TTC after miscarriage - April 2020 part 2

[Ejb86]

I've created us all another thread as we filled the last one!

@mommybear05 I had no idea how long I'd feed for. I never thought I'm definitely going to bf, once he was born though, all I wanted was to get bf right. Every time he woke in the hospital i buzzed for the midwives to check we had got the latch right.

He's already asked more today than he did yesterday and has been difficult to distract!

Thanks 🙏 @Mommybear05

@dinosaur17 I'm going to have to get you to look at my tests if I do any early, I can never see the lines. But it's a good sign there is one right? As I've read it's very rare to have false positives. Have you ordered more to test in a few days? xx

@Sallyjo27 definitely not your fault, my Dr told me there was absolutely no reason to wait to ttc again (apart from dating) as all the medical evidence says that your body is actually more prepared for a pregnancy after a MC, historically they used to tell women to wait 6 months but most don't anymore. I've never been told I've had a CP but everything I've read has said that most women wouldn't know unless they are TTC and test early and would just think their AF was a bit late. Please don't blame yourself, I really hope you can take some time to yourself and process what has happened then just start trying when you are ready again. Sending you lots of love and virtual hugs xx

@Mommybear05 it is so interesting isn't it? You just don't know. When we conceived my daughter we weren't actively trying and we had only had sex that month just after my period a couple of times because it was a busy month and got pregnant. Then with the MC we only had sex once that month a couple of days after my period and that was it found out I was pregnant. Now I'm here googling everything I feel. Definitely need to stop that.

@SmileyT haha sticky bean, such a funny phrase. I hope so too. Wish I had access to blood tests on tap so we could get quick answers!!

@SmileyT Of course! Spend enough time staring at them! I’ve got some cheapies coming on Friday. Have had cramp and backache all day today so sure AF is going to show her face! X

@Mommybear05 oh how exciting! What kind of style are you doing the new kitchen? I love kitchens haha So Dh and I are in the process of opening up a few pet related businesses, working from home at the moment so it's keeping me busy. I'm trying to track using BBt (not working out too great for me right now), I tried using OPKs but I still have a bit of hcg left in my system so opks are unreliable right now unfortunately. I did track my cm, did see lots of fertile cm las week so dh and I made sure to dtd, but I don't know even know if I actually ovulated so I'm not too convinced that I'll get a bfp this month. I'm not too stressed to dtd, especially since I saw the weird cm yesterday. It was thick stringy cm with white bits in it 😳 looked like little bits of wet toilet paper (tmi sorry!)

@Renna I'm sorry that you didn't have any follow up checkups, it seems a lot of ladies on here were not offered that! Hope you are feeling okay now though😊 aah, glad to know that the discharge is probably normal! Phew! When I saw it yesterday I was like, oh my gosh, can I just get a break already?! As for the Cm, I've noticed that I've definitely dried up quite a bit since Sunday, but have no idea if I even ovulated. I'm obsessed with checking cm so I notice any small changes. I probably shouldn't be checking that much but I can't help it haha 😂

@rainbowhope11 I get that type of cm too I just assumed it's normal. How many dpo are you? X

@HE88 I wish I knew! I have no idea for sure, but considering my ewcm stopped on Saturday/Sunday, maybe 4dpo? Oh that's good, glad to hear that it's normal 😊 that's a relief

@rainbowhope11 ah ok keeping my fingers crossed for you 😊 x

@HE88 thank you so much 😊 if I don't get lucky this month, I'm happy to just see AF so I know that things are getting back to normal

@HE88 forgot to ask, when in your cycle do you usually get that type of cm that I mentioned?

@rainbowhope11 usually after ovulation and before my period I've noticed it. X

@Dipsy77 I have the basic femometer app used it couple months before conceived before MC but not properly really. But used it the last month since MC actually using it more such as using the cheapies and BBT and think it's actually quite good . It told me this today on the app.. see attached about ovulation and the intelligent recognition for the cheapies is good. So even the basic app is really good . Do you know what else the premium offers ?
I'm not even very good at BBT as I dont temp at regular times really as waking up at different times. X

@Renna it says it analyses the data and advises when best to DTD and will tell you if you have any abnormalities and score your CM and how many times you DTD, I suppose you can do that yourself but it says the premium does all that for you, as I'm currently up through the night with a 7 month old my Temping isn't that accurate I tend to do it around 9.30 when she is asleep on me it's impossible any other time as she is either crying for a bottle or moaning because her dummy has popped out I don't ever wake naturally to take my temp xx

@Dipsy77 oo interesting. When I've tracked the days we DTD on the app it did give me like a score /percentage I guess of likelihood of conceiving. But I see what you mean about the analysis on the app. If I'm not lucky this month or after couple months I'd maybe upgrade it. But yeah interesting to know if any one finds it helps using the premium ? Xx I see theres an option to do it for one month , could maybe try it see if it feel like it helps ? X x

So I was stupid this morning and did a cb digital... Got a bfn!! So gutted and its put me in the worse mood for the rest os the day. Surely if I was it would have been positive by now.
Maybe symptoms on Tues were ovulation? Grrrr

@francis05 if ur only at the least dpo u could be as u said u didnt know yest it could be 10-14dpo so u could only be around 11 dpo today then it still could be early especially for a digital xx ur not out until AF arrives! Im 6 dpo today but not feeling much so far to be honest, not holding out much hope for myself, my temps rising slowly but last time my temps were sky high in the tww xx

@VP91x completely agree x

@Rainbowhope11 well we can’t afford a brand new kitchen so we are taking off all cupboard doors and priming and sanding and painting and changing all the handles. We’ve knocked all the tiles off the walls and dads coming to retile and change the laminate worktops. Then we’re replacing the sink and tap so that should freshen it up until we can afford to get it ripped out. We want to knock into the dining room and open up the space so ££££ and we will make do for now! Having real domestics about the colours though!
Anybody else feel like they’re channelling all their ttc frustrations towards a project?
Wow I’d never be brave enough to set up business for myself that sounds really interesting.

Could the white in cm actually be toilet tissue that got stuck? Yes I felt like I wasn’t ovulating before first cycle post mc too. Just dtd and you can’t do anymore. Yes the hcg will mess about with the opk results. What sticks are you using? Are you keeping any sort of record on them? X

@francis05 aw sorry about your bfn! Big hugs. But I’m hoping that you just tested too early. You’re not out just yet. Are you doing anything nice today to take your mind off things/ lift your mood? X

@mommybear05 almost every room is partially decorated I've also started the Organised Mum Mehod and I'm cleaning up a storm. Think the cleaning is easing my anxiety around the situation and giving me a focus, rather than being sat around with my lb. Hubby has started calling the lawn his baby, he's been busy working on the garden.

@dinosaur17 ah that test is now hard to see! When will you buy more tests? X

@Ejb86 just googled the organised mom method. Must try that! Anything is a welcome distraction! X

Morning all,

AF has turned up to ruin my party, as expected. So that’s me out! Keeping my hopes up for the rest of you guys for a BFP! X

Ah @dinosaur17 I'm sorry that AF has shown up 😔 sending you a big hug xxx

Thank you @VP91x I’m glad the not knowing is over, I was driving myself mad! Gutted but feeling positive for next month x