September bfp bus

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Here is hoping for big fat positives all round

Things didn't go to plan though MrsGsnow as when it can to DTD he couldn't perform. I guess the pressure of it all got to him, it went very awkward.

It hasn't been mentioned this morning.

I feel gutted. Part of me wants to do another OPK because if it's still positive I know we could perhaps have another shot at it tonight (if he can) but on the other hand if I take one and it comes back negative I will feel so sad that the chance has been missed

Oh writer both good and bad news. Perhaps it would be best/compromise if you aim to DTD 2/3 times a week regardless of fertile week, that way he won't know that's it's the prime time and to him at least will appear spontaneous in your FW. I have to say my husband is putting up with me only seeming keen when it's the prime time and every month I promise myself I won't be like it and then life gets in the way. 12 months is a good amount of time to ttc aswell so I'm sure it will happen for you. Hopefully you will have a BFP soon.

Vox - welcome, and don't worry about the long posts. Always good to read people's stories :) I can't imagine now hard it must be trying to fit it all in around you DHs shifts, but try to relax and take every month as it comes. What cycle day are you at the moment?

Writer - congrats about your DH, 12 months is plenty of time for #2. Try another opk today, sometimes I a couple if I'm lucky. Not sure how long the window is but guess it differs from woman to woman.

mrsG test date will be around 14th Sept. No I'm going to carry on with EPO but I'll stop the raspberry leaf tea on ov day. I think it's already making a difference.
writer great news about DH and you got the + yesterday so will ov in next 24-48 hours so it's worth DTD tonight anyway right? He's agreed to try for 12 months so plenty of other Windows to come if you miss this one
vox welcome

OPK this morning is darker than yesterday's.

He's away in Octover over my FW so I'm not going to include that month in my designated 12 months. If he can't perform tonight and this month is a write off then I'm going to discount this month in the 12 months too If I'm only allowed 12 months of TTC then that means to me I get 12 months where conception is actually a possibility

I got my first positive opk yesterday! Line was really dark but has gotten lighter again today so I'm pretty pleased with that. I'm pretty sure I was only on cd12 though, so plenty earlier than I was expecting.

Writer I'm so pleased that there's been progress for you!

Welcome Vox!

Ooh we're prob going to be testing very close together Eva
I'll be stopping tea too and the Angus Castus once Ov.

Rubyflamingo hooray!! I remember the feeling I had when I first got a positive OPK!! I rushed DH into the bathroom to show him the smiley face!

writer glad you got an even darker line!!
I have to admit I've stopped telling DH when it's FW. He was suffering from a by of performance anxiety I think. I've been trying to keep up with everyday! When he was away for work I told him to make sure he ( this is way TMI and I'm trying to word politely) relieved himself as I had read that sperm building up is old/dead sperm and no good!

That should be every other day!* I don't think I'd be up for everyday for a whole month

Even every other day sounds too exhausting to me....

DH has promised me some action tonight so fingers crossed we've not missed our chance this month.

Oh writer that's fabulous news!! So happy for you.

That's my fertile week over.. Only managed to dtd three times. Let the 2WW commence!

My cystitis is pretty much gone do me and OH are back on SMEP today. :D only missed a day and haven't had a positive opk yet.

I did an OPK an hour ago and the test line is barely visible now.

Me and DH are watching a film and I'm trying to think of ways to lure him into the bedroom! Things feel a bit awkward after his failure to perform last night and I don't want him feeling pressured and then the same thing happening tonight too...

Thanks for the welcome. I'm currently CD19 (I think - sorry on holiday and too many cocktails). This week has been my fertile week and we've DTD every day pretty much. DP has surprised me as he's usually so unromantic so I was dreading the whole sex for TTC thing but he thinks it's the most romantic thing ever I think! I am worried though as I think if it doesn't work this month with loads of sex and is being relaxed what hope do we have. I know I probably should have given up drinking but it's my only vice (I'm not usually a heavy drinker just a glass of wine with dinner at weekends) but I don't want to make this the soul focus of life in case it doesn't happen. AF due 3rd Sept ish (I'm guessing it will be late just to add to the stress). Am excited but terrified at the same time as know this is our best chance - 2 weeks in the same time zone!

I meant to add that I'm not using OPKs or tracking temp as I wanted to be as relaxed as possible due to DP's shifts. I hadn't downloaded apps or anything. Well, turns out my body has other ideas and I get ovulation pain for about a week. I had a trabsvaginal scan which confirmed ovulation and I then downloaded an app and my pains for exactly with the proposed fertile window. I'm not sure if this is a blessing or a curse! DP has enjoyed sex everyday on holiday as he thinks sex for a baby is great (wasn't expecting that one!) and not sure whether to let on that sex for the next week won't have much effect as I'm quite enjoying it!

Vox - I know how frustrating it is when you feel like you've done everything you can and still don't conceive. But even if you hit the right window with sex you still only have about a 25% chance of fertilising the egg. So if this cycle fails don't give up hope. I know alcohol is your saving grace and you're on holiday but you may want to cut back a little bit as it will lessen your chances. I'm not teetotal but just finding I actually don't want to drink it anymore given the choice because of the cutting back.

Writer - so how did it go? ;)

I had the colposcopy today...The Mirena coil is OUT! The cervix has been examined and biopsied (ouch!) and I've been reassured that although there are minor changes, these might be due to a local infection due to coil. Either way, I may not need treatment (just monitoring with frequent smears) and if I do, it's likely to be the least invasive method. DP and I even got to see my cervix on the screen! Very cool (just a little bit gross).

We have to wait up to 4 weeks for the biopsy results to come back but it looks like things are ok - certainly not the worse case scenario I was crying about yesterday! So not a definite answer but enough information to base decisions on perhaps - Sewing unless it's a definite all clear or urgent treatment, I don't think you get told on the day.

Obviously there are still some unknowns until we get the results but the plan is to DTD with intent and my FW is coming up... Very, very happy (if crampy) and glad to be able to stay on the bus with you guys! Hey Mimi are we still cycle buddies - CD2 here apparently so planning to test mid-Sept

I've considered cutting alcohol out completely but on an average week I still drink less than half the recommended maximum so I don't think it's a huge issue. If I was regularly getting drunk I would cut down. If things take longer I will speak to my doctor and see if I should cut it out completely as cutting down from what I normally drink is effectively being teetotal.

Yay! Glad to hear it bairns hopefully your biopsy comes back clear but certainly sounding positive!!

skipper - it went very well, he performed with no problems. I was planning on DTD again but I've only just got in from work (been out the house 14.5 hours) and I just feel too tired. Tonight would be the 5th night in a row and I just don't have the energy

Sounds positive bairns. Welcome vox. So happy things are going better for you writer.

I'm more confused than ever. According to ovia my fertile window finished on Saturday. Just did a opk and although it wasn't positive it's darker than Thursday and Saturday. I didn't test on Friday. What's going on!?

Writer - great, hopefully he's over his wobble now. It's probably because your talk was so fresh in his mind.

Lalaland - has your ovulation day ever been late before?

I did an opk today and there was only the faintest of lines. Ovulation day is meant to be tomorrow but I'm wondering if with the heat and humidity my cycles gone crazy. I am secretly hoping my ovulation day is Friday because then with the SMEP you have to DTD 3 consequtive days in a row and I'd rather be home for that. It's not something we'd usually do.

Ff has confirmed my ovulation on 3dpo it seems like a long time will the end of next week!!

Lala maybe your positive would have been in Friday. Mine seemed to be darker for a couple of days after.

I've never tested for ovulation before. This is my first cycle ttc so I really have no idea. I've kept notes of dates of my last periods and my cycles are between 31 - 33 days. I'm sure they were 28 up until my long haul honeymoon. I'll just keep an eye on that too. My af should be due between the 31st and the 4th.

Skipper I have so much admiration and respect for you going through this for a year. If I'm here this time next year I swear I will be posting from the asylum.

Lalaland - it's amazing how quickly a year passes when you are scrutinising 28 day cycles. I feel like I've wished away a whole year of my life. Keep testing with your OPKs for a few days to see if there is any change. Next cycle try not to miss a day, you can be guaranteed it's the one day you get a positive or something - I'm sure the same thing happened to me one cycle...still don't know what happened.