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TTC following an ectopic pregnancy

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PinkElephant · 01/01/2007 18:35

Hi, My DH and I have been TTC for the last 8 months and finally found out I was pregnant before christmas. Since then I have been in hospital and have been treated for an ectopic pregnancy. I was given a hefty dose of Methotrexate which has made me feel rotten and should induce a miscarriage soon. We can't start TTC for 3 months now which is really hard to take as it took us a while the first time - but everything will have to be on hold until the summer now. Has anyone experienced this?

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cedar12 · 20/02/2007 21:36

Fingercrossed then.

cedar12 · 20/02/2007 21:38

I meant fingerscrossed not finger sorry a bit tired.

SparklyGothKat · 20/02/2007 21:40

lol, I never get ovulation pain on my left side, but it was the left side this month, so fingers crossed that because the EP was on the right, everything will be ok

lissielou · 21/02/2007 16:27

well see consultant on the 21st of march, and dh is worried about his tests.... all that free sanctioned porn, must be so hard (excuse the pun) want to ttc asap tho really, dont want to build it up into a big deal iykwim

lissielou · 22/02/2007 08:21

hi, can anyone tell me how long after the ep i can expect af and how long it'll be til i stop looking so pg, my tummys still v swollen

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PinkElephant · 22/02/2007 08:26

Sparkly - My first AF was about 2wks late. Was getting so worried and desperate for my body to get back to normal

Cedar - Yes I'm still booked in for my HSG in March and hoping AF arrives on time otherwise I will have to cancel it. I've phoned up to get an appointment with the Consultant who apparently I have to see to get the results and before I can TTC again. I'm actually going to beg them to give me the results straight away - surely they can tell me something, I can't bare having to wait any longer than the 3 months....its torture!!!

Lissie - have you decided to wait or TTC again straight away?

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PinkElephant · 22/02/2007 08:28

Lissie - I found that as soon as my HCG's were back at zero so was my stomach. I got very bloated during the first 5-7wks of being pg. It may take a little longer for you as you've had major surgery from the sounds of it and there will be a lot of inflammation there.

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lissielou · 22/02/2007 08:29

i think so. we see the specialist on the 21st so the timing would be perfect. i just dont want to leave it too long iykwim

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PinkElephant · 22/02/2007 08:45

Lissie - are you going to hang on till the 21st then? It's a safe bet

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lissielou · 22/02/2007 08:50

i think so, just got the letter confirming the appt, luckily theyll do most of the tests the same day. ive already had high swabs and blood tests, so just got the REALLY invasive 1s to look forward too. and dh is worried about having a w*nk!!!

cedar12 · 22/02/2007 09:27

Lissie sounds like a good idea to wait until you see the consultant. It feels like everything takes forever dosent it.
My dh was in a strop for about 2 days before he had to do the w*nk test!
i got my letter about hsg yesterday I have got to phone them when I get my period. I had cramps all yesterday which thought meant it was on its way but nothing yet and it happened 4 weeks today. Maybe I was ovulating but it felt like cramps in the middle rather than either side. I thought I would probabley be late as hcg only went down to 13 last monday.
I found that the first first ectopic I had 2 years ago when I had surgery My stomache took at least 3-4 weeks am afraid to stop being so swollen.

lissielou · 23/02/2007 08:34

pants, just want this to be over iykwim. still at least my bladders in the right place now!

lissielou · 23/02/2007 08:35

poor cedar, what is a hsg?

SparklyGothKat · 23/02/2007 14:47

have just ordered 20 pregnancy tests from ebay, when can I test?? am 7 days past ovulation atm. nervous!!!

lissielou · 23/02/2007 23:04

10 dpo i think, good luck!

SparklyGothKat · 23/02/2007 23:11

so about monday..?? omg... What if its postive and I test that early, will the hospital take blood tests to check my HCG levels?

SparklyGothKat · 23/02/2007 23:13

oh yea, just remembered, looked at my profile. You will see a pic of my arm from when the nurse in A&E took blood when I had my EP and f*cked it up

lissielou · 24/02/2007 10:14

i would have thought so. the doc who removed my ep said that asap after bfp i should be referred to the epu for blods and scans.

right am 1dpo went to see gp yesterday and hes told me to wait 3-6m before ttc but the consultant said when i feel ready wtfs going on????!!!!!

golds · 24/02/2007 10:23

I was advised to wait 3 cycles, advised not told. BTW nothing has happened yet, I got a BFN last week so maybe to soon, oh I don't know

lissielou · 24/02/2007 10:31

oh golds. found out yesterday that a friend from my pnd group (who was due the same time as my 2nd mc) has had her lo, i saw her a week before my ep and told her our news. im so angry with myself for being so sad! when was your ep golds?

AitchTwoOh · 24/02/2007 10:39

lissie have you been to the ectopic pregnancy trust website? it's worth doing, they have good medical bods there who can answer your question. (although as it happens i know for a fact they would recommend a 3 month wait to ttc). so sorry about what happened. and believe me i've been there with the friends gettign pregnant and having babies. i used to feel that there shoudl be a queueing system, and just cos i'd got pushed out the queue i couldn't see why everyone was skipping in front... surely it was my turn next?

lissielou · 24/02/2007 10:42

i have aitch, im using the next few months to work out my cycle in more depth, tbh tho i dont seem to have any probs ttc its staying pg. im just worried about my sil having hers coz i cant avoid them.

AitchTwoOh · 24/02/2007 11:32

i have a friend with a similar problem... it's so unfair i can't even get my head round it. you know that izzie from the EPT had something astonishing like 10 pregnancies before her wee girl decided to stick around? she'd be very good for you to talk to, if you haven't already. i know this is ludicrous, but i decided (amongst the other supplements etc) that i wanted to take a low-dose aspirin as well. i checked with my dr first and he okayed it. in my stoopid brain i had decided that i must have sticky blood (why else all the heart attacks in my actually quite clean liveing family, my high BP and my two eps) so i took it to thin the blood and was pregnant for the first time with a uterine pg. i have NO IDEA if it helped but

AitchTwoOh · 24/02/2007 11:33

hah! dd deleted last line - i was just going to say i'm doing it next time i ttc, that's for sure.

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PinkElephant · 24/02/2007 16:58

Golds - sorry to hear about your BFN!! When you start TTC again I bet you expect it to happen immediatley. I'm so excited about starting to TTC in April and I'm really hoping it won't take another 8months of trying again
Lissie - Jeeeze ...your arm is a frigging mess - those nurses need re-training!!! HSG is the insertion of dye into your uterus and then an xray shows whether there is any blockages/damage to the fallopian tubes. I've had to book myself in for one of these in March, just hope my AF arrives on time otherwise I can't have it done. I was also told that if/when I get my next BFP to come in straight away for HCG monitoring and the scan will be early. Was also give a top tip by a friend in gynae - to monitor preganancy myself with preganancy test kits and watch the blue line, checking that it goes from dark to darker rather than getting paler etc as this is based on the Beta HCG's also

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