Please Help 2 potential fathers

[jemnea93]

Please dont judge me i have judged myself enough this is tearing me apart and would absolutely break my partners heart who is so excited for the baby i have all my dates in a timeline for you if anyone can advise me in anyway here goes.. basically first day of LMP was 6th nov normal 28 day cycle - conception calculator tells me i would of ovulated on the 20th nov
Had private scan on 24th dec putting me at 6week 5days - conception calculator tells me from these dates i concieved on the 22nd nov
Had nhs scan 12th jan putting me at 9week 5days - conception calculator tells me from these dates i concieved on the 19th nov

I only had sex with my partner once in that time frame which was bang on the 20th of nov so all dates add up but before that on the 15th nov i made a huge mistake and had unprotected sex with another man and i have heard sperm can stay inside a woman for a week which would mean that the other man could potentially be my babies father ??

Please can anybody help me im going out of my mind please

You say you'll be able to tell by skin colour when baby is born but I have an Indian friend with a white husband and her child is very white with fair hair.

The only way you'll be able to know is with a dna test.

I'd definitely tell your partner. If not for the doubting paternity then to get him checked for STDs as his health could have been put at risk.

Just read you've already been checked for STIs so ignore that last bit.

@jemnea93 please don’t beat yourself up over and over for this. Humans make mistakes and I can guarantee it’s one you won’t make again as this is very much a lesson learnt situation.

Given the dates I’d lean more towards it being your partners tbh. Yes sperm can live up to 5 days, but it’s less likely that it all survived that long. Especially if you didn’t have ewcm at the time.
That said, until babys born and you have a dna test, your not going to know for certain.

You do need to talk to your partner though as having this hanging over you would be horrific. As would your partner finding out at the birth.

This thread sounds fake

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