TTC October 2023

[beaniesunrise]

Couldn’t find a thread so thought to create one and see who else will join the community!

Preparing to start TTC early October based on my cycle.

TTC: baby no.2
Age : 29
average cycle is 28 days for me 😊

Thank you @ceruleansky & @beaniesunrise

@HarrogateGirl Hello. I am also from Harrogate! Plenty of people become first time parents at that age these days

It can take a while for the cycle to get back after contraception. But everyone is different.
I would probably suggest unto using opks to start off with to see if your hormones are building up to ovulation. And then if you are up yo it track your bbt to confirm ovulation.
That should give you a good understanding of your own cycle

@ceruleansky I am so sorry to hear that. @DoloresOnTheDottedLine is right - if you need to take time to wallow then you should. Everything crossed for Friday for you xx

I've said it before and I'll say it again - wish they'd told us how hard it could be at school!!

@beaniesunrise
Thank you! How are you feeling? Have you tested yet?

@hicketypickety
You're so kind. Thank you!
I'm clinging on to some hope for Friday! If that doesn't work out then it's wallow all the way. 🤣
How are things looking for you?

I really appreciate you all. ❤️

@ceruleansky it is hard!! I'm on CD22 and I don't know when I ovulated this month as I didn't test (trying to take the relaxed approach...it's usually around CD20). My next urine sample is due to be done next Wednesday for Charing Cross and I suspect AF is due the weekend after but who knows!

Hi everyone! Hope it's ok if I join in! I'm new here and we've just started TTC for the first time this month. I think I'm 5dpo. It all feels very new and exciting / I'm also a bit nervous! My DH and I have been together 9 years now so we thought time to take the plunge

Trying to not become obsessed with TTC.....any tips on how to handle it all? 🥰

Hi ladies hope everyone is well? I'm on CD4 now - I'm tracking BBT for the first time this cycle, trying to remain positive we will get our BFP before Xmas 🤞

Really silly question but when do you put as your last day of period - I have the slightest bit of spotting this eve expect to spot slightly tomorrow but if I am, would I count that as another period day if that makes sense? I'm clueless tbh 🤣 I'm very limited to DTD to just weekends as partner is based 6hrs away in the week so I want to make sure my predicted OV day is realistic for us this month 🤞 x

@MissSB18 we are period twins 😝 I count mine upto the last day of bleeding even if it's light spotting? Mine usually finish by 6/7 days even though it's light now.

Everything crossed for you this month 🥰

Anyone else really struggling this month? Obviously it hurts every month when you get a negative but this month I’m just 😭 why is TTC so hard? My best friend has fallen pregnant by accident and I’m happy for her but also it really stings. I’m 5dpo but I just feel like what’s the point in doing another test for it to be just be like every other month.

We agreed we’d give it a break for a while after this month and I next feel like it’s never going to happen now. ☹️ sorry to be on a downer. Just thought if there’d be anyone who understands it’d be someone here 😞

@km8 ooo hopefully testing buddies 🤞 how long are your cycles usually? That's great though thanks 😊

Got everything crossed for you too lovely! Hoping for some baby dust for us all this month 🤞 x

@MissSB18 hey! I would say if it's not 'full flow bleeding' just log spotting as a symptom and not a period day (if that makes sense!)
Baby dust to you ✨

@MissSB18 mine are around 30 days? How long are your cycles? We've been TTC for 3 months

@WishingUponARainbow thank you!! That makes sense 😊 baby dust to you too lovely, really hoping we see some BFPs this month!!!

@KM8 exactly the same as me 🤣 we can get through this together 🤞💪 aww how are you feeling about it all? Is this your first? I'm TTC #2 this is my 10th cycle.. I was so lucky & caught on the pill with my son so I was expecting to not struggle but not so easy this time round it seems! X

@MissSB18 wow! We can do this, we are TTC baby number 2 (my little girl is 2 nearly 3!) I fell pregnant within a month of trying first time round so each time I've come on I've felt a bit deflated but this is only month 4 so I know it may take a while yet.

I've had a cheeky glass of Prosecco tonight after hardly drinking since we've been trying!

I'm trying not to obsess over it all, ovulation testing, dates, and of course.....trying to have sex etc! Sending baby dust your way lovely!

@bumptobean I really resonate with what you're saying, I feel defeated even before I get a BFN. I didn't think it would be this hard TTC. I'm not even itching to test because I'm so sure it'll be negative & can't stand the disappointment

@ReginaPhalange12 it’s such a horrible feeling isn’t it!! Some months I manage to stay positive and carry on and then months like this one.. it’s just so hard to carry on with a smile.

@hicketypickety
That's interesting. How long are your cycles usually? Is it always the same number of days?
Ah I see, what are you testing for specifically with that sample?

@DoloresOnTheDottedLine Are you taking clomid days 2-6 or 3-7?

@ceruleansky 2-6 but actually my period started on Tuesday afternoon so I would count today as day 3 but my clinic call it day 2 because they only count your period as day 1 if you wake up bleeding. So I kind of think it’s actually 3-7 this cycle but the clinic would disagree…. Sorry, extremely long winded answer!! How about you?

Well I hate hate hate to admit it but I think AF is coming. Did a test last night 12DPO which I thought had a hint of a vvvvfl but ultimately it was negative.
Was convinced this month would be the month. We'll see. 😓

@bumptobean It's really getting to me this month too. It feels all consuming. My DH keeps asking whether we should take a break but I'm 33 in December. My mam and her sister both went through menopause at around 38 so it feels like my window of opportunity may be pretty narrow. We've been trying since August 2021 and my cycles are pretty short (23-25 days) so we're on 18 failed cycles now. It seems like theres barely any time before AF hits and it starts all over again. I've always wanted 2 kids. I'm an only child and longed for sibling. Sounds daft to be thinking of 2 when we haven't managed the first but it plays on my mind and makes me feel like we have even less time to lose.

Everyone around me seems to be falling pregnant at the drop of a hat with minimal effort. My two best friends got pregnant their first month of trying (one has just announced #2 just as easily). They've never heard of OPKs. They weren't taking prenatals. They did none of the prep or work I've done. I'm doing everything I can, getting my body as ready as possible, and it's still not happening so it just makes me think "how bloody infertile am I?". We have a follow up with a fertility consultant scheduled for 31st Oct so I'm just focusing everything towards that (although I don't expect answers). We think he'll probably ask if we want an IVF referral and we'll just say yes at this point.

Wow. Sorry for that ramble 🙈

Hope you’re all okay. Sending lots of love to those who are having a hard month, I feel you! Took a few days away from here after AF arriving as I felt really down.

CD7 for me tomorrow and back to the routine of the CB ovulation tests. Here we go again…!

@wanderlustre that’s the exact word to describe it: consuming!

It’s on my mind 24/7 now but my hope has gone and now it’s just depressing for me. I feel the same as you too, almost like the time is starting to run out and I’m worried we are just hurting ourselves every month but also really scared at us taking a break! I’m getting quite upset about pregnancy announcements at the moment, they seem to be everywhere!!

The 2 kids dream isn’t silly either. We’re all on here because we all have a dream, a life we’ve planned out and we’re all just trying to make it happen. When we had our first mc it was really early on and I felt silly for being upset and grieving but I was grieving the life I had already dreamt for me and a little bean!

Your fertility appointment will give you some hope and a step forward which will be brilliant. Fingers crossed you can get some plans to go forward.

I’ve got 1 friend that was also struggling to conceive due to endo and had to go down the IVF route. She fell pregnant via IVF and a few months after her baby was born fell pregnant naturally and now has a lovely little girl and a beautiful boy! It’s really hard but we have to just keep going don’t we, until it’s our turn. 🤞🏻

@DoloresOnTheDottedLine
I always had a confusion about this. I'm supposed to take it day 2-6 too.
I read that if you get the period by noon on a given day it counts as day 1. I got it in the middle of the day this time. I wonder if I should have counted the next day as day 1. Last time I got it at night so I took the next day as day 1.
Maybe I was wrong this time..
If I calculate it this way, I'm cd-1. Maybe everything is one day off.
If you can't tell, I'm spiraling.🤣