May Bus

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Hey All

Welcome to the May Bus!

This is our second month of trying.

Good luck to everyone.

@dizzypixie I also watched a few other chats so it's nice to be able to join in on this one!
It's so hard not to symptom watch and google etc. It really is surreal when you can finally say you are now TTC!! I'm excited to see some BFP in this chat as time goes on!! Fingers crossed for everyone

I completely agree @dizzypixie I had that last month, every symptom could have been pregnancy or af! So annoying!

Ah thanks guys, it’s nice to know I’m not the only one fooled by AF!
Gearing up for fertile week now, exciting times! Who else is with me?

Thank you @SarahTTCx 😃 good luck to you too! Hopefully we will all get our BFP soon xx

@Missgoldilocks Ahh I've got 8 and 7yo nephews (my brothers OH really didn't fancy going back to work in between 😂) and they are what I'm missing most in lockdown, they literally have my heart. I accidentally got pregnant in Jan this year but sadly had a MMC so this is my first full cycle after that, getting pregnant really had me planning out the next 10yrs so I'm so desperate now. I know it hasn't been long at all TTC but already over the whole waiting process 🙈. Have you got any tips that you've learnt through your journey that you want to pass on to an impatient newbie like me? How are you feeling today? Keeping busy during this TWW?

@Noble89 ahh that sounds like a hard few months with the molar pg, I MC in March and was so desperate to try again straight away. I'm 31 trying for #1 and CD2 of first full cycle expecting ovulation around the 3rd and to be testing around the 20th, we can keep each other company in the TWW.

@dizzypixie I totally get this with symptom spotting I never thought I'd be one of these neurotic women but turns out I am 💁🏾‍♀️ before AF started yesterday I had a really strong opk and massive spike in RHR on Fitbit and for about 12hrs convinced myself I was definitely pg, but alas woke up to be proven wrong.

Good luck for this month everybody xx

@SmileyT thank you. Yeah it was really awful I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. A miscarriage is hard enough and I was comforting myself by saying it's ok we can try again straight away and then that got taken away and I went from googling baby names and products to the side effects of chemotherapy...not a good time at all!

That's awesome were right on the same timeline. So yes let's definitely keep each other company. Have you done the sperm meets egg plan? That's how I got PG last time literally the first month doing it so will be following that again xxx

@MrsEmilyB we just went for some pre-conception vitamins for him and some coq10, we'll see how we get on this month and then spend some more money we aren't spending on anything else next month if it doesn't help. Will definitely check out that YouTube... thanks x

@Noble89 yes DP was reading about SMEP so we're going for it, starting the sexy time with purpose on the 26th 😬 I got a bit confused about the 3 times after peak but I'm going to follow it to the letter.

I'm honestly so sorry for what you've been through really hoping you get your BFP this month 🤞

Can I ask what is SMEP? I've seen quite a few people mentioning it but I have no clue what it is?

@Noble89 - I'm so sorry. That sounds so tough. I'm due to ovulate around the 6th (currently on CD 2 like SmileyT) so will also be your 2WW friend! I'm also 30 hoping for #1.

@SmileyT - what's the sperm meets egg plan???

@dizzypixie - hi lovely! Welcome 😊

Symptom wise don't look too much into it... with DS1 I didn't find out until I was 7 weeks and had 0 symptoms throughout. Hoping the next o we the same as I hate being sick 🙈

@dizzypixie I'm in fertile week now 😬

Hi @MrsEmilyB, great to have another TWW buddy.

My partner and I started trying in June last year. We were tracking ovulation but no luck with conceiving in June or July. I saw about SMEP on a forum somewhere and decided to give it a try in August and boom, BFP.

So SMEP is basically timing intercourse to give you the best chance to conceive. You have sex every other day starting on the 8th day of your cycle counting the first day of your period as day 1. You should track ovulation and when you get a positive OPK you have sex 3 days on a row. You then miss a day then have sex once more. The timing is all based on how long sperm lives.

@Noble89 That's a good thing to try I hadnt heard of it. I'm not tracking ovulation using tests just apps, which I know isnt 100% but it's our first month TTC so were just DTD every 2nd day but if dont get a BFP this month then I am gonna track my ovulation & give SMEP a try ☺

@KRK05 hopefully you'll get lucky first time but if not definitely give SMEP a try. I used clear blue digital ovulation kits last time so will do the same again. They're the easiest to read but expensive so I figured I'll use them for 3 cycles to get an accurate track of my cycles and ovulation and if I'm not pregnant by cycle 3 I'll go onto internet opks which are less pricey. Good luck for this cycle! What day are you on? Xx

What's TWW? I'm so bad at these haha Xz

@Noble89 That's the one I looked at, looked the most simplest especially for me who has never tracked ovulation so I have no clue when I ovulate atall 🤦🏼‍♀️ I'm on CD11 so far, my AF due May 7th. What about u? According to my apps im due to ovulate Wednesday/Thursday but this is my fertile week xx

@babyG123 Two week wait I think? But I'm a newbie hahaha

@babyG123 - it's the 2 week wait between ovulation and aunt Flo being predicted to arrive or finding out you're pregnant 😊

@Noble89 - ah I see! Can you have sex more often if you want?? Or is it every other day for a reason? I read on the blog of a fertility homeopath that every day is better if you can!

Might be handy but here's the acronyms list to help with working out what some shorted words mean on here www.mumsnet.com/info/acronyms I have it saved on my homescreen as I still get confused now haha Not all of them are on there though! x

@MrsEmilyB I don't think having sex more often is an issue (as long as there is no sperm count/ motility issues) most things I've read online has implied a lot of women/ men struggle with the amount of sex they need to have. Me and OH definitely do not have that problem yet 🙈 @Noble89 please let me know if that is completely wrong. So glad we have a little support group now 🥰

Thanks ladies, I did the journey from 8w pregnant to now with a group like this with my 14m old and still don't get them. DS1 is as far as I go lol.

We went onto do a FB group in the end but know ladies and babies names and have a baby Sunday pic session and stuff.

Really is nice 🥰 👶🏼

@SmileyT 😂 he's at a great age I can't believe I'm ready to do it all over again but I really am! Well, best I can say is have sex every day that you see fertile mucus, especially the last day you get it. If you have regular cycles just get to know them for a while to make sure you definitely know when you're ovulating, I think temping is really good for that but once you get your temp rise you've already ovulated so I'd use opks at the same time till you're comfortable with when you ovulate. Try to keep sex entertaining and not feeling like a means to an end 😩 its pretty easy for it to get like that! Take vitamins like zinc cq10 vit d folate etc all cycle long and take primrose oil pills 3000 mg before ovulation and stop at ovulation (it helps with fertile mucus) x

@dizzypixie coming up for my fertile week to! Fingers crossed lots of baby dust our way!

@1izzie good luck!!! And have fun

According to my tracking app I’m super early in my fertile week, but I had a sharp stabbing pain in my left side late last night, like I sometimes get for ovulation. So I made my OH jump on me just to be safe! He did not need asking twice, lol...