TTC after miscarriage - April 2020 part 2

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I've created us all another thread as we filled the last one!

@mommybear05 I had no idea how long I'd feed for. I never thought I'm definitely going to bf, once he was born though, all I wanted was to get bf right. Every time he woke in the hospital i buzzed for the midwives to check we had got the latch right.

He's already asked more today than he did yesterday and has been difficult to distract!

I’m coming towards the end of my TWW - AF could potentially be tomorrow (since using natural cycles I have had 27 and 29 Day cycles (and a 31 day after mc) But I’m wondering whether it is better to wait the extra few days to be sure I’m not on a 31days cycle still? It’s hard to know what to do lol - I think mentally I’m happier waiting and possibly getting AF than seeing a bfn - also - I only have a cheapy test! I ordered a clearblue one when I ordered stuff from superdrug, but it ended up being refunded to me as they were out of stock lol! I’m wondering whether amazon would be a good bet for ordering a test?

@Renna thank you I hope it's right and not a dodgy one or something ! X

Will test again tomorrow x

Thanks @Hayleylou89 😊I did a FRER a couple of days ago and I'm sure there was a little squinter of a line (a v v v faint one!) I'm really tempted to test again but I'm going to avoid it until my period is due 🙈
Who'd have thought ttc would be so hard! I want to be one of those women who don't know they are pregnant until a baby pops out and avoid the anxiety of it all! 😂
I'm just trying to catch up a little with everyone's messages - I hope you all get your BFPs ❤

@Hayleylou89 just back ache and slight cramping on and off so I thought AF must be on the way . I felt a bit nauseous this morning which is why I tested as wasn't going to bother .

I'm just praying it's right today is going to be a long day !!

Xx

@JenThommo ahh did u did u take a pic of ur squinter... if so try and post it if u can and we will have a nosey xx iv got a wierd obsession for line spotting haha hence why i poas everyday almost haha x really hope its already a bfp for u x

@Donnat89 yeah same as me thats alls iv had really mild back ache and pinch pains and this morning was like a stitch type pain on my left side but AF usually feels more dull ache all over my lower tummy and i dnt feel that yet... hope she doesnt Suprise me 😒 have u got any more cheapies just to compare too with ur frer? Xx

@renna ur sooo patient im telling u! Haha x
I hope u do test soon iv got so much faith in ur bfp with ur fertile window tactics haha i just think ull have nailed it, iv vowed today im going the shops for loads of fruit and veg i need to be good and stop picking at junk food especially if im not getting excercise in, i at least need to eat well so im going to make nice homemade tomotoe soup for dinner 😛 x

Less than half an hour after my last post and I have spotting 🙄 so thinking AF is on her way - although that makes this a 24day cycle - which is unheard of for me! 🤞🏻 My cycles get more predictable soon! I’m definitely holding out for some BFP messages in here soon xx

@Hayleylou89 yes I'm the same I should have cramps by now but nothing like I usually get , it's a hard one as my body likes
To change things up now and again

Yes I have I dipped one and was BFN . So that isn't helping me feel too optimistic but as I said I know a few that have shown BFN for weeks in cheapys and confirmed BFP on others so it's a difficult one . They work I'm sure I'm just not convinced they are as sensitive as they claim .

Xxxx

@Hayleylou89 okay I'm obvs not that patient ... just used my first IC and got a BFN ..thought I had to do something because I couldnt switch off from thinking about it . Hopefully will make me stop over thinking a bit 🙄 just need to think like you now that theres still a chance as only 10dpo. .. I was tempted to use a frer but today is literally just about 6 days before AF due. So I'll wait to use them . Xx

@Hayleylou89 @Donnat89 the instructions on my cheapies say to use on day of missed period so guess they're not as sensitive xx

@Renna defo still too early ! I have my fingers crossed for you xxx

@Renna what ones are they ? X

@Donnat89 Congratulations! X

Hi all, apologies about barging in on the thread - just didn't think this would warrant a new thread and thought you'd all understand/be able to give some advice?

I had my D&C 7 weeks ago on March 3rd and I've patiently been waiting AF to return and nothing yet, I've had x2 negative tests so know HCG from miscarriage has now gone.
I am desperate to start TTC again and wanted to wait for my first cycle but I'm just getting to the point of not wanting to wait anymore. But don't really know how to 'try' without being able to track ovulation, TWW etc

So any advice/experiences of trying without AF returning would be helpful, thanks x

@Donnat89 the ones that came with my femometer ovulation test cheapies in the same pack. Xx

@temogemo sorry for your loss xxx I had ERPC on 2nd march . SorryAF showed that is frustrating but is good you got the negative results so you know theres no retained tissue .. I'd say maybe use an app to predict when you af should have been based on surgery being cd 1. And then what cd you would be on now if AF did show .. so you have a bit of an idea .. I have a 28 day cycle and my af came 30th march so yours may be similar. And my next af due Sunday. And I'd say maybe start doing opks every day and look out for a peak so you then know you have ovulated and then you can have an idea of what your cycle is xxx I have seen some people can take 8 weeks to get af so hopefully shell come in the Next week and you can start a fresh but deffo worth doing the opks in case your cycle completely changed xxx

@Renna I couldn't tell you about them as I really do not know , I would suspect they are not very sensitive though if they say from day period is due xxxx

@Renna .... ahh u caved still very early as u know tho.. dnt feel bad we all do it 🙈....what ones did u use? Mine say they are 10miu and frer are about 6miu xx

@Hayleylou89 Yeah I felt like I had to do something as I was just over thinking, feel a bit calmer I guess but still gutting seeing a BFN.

I use the femometer ones which came with a box of my ovulation cheapie opks - Ive just checked the instructions it says 25IU/ml .. I don't even know what that means?

Just having one of those days where I feel down and rubbish and thinking about what should have been :( xx

@Renna I had one of those days recently and they are horrid , 25miu is clear blue standard so shouldn't be used for early testing if that helps

It's still early for you so still a chance x

Thanks @donnat89 just had a little google what mIU/ml means in tests and I think I get it now. So probably wasn't much help using that cheapie at 10dpo. So need to keep positive for remaining TWW not look into it too much xx

@Bellabubble superdrug did the same thing with me 3 weeks ago when I wanted to test for a -ve after my MC - amazon has been my go to since. Slightly cheaper, £10.40 for the double pack weeks indicator rather than £13.99 (which makes a difference when you order obsessively hides eyes )

Spotting may not necessarily be a bad thing unless you’ve had them before. I’ve been spotting on/off for the last week and still no sign of AF. According to my app, AF is due today (CD26) and that’s unheard of for me too. She’s always come CD28 or CD29 xx

@Renna I’ve also caved and ordered some internet cheapies for the first time ever - should be arriving tomorrow so will test then. They’re supposedly highly sensitive and can be used 6 days before missed AF - they’re 10mIU/ml so will see. I think mIU/ml is more sensitive than IU/ml xx

@Donnat89 congrats hun! I’ve read that getting a false positive is rare so stay positive! Have everything crossed for you xxxx

@Renna 10DPO is really early , so don't loose hope yet and get some tests with lower miu

@Niisa thanks hun I really hope it's not a trick !

Xxx