Preparing and TTC in 2023 - Thread 2

[DanisEndo]

Thread no 2 as thread 1 was so close to getting full!

As a reminder this is a positive support thread for anyone preparing and planning to start TTC in 2023 💖

If you join start by introducing yourself with your age. what no. you're trying for and when you plan on starting plus any goals you might have before then! for example:

@DanisEndo
Age 27
TTC No.1
Starting Sep 23
I want to:

• loose some weight (would like to get down to a healthy BMI by exercising and doing all home cooking, nothing to major or restrictive)
• do some decorating around the house
• get married (1st September woooo!)
• change job / company

I have endometriosis and PCOS, 2 surgeries down and hoping I'll still be all clear by the time we get to trying.

Theres a long list of us now so bare with me updating it as we go 😅

Good luck everyone!!!

@CRbear Are you 10DPO today? 😊 When is AF due? Could still be a pregnancy sign!

12DPO, FMU- not even a hint of a line.

cramps intensifying. Think it’s all over. So disappointed.

@CRbear Oh I'm so sorry! Although you aren't out until you are out. 😔

Hello all. I haven't been around here since I had a chemical pregnancy in February. We're now officially going to start trying again this month. I'm on day 4 of my cycle now but I tend to ovulate early. Not going to test for ovulation or anything just try to do it every other day. Good luck to all trying!

Hi @WolfMother326 - sorry to hear about your CP. best wishes for this cycle!

@LeopardLover thanks for your kindness. I was so hopeful when I temped this morning and I was the hottest I’ve ever been on O+13 - but nope. Not even a whisper or a line (and I caved and did a FRER in case my internet cheapies were defective- ever hopeful!). I think as I know when I ovulated it’s pretty much impossible a pregnancy wouldn’t be picked up by now. I just know I’m going to lose it when my period starts though. At least I have an appt to kick off investigations in 2 weeks. I was told that due to my PCOS I shouldn’t wait the full year to seek help.

Gutted though. Absolutely gutted. I’m already alienating friends as I’m so prickly when they say things like “it will happen when it will happen”, “you just need to relax” etc. I was at a bbq on Saturday and holding a friends newborn and someone said “we know who will be next”. It just rips at my heart. I wish I could be more chill but I’m just not.

@WolfMother326 Best of luck this cycle! It's good to have you back 🥰

@CRbear Was ovulation confirmed by temping? If so, I'm so sorry. It's heartbreaking, I hate it when people casually make comments like that. As if falling pregnant is so easy! And even seeing babies can be triggering, let alone holding them when it's all you want. It's normally family members who say things like that to me, like my MIL.

It's really positive you have an appointment in 2 weeks. 🙏🏻 Hoping that brings insight!

We started TTC in March but no luck so far. The first month we tried without any ovulation tests, no luck second month we tried clear blue the purple ones and again no luck. This month I started natural cycles and using 2 clear blue ovulation tests the pink and the purple, probably not the best idea as I’m now frustrated as the purple clear blue had 3 days of flashing smiley faces and today a solid one and I’ve been getting the ‘feels’ of ovulation but not as much CM and but the pink clear blue is showing as negative, even today. Has anyone had this with these tests?

i Am conscious of causing myself stress and affecting ovulation but unsure how anyone TTC is not supposed to get stressed tbh!

any feedback or advice would be appreciated!

Hi ladies 👋

Joining as we’re planning to start trying from June.

Age 35
TTC No.2
Starting Jun 23
I want to:

• lose a bit of weight. It took us 15 months to conceive our DD so not holding out for a quick conception so figured I could get myself into better shape in the mean time!
• finish off all the rooms in our house. We bought a new house when I was pregnant with my DD (almost 2 years ago) and still don’t have it sorted. We haven’t changed a single light fitting yet haha!

Good luck to everyone ❤looking forward to reading all about your journeys x

Hey @cats1990 I know how stressful it all is. It took me 8 months to conceive my first. The best advice I can give you is not to test. Just have sex every other day or every third day throughout most of the cycle. We started doing this just before we conceived (a few years ago). I ovulate early/have a short cycle, so we do it every other day between day 5 and day 20, just to be safe. Its not popular advice as everyone likes the chance to control conception with the sticks (me too!) But it's much more relaxing and fun not to panic and just have sex!

Trying very hard not to symptom spot. on cd23 today (cycles usually 22-24 days) and had the tiniest bit of spotting last night.

My three year old has told me twice there’s a baby in my tummy 🤦‍♀️

@WolfMother326 i second this! DS was conceived on month 1 from DTD once because my partner was away but with DD we did the every 2/3 days. I have short cycles too and we start roughly day 6.

I did a bit of tracking this to try and work out what was going on with my cycles but have given up now. It wasn’t for pinpointing when to try though. I was just a bit concerned by my cycles. Going for the every 2/3 days again

We tried to go the natural way the first month but without going into detail, it didn’t work for me and turned out to be a bit too much 🤦🏻‍♀️. I’ve been using the clear blue sticks but I don’t trust the pink ones, as they don’t seem accurate.

Annoyingly the other two times (one did not take) I fell pregnant was on the first time of having little sex so having the delay now is making it a lot more frustrating. I believe I may be ovulating currently so here’s hoping for this month but I think I may take a break from the tests soon if it doesn’t happen within the next few months.

it’s so stressful isn’t it!

Had a phone call from gp surgery asking me to make a routine appt to discuss my blood results. Bloods were done tuesday, there’s obviously something not right in them but because it’s not urgent I need to wait until June 9th

@cats1990 it is so stressful! I had to give up on OPK’s cause for me they weren’t worth the anxiety.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you

@xTinkerbell i am going to do that next month I think. I started natural cycles this month to eventually stop the OPKS but I’m not sold on it, the temperature monitoring is a nightmare.

my husband is so chilled about it all and I wish I had that attitude but I’m too impatient!

@cats1990 i hated tempting too! I found it was making me really stressed

@xTinkerbell i’m finding that to. It’s not confirmed I’ve ovulated and I thinking maybe it’s best to stop and not find out. I feel like it’s making my sleep worse, I usually sleep through the night and now I’m waking at 2am and having to take it.

@cats1990 that sounds exactly how I was and even when it was confirmed i started wondering if the app had it wrong and I’d wake up in the morning anxious about what my temp would be. I’ve realised I find it easier not knowing now.

@xTinkerbell i feel like I am talking to myself as that’s exactly how I feel every morning. Looking at the graph wondering if it’s wrong. It’s so annoying isn’t it. Especially when you read reviews on OPKS and natural cycles saying ‘I fell pregnant as soon as I used these’ and then you don’t

CD25 today. If i get through today with no period this will be my longest cycle since November

@cats1990 i’m sorry just noticed that comment. You definitely sound so like me! I think I realised that for me even if I had blazing positive opk’s and a chart that coincided i’d still doubt it so I just stopped trying to figure it out

i’m shook!

@xTinkerbell amazing!! Your 3 year old must be psychic!

@whippeywhippet I can’t believe he called it. Hadn’t even entered my mind when he said it. then the next day I had spotting and wondered but kept telling myself no way

@xTinkerbell Wow, congratulations!! 😍 Kids and animals can sense these things 😅 🥰