same time every morning didn’t work for me and plus I felt like it was just another thing for me to obsess over! 🤣

@beaniesunrise Its my first month trying but had quite intense symptoms which I don't remember ever having when I was trying for my son! Felt nauseous and bad cramps with EWCM.

Just curious what everyone else does in their TWW, do you go about as normal or like youre pregnant? I'm going on holiday soon during the TWW and not sure whether to have a drink of alcohol or not etc really interested to see what other people do/opinions on it xx

What you guys think about my bbt chart? Normally it’s already down at 10dpo. But still BFN Having strange pulling aches in my lower stomach today like zipper going down my leg may be AF coming early 😫 got my progesterone test result today at 40.8 so I assume I ovulated this months 🙏🏻 first months after soy isoflavones

@MissT90 I've had bloods but never linked to a particular part of my cycle. Weirdly, both times I went for a pelvic scan (external in April and internal in May), the sonographer mentioned that it looked like I was about to ovulate. Good luck with your tests! Are you receiving them via your GP or are you under a hospital now?

@PurplePops I act like normal throughout tbh. I've tried to make healthy changes but I haven't totally cut out alcohol/caffeine and other things you need to when pregnant. I think it helps keep my sanity because I'm not denying myself things I enjoy just to still be disappointed.

@wanderlustre I have the same view with caffeine/alcohol obviously not excessively but don't want to be deprived and then disappointed too but there is so many things like rare steak/hot tub etc where I'm wondering if that would be harmful or not. It's all fun and games isn't it 😫 x

@PurplePops i’m wrestling with this at the moment! I’m in the TWW currently and going to a very special family event/occasion this weekend that involves a party and several meals out across Saturday and Sunday. Feel like I should be totally abstaining from alcohol just in case I AM pregnant but what a bloody waste if I’m not!! I think I’ll have some champagne and maybe a glass of wine and try to leave it at that.

@DoloresOnTheDottedLine I also think if I abstain from alcohol in front of people they'll think I'm secretly pregnant and I find that really difficult 😔

Unfortunately I will have that problem too, @wanderlustre !

@TTCnewbies in every way lol basically I agreed to do something he wanted to if he would reciprocate with some quality time that night……when we got home he was ‘too tired’ despite me having being the one up at night with our daughter, and then I asked if he would be coming to bed if he was tired….but no he wasn’t that tired instead he stayed up for a couple hours playing video games. So I felt pretty pissed that I went out to my way for him and then he was too ‘tired’ but he wasn’t actually tired. He eventually came to bed and DTD but it felt like he really wasn’t into it and he didn’t look at or touch me once, I felt awful and neglected.

This is an ongoing issue where we only ever DTD when he decides the time is right, which is around once every two to three weeks and always in the middle of the night. Which he wakes me up for, is in the dark, and is quick and only for his pleasure.

Honestly if we weren’t TTC I would’ve called him off and said don’t bother.

It’s going to be a huge issue with TTC because I can’t ask him, and without me asking we aren’t going to hit fertile windows very often if at all. And I have horrendous periods so I’m not happy waiting for months hoping we’ll hit a fertile period by some miracle.

Really crossing my fingers it sticks this cycle so I don’t have to fret about it all.

Q I’ve done 2 ovulation strips cheapies not digital and it’s blank but just had jelly type discharge only day 16 and I ovulated around the 24th last month does that mean I’m going miss my window this month apps say my window is from the 3r to the 8th I can’t even dtd now till the 5th

hello all!

I am TTC baby no 2. DS was born last July.

According to premom I should have ovulated yesterday but my LH was really really low so don't think I did.

I only stopped breastfeeding in August and got my 1st period back in Sept so this is my 1st cycle back properly TTC although we haven't been using contraceptive since DS was born

@Tigger1116 which ones do you use? I use easy at home and put them onto the premom app