TTC after miscarriage - April 2020 part 2

[Ejb86]

I've created us all another thread as we filled the last one!

@mommybear05 I had no idea how long I'd feed for. I never thought I'm definitely going to bf, once he was born though, all I wanted was to get bf right. Every time he woke in the hospital i buzzed for the midwives to check we had got the latch right.

He's already asked more today than he did yesterday and has been difficult to distract!

@francis05 and @Hayleylou89 you are not out until AF arrives, I know it's hard to stay positive sometimes but feel like you have to hold onto that hope and then if AF does appear you can just reset and start again.

@Ejb86 ahh it's the best time when you get your peak, yep just DTD tonight and it means he has extra time to get those great swimmers straight to the egg 👌🏾

@Renna I always say you need to have a balance in a relationship, I'll discuss the options for hours and DP will just come home, weigh them up and make a decision, some people would hate it but works for us. Also love that your OH did your nails, I tried that once but pretty sure he wasn't keen so just did a terrible job 😂 Yeah I keep thinking somebody has to get a BFP on this thread, it'd actually make my day when we get it, especially knowing what everyone has been through it'll just be that little bit more special.

Have you started doing anything different with temping? I feel like it's a great tool if you crack it but I just wake up at different times everyday 🙄 it's definitely a good sign if it stays high all through the week 🤞

@Ejb86 so good to see that peak isnt it 👏🏻 see u in the tww xx

Thanks @SmileyT ... I know we got to have hope 🙏🙏

@francis05 when is AF due for u... are u using IC tests? Xx

@Hayleylou89 not sure when it's due, it's 4 weeks tomorrow since surgery so using that as a ball park figure. Yeah ic this morning, did use a frer in friday but bfn, don't really want to waste my last one yet.
Think the lines I had on the ic last week were evaps as look to be getting another one this morning x

Sorry @Hayleylou89 didnt see your message before I posted mine..sorry was a bfn but was an IC .. have you tried your frer yet or want to hold off using that ? X like we all say... AF still not arrived so still a chance despite how you're feeling 😘

And for you @francis05 shes still not here so that's a good sign 🤞 keeping fingers crossed xx

Excited for you getting your peak @Ejb86 and that you can relax knowing it has happened xx have fun with DTD 😁 deffo is the best part of the cycle, I feel like you feel most positive around that time because we are women after all and during this time we feel like we can be proactive doing something about it haha ...

@SmileyT not doing much different .. maybe just persistence ! Lol at the beginning when I just saw it jumping up and down around time of AF I was like what am I supposed to get from this ... but now having carried on and nearly done the whole cycle and looking at it as a whole I kinda see the pattern. Lower before ovulation . Hopefully the dip and rise was my ovulation. And now higher ... hopefully staying higher !! But we will see . I dont wake up same time either but read as long as its roughly a 2 hour window. I considered setting an alarm to do it but haven't done that yet. I think main thing it's good for is confirming ovulation because if I go months without a BFP and I dont see dips and rises I'd go seek medical help to confirm.if ovulating . Xx

@Ejb86 yay you have your peak! That’s great news! Enjoy 😉 xx

@Hayleylou89 aw I see what you mean with longer cycles. Waiting can be so frustrating too. But a long cycle is still a cycle so you still have your chances. I really hope you get a bfp this month x

So the plot thickens, I've just had another look at the test I did this morning, happened to press on the end that soaks up the urine and it seemed to allow more to soak up...now I can see a faint but definitely there pink line?! When I did the test I did think that it may not have soaked up properly but the contol line came up so thought all fine!! Ahhh not sure whether to do a frer or wait until the morning!

@francis05 yeah its hard after mc to know when itll come but hopefully it stays away yeah used ic and frer on friday and bfn and today just IC as i dnt want to waste another frer if i literally dnt see anything on a ic xx will use an frer thursday if AF doesnt arrive.. my app predicts itll arrive weds but that would be unusual as its usually today at cd 35 or cd 38 dead on xx both still in for now ... my cycle after my loss was on 1 day longer so it didnt throw me off too much what were urs pre mc? X

@Hayleylou89 I'm inclined to trust ic's as had my bfp on it in Jan but you never know if you have a bad batch.
Not sure about my cycles pre mc, came off the pill in Sept 19 but didn't get af between then and getting my positive beginning of Jan. Hoping the mc will have reset my cycles. Didn't have a clue that I ovulated over xmas but must be a good sign that we caught the egg despite relaxing and not really 'trying'

My opk is alot darker today too, not quite as dark as the control line but definitely dhe darkest it has ever been.

@francis05 ahh you are definitely still in it if the IC showed a pink line but I'd never trust it after the timeframe for certain. You are still only 28days post MC so I'd probably wait until Wednesday or Thursday before checking again because you'll still be super early and don't want to waste your last FRER. No idea what hormones the opks pick up but I know they can pick up hcg, mine was dark post MC when hcg still in my system but also was dark the day before AF for me. Have you had any other symptoms? Feeling confident?

@SmileyT ah that's annoying about it being dark a day before af, I was feeling midly confident until you mentioned that 🙈 got tingly and itchy nipples this morning, cp was quite high first thing too.
How are you feeling? X

@francis05 Mine was strong when I had hcg in my system aswell so definitely a good sign I think seen as AF hasn't arrived, sorry didn't mean it can't be a good thing was just saying I don't always understand them 🙈 I'm feeling okay just focussed on getting AF out of the way and really attacking this month. Please stay positive I'd love to see a +ve for you in a couple days x

@SmileyT thank you, going to have a day of testing tomorrow then maybe try a frer on Wednesday 🤞

Ahh @francis05 put a little pic up of ur test 🙏 hope its a positive for u... my cp is so high i cnt even feel it and its squishy inside im not even get a faint line on the ic's so there is defo hope for
U xxx

@Renna not going to try frer unless i see a faint ic 🙈 i know frer's are more sensitive but still dnt want to waste them xxx my cp is so high today that i cnt even feel it but dnt know if that means anything really xx

@renna how r u feeling? Xx

@Hayleylou89 my phone doesn't let me upload photos 😔 my cp was also really high that I couldn't touch it first thing but has dropped slightly since. Also had bleeding gums this morning... @Hayleylou89 was it you that had bleeding gums last week? Have you had any other symptoms?
It's annoying that the test line came up after the 10 mins otherwise I would definitely believe it x

Hello ladies! I hope you’re all well! I’ve been wondering where you all disappeared to - I’ve not been receiving email notifications rolls eyes

But I’ve caught up and FC for all you who have not yet received your BFPs! I’m currently on CD25 post MC and AF is due tomorrow according to my app. Not sure tho because my cycles are pre-MC were very regular and were usually 28/29 days - so tomorrow would be too soon.

@francis05 really praying you get your BFP xx

@francis05 yeah it was me with the bleeding gums and its not happened since either...so strange!

Im not feeling much really just the odd little pokey stabby pain left side low down, my nipples are looking quite big compared to what they normally look like but i dnt really know of theyve changed from the pregnancy xx this week needs to hurry up and fly by 🙄 l!!

i think ur tingly nipples are a good sign iv heard loads of Ppl get bfp after that as a symptom 🙏 such a shame u cant upload pics have u tried doing it via the app or the web page instead (whatever one are u using) try and upload using the alternative x

@Hayleylou89 feeling hot flustered fat and headachey. Had like sharp stabbing pain in my head earlier and now like constant headache.. and couple odd niggly pains in lower stomach..
BUUUT as we know could be anything !? could be the skype conference calls this afternoon haha... zzZZ.
With AF due Sunday I wouldn't normally get any AF symptoms until literally like the day before .. I don't get AF symptoms long before its due so anything now is either making me think they are positive signs or just coincidences. Deffo feeling impatient wanting this week to hurry up now.
Even though I said I wont check CP any more... that lasted like a day … checked it earlier and mine is high too … but again who knows what that means .. so dunno why I bothered hah.
Im feeling positive for you .. I think you may be surprised - just because its happened differently before … AF still no show and you've had some good signs … XX positive vibes !

@Niisa fingers crossed for you xx will you test or just wait to see if AF shows ? xx

@Renna I’ll wait until the 28th then test as my period USUALLY comes on the 27th - but not sure what my cycle is gonna be like now. Even my MC started on 27th March so maybe my body will stick to that date lol

@Renna i feel so big you know, my bingo wings are growing im so used to going the gym like 5 / 6 times a week and iv piled the weight on since the baby...i lost it all soon as i had it with the stresses of everything it fell off me but now its just piling on ... and as im not exercising hardly iv got muffin tops, big boobs that im not used too and bingo wings 🙈😂... Keep saying ill be pregnant soon so who cares but what if im dont and just get fat for no reason 🤦🏽‍♀️ ... if AF arrives im going on outside jogs and eating so well before next cycle x x

@Niisa waiting out this long ass week with me then 🤣🙄 dragging already lol .. I am getting fed up with thinking about it all too much now though.. feel like need to switch my brain off but it's on over drive 😴 probably why I've had a banging head ache today xx hope af stays away for u xx

@Hayleylou89 omg I feel the same . I usually go to the gym 4 / 5 times a week. Trying to work out at home isnt the same and I hate running and I tried starting few weeks ago and it brought on spotting just before AF and made me crampy so made me worry it affects things so I was like nope not gonna be doing running lol. Not felt myself since before being pregnant either. And just feel extra fat today 🙄😓 x x
How you feeling ? Any suggestions af coming or the bloating etc gone now ? Xx