TTC First Baby Massive Thread.

[Delilah7]

Hope all my lovely ladies have found this group can't tag you all as there is too many!! ❤️

@Dosmamas welcome! When I put my back out DH and I used syringes. Back to 'traditional' methods now.

Cycle 3. Day 8. Low fertility on CB monitor, but hoping for high in coming days.

Will start temping tomorrow, but sleep poorly so not sure of the merits.

Honestly ladies I can't take it anymore 😭😭 I just don't know what to do with this family situation. My mums just broken down to me and it's breaking my heart. I'm under so much stress. With family, Dads health, Grandads health and wanting a baby. I just feel I'm about to breakdown. And I haven't done that in years. 😭😭😭😭

@Delilah7 easier said than done, and I've said it to you a million times: go easy on yourself. Cry and rant as required. None of this is fair. Mind yourself. X

Ahh thank you @Crossfitgirl, we are on cycle one, we tested on Sunday and got negative with FRER, my partner who is the one carrying wants to wait until AF day has gone and past before testing again. This thread is so helpful, we need to be so precise with ovulation as our donor has to meet us with the goods and depending on his schedule can only give us one donation. so we are going to start temping. We are currently just using OPKs and CB fertility sticks (and a few fertility crystals lol)

@cupcakesandglitter @sunshine1987 I think we are on the same test day!!? We are due AF on Thursday.

@ValidUser I do listen I promise. It's just so so hard. I'm struggling so much. Just wish there was a positive somewhere. I guess af turning up soon could be to know I'm regular... I've defo got cramps. X

Delilah you've had a crap time. I'm a believer in calling a spade a spade.

Grieve. Cry. Positive is great, but forcing positivity is like trying to force sleep. Or a fart (usually a shit if forced!).

Time is a bastard (but also a friend). You don't need to be happy with any of this. X

@Delilah7 not to invalidate what you are feeling, do you normally feel really stressed and overwhelmed when you are due on? I do, it's horrendous. I have split up three times with my partner when I am PMS, I feel hopeless like nothing will ever be okay again. Do you have strong supports round you? You need to share this stress.

@ValidUser if I force a fart I would probably shart 😂😂😂thank you Hun. Means a lot. X

@dosmummas hi. no, not really. I've had a miscarriage last month and a lot happen this month so it's not to do with af. Thank you though. I've got my mum and dad and OH. A few friends. And my Mumsnet gang so I'm all ok on support x

@dosmummas pms does the same thing to me, actually!

@dosmummas welcome to our crazy club ladies, wishing you lots of luck x

@dosmummas btw I didn't say welcome!! :) sorry xx

Sending hugs Delilah7. Families are hard. Don't beat yourself up. Is there anything you could plan maybe, like a little something to look forward to, to break up the stress? Even just a day out with your other half or a meet up with friends? Sometimes having little nice bits on the calendar helps me if it all starts feeling like a grind xxx

@delilah you and hubbie need to get away for a weekend, turn your phone off, ride him and don’t leave the bed. Properly relax, even a nice spa. Spend some time just you two 💜

@FivexFive probably. OH goes away from Friday to Sunday so I'm gonna miss him. Having dinner with friends Friday. Thanks for your support. I'm so moany at the moment haha xx

@sunshine1987 think you're right there it's just all about house stuff at the moment too 😂😂

@Crossfitgirl no idea how long my luteal phase is, as I couldn't pinpoint ov last cycle I don't think! Also I know about the folic acid 😩 my anxiety is through the roof right now

@dosmummas welcome, I was due on Monday Hun - I'm now CD33 xx

@Delilah7 oh sweet, please remember to look after yourself, your mental health is so important right now xxx

Thanks @Delilah7 for the thread and welcome. So happy to have found such a supportive group of people to chat, worry and have a giggle with.

@cupcakesandglitter fingers crossed for you xo

@ValidUser it's the worst, I've had enough of this, honestly my mood takes such a nosedive I have done the most embarrassing emotional crap when I am PMS, it's so not fair on my partner. I started my period today and I feel instantly better. Periods have a lot to answer for honestly. What do you do to manage PMS?

@Crossfitgirl your friends who used a sperm donor, have they had success yet?

@sunshine1987 will you be testing on Thursday?

Welcome @dosmummas 😊

@Delilah7 sorry you’re having family stress. Can you take your parents out somewhere nice this weekend to take all your minds off things?

I’m back in the uk after my trip and not enjoying the cold, I’d got used to being warm again!
I think I’m around 2dpo, based on cramps and sore boobs. Didn’t bring opks away with me so can’t pinpoint it exactly. So on to the tww!

Thank you! @stormtrooperjulian

@dosmummas I tested yesterday and was a BFN (I’m a fruit loop and should have waited). I’m coming on now though so I’m out.

I have friends that used a sperm donor too, they have a 1 year old boy. The IUI worked first time for them x

@dosmummas @dosmamas are you both on here or are you just using 2 different usernames? Lol!

No, my friend has only tried it once so far as it's so expensive, and as with most of us on here it didn't happen first time.

I'm not sure where they get the donor from, whether it's an agency / company but they pick their donor from stats (can choose similar traits to themselves I think like hair colour, ethnicity etc) then the sample is posted to them frozen in dry ice. They used 3 samples for their first cycle, and are now saving to try again but I think they will just use one each cycle and maybe try time it around ovulation.

Are you using a similar thing?

Sorry it's quite personal but you'll soon find out we share FAR too much on here!

I'm also just genuinely interested, as my friend although open when asked, very much keeps it on the quiet and I think she and her wife have agreed not to really talk about it to people, to take the pressure off xx

In other news, despite 2 days of pretty strong positive OPKs Sunday and Monday, the clear blue was still a flashing smiley this morning!

Is it possible for the clearblue to miss it, even with strong positives on the others?

If it's not solid smiley by tomorrow I may stop testing, as the second line has now nearly gone completely on the OPKs. Thought I'd keep testing both just to see.

Might scrap the clear blue ones next month. Too expensive to be missing my surge!! Had 10 days now of flashing smileys... I'm pretty sure it's lying to me.

Also just read back and realised I missed a few posts for me a while back (well like yesterday) sorry! Just too many to keep track sometimes x

@Crossfitgirl lol I made two accounts! This explains so much, my original account kept saying I hadn't verified it and wouldn't let me post so I created a new one, but got completely confused about the whole thing. Had no idea I was posting on two accounts, my iPad must be the other account name.

My DP and I know our donor, he is very old friend of my partners, we were originally going to use Cryos (Viking babies) same as your friend. We still might to be honest, our donor lives about an hour away and it's a hassle getting to him.

@Delilah7 it'll pass, keep being strong. Try to remind yourself that this is temporary and good things will come your way, including the baby. You're capable of getting pregnant, that's great and super important, you're already ahead. Stockpile that chocolate!

@Crossfitgirl do you test twice a day? Also, if you missed it, it'll switch from blinking High to the sad Low pretty quickly, within a day or day and a half.