TTC after MC - May 2020 Part 2

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Hey ladies,
Just doing a new thread as we are about to max out on the other one.

@SmileyT
@Mommybear05
@Sallyjo27
@HE88
@Ejb86
@Hayleylou89
@Renna
@Dipsy77
@mumoftwobeauts

Will keep tagging if anyone is initally not on this. Xx

Hi, to anyone else who would like to join. 👋👋
I am on Cycle 2 TTC and on CD15 following SMEP plan this month, tracking BBT and using OPKs xx

That's so strange hun @Hayleylou89 I dont use that app I use femometer . Could you maybe download another app to put all the info in and see what I says if you're worried about it. I think I've read that you can ovulate up to 36 hours after you first see your peak isnt it ? So I'd think that would be the max it would be ... which wouldnt be Friday...would be like Thursday the latest but your temps looks like the dip is when you ovulated to me ... unless it thinks that dip is an odd temperature and its using one of the other lower temps... ? I wouldnt worry though babe . It seems wrong and you DTD around your peak xxxxx

@Doughnut100 Small size is arriving today and DP has pointed out that I can keep the large for after I have a baby and need the bigger size so all good 😂 I actually had a similar thought but @Hayleylou89 explanation makes sense. But as @Renna said I do think the good sperm are good at getting where they need to be and most will probs hit the cervix and try swimming up anyway 👌🏾

@Hayleylou89 that is so confusing with NC moving ovulation date especially with a positive lh test surely that is right - think it's because when NC is looking for a cover line it's coming later but that may just been because of a couple odd temps 🤔

Hope everyone is feeling good today... I've just done week 1 fertility meditation and ready to get out of bed and get on with the day. Sending positive vibes out to you all 😘😘

@Hayleylou89 it did the same for me this month - said I ovulated on Friday the day before I started my LH surge/got my peak - which is impossible. I read that nc doesn’t actually take the lh into account for the algorithm! You can’t ovulate before an lh surge though - as you need the lh to rise to get the brain to send the message, so if you got your peak yesterday, your ovulating around today-ish :) xx

@Hayleylou89 ah, your explanation makes perfect sense. I had never actually looked properly at how you use them. 🤦‍♀️ I started using NC, then switched to fertility friend because of exactly this stuff - NC's algorithm is really weird and changes after the fact. It was predicting my ovulation all over the place whereas fertility friend shows that it's fairly consistent. Makes me really worried for the people using NC as contraception. Renna's suggesting of putting your info into another app is good I reckon.

@Renna let's hope this is your cycle so you don't need to find out!

@Hayleylou89 I really am not sure about the charting but, when I was logging my tests on NC it said it doesn't use them in their algorithm 🤔. So, it might be where it has detected a further rise in BBT over the coverline it has put it forwards to there xx

@SmileyT hah that's a good point with the larger cup 😂 ugh I'm so torn whether I want to try one next month if I have no luck this cycle. Part of me is like nah I dont need it and it may stress me out if I dont get hang of it .. but other part of me is like if I'm not lucky this cycle I'm gonna start getting to the point I just wanna try everything that might help. Probs best I wait and see how I feel IF after AF shows , be nice to just not have to make that decision 🤞 😌🙏🌈
Is it possible to practice with it before hand ? Maybe with a bit of lube to help me ... ? Haah
Aw you're so good with the mediation ..! Do you manage it every day ? I need to do it more I've been slacking , I WFH but do flexi time so I have no schedule really ... so end up just getting up and starting work when I should sort a schedule for myself and include meditation in it !
I had such a restless night last night though got barely any sleep and was broken sleep and woke up in the middle of the night literally sweating! So weird xx
How are you feeling @smileyt? When does your fertile window begin again? 😊sending those positive vibes back to you xxx

Interesting what people say about the NC app ! I've never used It only used femometer which deffo uses the OPKs as part of its algorithm as it does the intelligent recognition for you and I have the BBT for it via bluetooth so it's all like automatically done and reads it all for you together. Not that i done BBT this month but last month theh deffo synced together xx @Hayleylou89 maybe use another app alongside NC xxx but you got your peak and you DTD so that's the main thing you're covered 😘🌈

@Bellabubble @Renna @VP91

Its annoying isnt it!! ... think ill change to femometer app but then it will take a while to get used to my strange cycles ... how stupid that it doesnt take into account the fact iv said i got a positive ovulation test?? Is fermomter app free as i pay for nc app 🙄... I think it saying i ovulated on wednesday was wrong as i had all the pains on the tuesday following a peak on monday but this morning my temp jumped a bit and it changed it to friday... i was like 😏😏 also do u have to use the femomtre sticks or can u use the ic's with the app? X

Ps: anyone still feeling their cervix ... inside my V walls feel all spongy is this a thing?? Its getting me excited as they have been like this for a few days now i can hardly feel my cervix cos its like a bouncy castle inside 😂😂

@Rennathe ferti lily is fab u cnt even feel a thing and u dnt need lube to put it in ... is that what u talking about? Xx

@Hayleylou89 I dont pay for the femometer app but you can upgrade it and pay for it to like analyse everything for you but I've never done this.
I use the femometer cheaply opks but I'm pretty sure I've seen people using other ones that are green and using the app so I think you can xx download the free version and have a play around . You can upload old pics of your IC if you have pics or screen shots of them and you can try ? Xx
I think it also may let you put in previous readings so if you're not lucky this month you could spend some time inputting your data so it knows your cycles better xxx

Hha I do feel my cervix now and again but dont really know what I'm looking for and why am bothering tbh as it just feels different all the time and I see no pattern 😂 Sometomes it feels spongy all in there sometimes it feels harder. I got excited like few days before AF last month as everything went proper spongey but obvs meant nothing to me . My cervix doesnt seem to follow the norm of what they say it should do ... so not a good indicator for me 😂
🤞 it's a good sign for you 🤞🌈🤞 you're now like 6dpo arent you ? Xxx

@Hayleylou89 well I was thinking as I'm not sure I'm gonna be great at putting it in ... as I struggle with tampons without applicators.. if I'm not lucky this month and I get a cup I may try practice when it arrives so I'll probs need a bit of lube when I'm practicing I guess? 😂 as I imagine its easier to put in when you're all wet after DTD .. 😁 x

@Renna I know i defo get prematurely excited over whats probably nothing but i did have this spongy feeling in my last pregnancy early on too but it did it last month for a day or so then changes to normal thickness again so not to get too excited.

Yeah 6 dpo today ... what about u? Xx you will be testing this week wont u xx Id say for me testing thursday with a cheapy is probably going to happen 😂 xx

@Hayleylou89 I didnt do any of these things when I got pg before which is probably a good thing or I'd deffo be the same lol like oo I felt that in my last pg .. I've been symptom spotting and all that a lot less this cycle and feel much better mentally this month and it's gone so much quicker. Last month I was going mad and the days dragged.

AF will be due around Thursday based on last months cycle or Friday based on cycles before that . So earliest I'd test is Friday or saturday if AF not arrived xxxxx hehe fingers crossed for your testing this week 🤞🤞 have a good feeling for you xxx

Hi everyone. Sorry for dipping in and out of these threads. I try and cut myself off from everything during the ttw to try and stop getting really stressed - plus work has been really busy (A&E). But it is so reassuring to read your posts when I get a spare minute.

So my af was due either last Saturday or this coming Wednesday - two different apps saying different things and my MC changed my cycle timings so I really have no idea when it is/was due. I was certain that I wouldn't test until the end of the week but I gave in this morning and it has come back as a very faint positive.

I now wish I hadn't done the test as I'm so anxious. I wish I had waited a few more days and got a stronger positive.
All I wanted was to see a positive test and part of me is excited - the other part is terrified 😬

Hey hun @quail15 I remember you from other thread :) amazing news on faint positive xx congratulations 🌈😘 I know you're still anxious but if theres a faint line there and AF is still not here even after potentially being due Saturday then these are really good signs xxx 🤞🌈 keep us updated on the stronger positive as I'm sure itll be there in a couple days ! Xxx

Hey @Quail15 congrats! I hope it keeps getting stronger fro you ❤

Sadly I havent anything v exciting to say for myself right now as I'm firmly in the tww!

Congrats @Quail15 Hopefully you'll get a stronger line as the days progress. I know what you mean about the excitement/ fear. After losing a baby in March this year I'll be exactly the same. Sending hugs and baby dust xxx try to enjoy it xxx

@Renna thank you 🙂 I really hope it is the start of something but it is so faint. I will take a clearblue test tomorrow and see if that has a stronger result.

To be honest I really wasn't expecting to get a positive so soon (just 2 months after MC) my DD took 4 years of fertility treatment with no sign of a natural bfp in that time. So after my surprise bfp and MC I was convinced it would be a lot longer.

Thank you for all your support.🤞 for everyone on this thread X x

Aw amazing @quail15 deffo a line there ! Tbh If you had a FRER I think youd get a stronger line as those cheapies arent very sensitive .. ! Not sure how much more sensitive the CBs are ? Deffo congratulations in order xxx and wow that is amazing getting BFP again so quickly after your attempts with your first xx well deserved for you 🌈😘 xxx
Do you think you were a bit more chilled with it because you kinda thought It'd would take a while again ?
Also please do tell us what you used and didnt use ... opks temping lubes vitamins?? so we can all take some hope or tips from you lol xxxxx

Hi all!
I posted a few times on the last thread. My last cycle was my first after the miscarriage, spotting started on CD43 with proper period flow a couple of days later.
According to tracking with ovulation strips and taking bbt (possibly not accurate due to awful insomnia) the spotting started on 10dpo.
Does anyone know if it mean I didn’t actually ovulate if my period started so soon after ovulation? Or is this just my body not quite back to normal after my miscarriage?
This month was 6 months since we began trying and I know it’s a small amount of time in the grand scheme of things but I’m feeling so disheartened by it all right now so the ovulation sticks, pregnancy tests and thermometer have been put away and the tracking apps deleted. I feel torn between knowing that it’s the right decision for my mental health to relax after all we’ve been through but also can’t shake the feeling of what if this month is our month but we didn’t do it at the right time? My partner is in agreement that I could do with a more relaxed approach for a little while but ultimately is as eager to make a baby as I am and is completely supportive of whichever option we go for.
I don’t know just hopeful that someone can say they took a month or two off from actively trying and felt better for it?

Thanks for reading.
Hope everyone is well x

@Quail15 that looks like a strong line for a IC! Congratulations!! that’s amazing after trying for so long before xx

@Renna ... i got my dh to pop it in first time as wrong as that sounds its not that much different from things u do anyway 🤦🏽‍♀️ so if he doesnt feel too uncomfortable doing it the ask him its honestly tiny the fert lily and so flexible xx

@ttcin2020 hi hun xx I'm not too sure about the ovulation question but with regards to taking a break from it all.. im on my 2nd cycle since MC (3rd if you count the few weeks after MC but I dont think I ovulated as got no peak ) and last month I did opks and temping and checking my cervix and symptom spotting and I felt a bit crazy especially in TWW. This cycle I decided because of that I wont temp and I'll come on mumsnet less ( although I have still be on here every few days) and I decided not to temp. The main thing I wanted to keep was doing the opks so I know when I've got my peak so I have an idea I've covered the fertile period, and I deffo feel better mentally this cycle cutting some things out.
It's so hard feeling conflicted between the 2 but deffo think taking a step back and trying to relax can only be a good thing if you're finding yourself stressed or upset from it xxx everyones different though and should do what feels right for you and if you're DTD regularly then all the rest doesn't matter really as you can still get pg :) xxx

@Hayleylou89 this is very true haha .. it's nothing compared to some of the naughty things we do sometimes tbf .. so he can get over it if he thinks it's weird 😂 xx 😂😂