TTC First Baby Massive Thread.

[Delilah7]

Hope all my lovely ladies have found this group can't tag you all as there is too many!! ❤️

@sunshine1987 @FlapJackered same here, super depressing. I'd rather just have AF too than be stuck in limbo 😩 I have a feeling this is just a cycle problem - last cycle was 24 days for no reason, I can just see my body going back to how it was last year (two week cycle, and then a 40 day cycle) happened for months 😭 I'll join you on the gin 😩

@Delilah7 oh god 🙄 just focus on yourself, let them grow up when they're ready to 😂😂 yeah I can imagine, what CD are you now? X

@cupcakesandglitter CD26 xx

@Delilah7 only a couple of days to wait 😊 x

Okay so my noonie is super heavy and I've got some tummy cramping. Convinced I'm going to start today (I actually hope so) xx

@cupcakesandglitter that's if she goes back regular 😂😂 xx

😂 @Delilah7 stay positive madam!!!! Xx

@cupcakesandglitter trying ❤️❤️

Hi everyone I don't know own how to @babysquid , I haven't been deployed for a while now but usually it doesn't interfere with AF even when I do just my bowel (tmi) lol . @sunshine1987 i have been using the opk advanced digital since June and usually have one peak but yeah you may be right although September I had the two . My body is being so out of whack since August hopefully the nurse will out an end to my worry . And my pad is still fully dry so again not usual for me . I hope everyone is well and will get some answers as well . Thanks so much for the support feel like I'm going crazy xx

@ronetta28 let us know how you get on. Must be so frustrating not knowing, if nothing else the doctors can do bloods and work out if you are pregnant and just not picking it up on tests at the moment x

@Sunshine1987 yes it's been a stressful couple of months and expensive I'm so tired of it honestly. What about you how are you ( sorry I can't see previous pages my phone plays up) . Only another 3 and a half hours to my appointment I really wish I was pregnant and I think I'm in severe denial as well but my body is not being normal at all .

@Ronetta28 usually the reason for the second peak is not ovulating after the first, basically not having an egg that was mature enough. That's why temping helps, it let's you know if you actually ovulated.

@FlapJackered I'm sorry for your bfn. It's not too tough until AF shows up.

@cupcakesandglitter are you taking folic acid? I think my body is now set on 24 day cycles and probably due to me taking it. Someone also mentioned B6.

@Delilah7 people can be cruel sometimes. Maybe do something nice for your parents to make them feel better since you can't talk to your brother?

@KatBeCool I took folic acid a few times last month but I read it could mess up cycles so I didn't take any this cycle just in case!

I text DH because I was CONVINCED AF started and I felt it. Accepted I'd come on, got really sad, went to check and nothing but a creamy blob. Fab.

@KatBeCool are you going to carry on taking it? Xx

Just had my day 21 bloods back and all is fine! This has made me feel slightly better after my bfn. But why isn't it happening if there is nothing wrong?!?
AF not arrived yet but bad pms. DH has just had a wisdom tooth pulled out and is speaking in a stupid voice because he had anaesthetic and it is driving me CRAZY I just want to shout at him to shut up! Definitely hormonal! Poor DH! 😂

@FlapJackered 😂😂😂 I'm glad all is okay though xx

@katbecool yeah that is a good shout so I'm hoping I ovulated later anyway and maybe had some luck but I'm not so hopeful as I tested for ovulation in September and got a peak, if I was pregnant it would have gave me another peak . Yes I've only started temping this month I wish I had know about temping when we started to have a clearer picture 🤦

@cupcakesandglitter I'm going to keep taking it. It's now been a third cycle at 24 days, I don't expect it to change. Every Dr I've ever mentioned to that I'm TTC has immediately said that taking prenatal vitamins and mainly folic acid is very important and need to start taking it well before getting pregnant since you want it already in your body for when you do get pregnant.

I hereby announce i am starting a party on the day of bfn/af - it involves Gin/Wine or any chosen beverage and chocolate/crisps or any suitably fattening food. This party shall henceforth be named 'The pity party' and everyone on bfn/af day is invited.
That is all.
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@KatBeCool yeah might have to xx

@KatBeCool yeah that's the advice I've had too 😩 but I get really anxious about the 24 day cycle when I ovulate around CD17/18 so it's not leaving enough time I think 😩 who knows x

@FlapJackered no doubt I'll be joining soon, sounds fab!!

I've been obsessing reading through Dr Google on other threads, because I keep feeling like I've started but it just happens to be blobs of creamy Cm. Also I've broken out reaaaaally badly on my face (way more than usual) and keep getting twinges in my ovaries? Wtf is actually going on 😩

@FlapJackered yes! Sign me up for chocolate and pastries! And tea...

@cupcakesandglitter your luteal phase does not change or get shorter, so you'll ovulate sooner. I ovulate on CD14 and still have ten days of luteal phase left and that's never changed from when my period was longer after coming off BC. I had a 34-day period, ovulated on CD24. So whatever your luteal phase is, it'll remain the same.

Hi Girls, I'm so glad to find this thread. My partner and I have decided to keep all this to ourselves until we fall pregnant so it helps to have people to talk to.

Stats
Age: 32
TTC # 1
Cycle #1
12dpo
Same sex, had x1 sperm donation 14/09

Any other same sex couples here or single women using donors?

@flapjackered promise me not to test til AF is due next time, you were so strong saying how you prefer AF to BFN, we led you astray on here - we shall be stronger next time!!
Also, not out till she comes! I totally get how you feel though, but at our age the chance is 15% each cycle so it's that whole "it could take over a year even if you're fine " thing, it's so annoying!

@cupcakesandglitter @katbecool folic acid is the only supplement that is recommended by the NHS preconception as it's clinically proven to reduce the risk of certain defects in the baby. I don't know if it affects regularity or anything, so unless there's anything to suggest it messes up your cycle and that's a bigger worry than reducing the risk of the defects then i would carry on taking it, just my thoughts though as it's personal to everyone, plus they do say it's fine to start taking it once you get your BFP xx

@delilah7 aw it's awful when families fight, sometimes they can't appreciate what they've got can they?

@dosmamas welcome :-) good luck! One of my best friends is in a same sex relationship and they are doing the same, using a sperm donor and self inseminating (don't know if that's the correct term!) She doesn't talk much about it but I may know a bit more about it than others on here.

@cupcakesandglitter how long is your luteal phase? I ovulate on cd17 or 18, and have a 25 or 26 day cycle. I've read loads of horror stories about short luteal phases but also lots of positive stories about Getting Bfps even with a 6 or 7 day luteal phase xxx

@flapjackered I will join your party although AF is a while away for me yet! I could have only ovulated today so i need hope!! Lol. I did have a gin yesterday, but I'm feeling it's coming more into wine season now:-)

@Crossfitgirl yes we are in the in between Gin and wine season, maybe it's gin AND wine season 😁
Yes not a fan of the bfn's definitely waiting next time.
I think I am doubly sad because it's my six month ttc anniversary. 👎🏻

@flapjackered aww well have some nice gin AND wine. It's 5 months for me, as we started at the beginning of May, but still relatively early for both of us in the TTC timescale. It WILL happen for us you've just got to believe it! I'm glad your tests came back ok at least :-) 🍾